Thinking of trying online dating site…good idea?

Be careful.My Son met a lady his own age ( almost fifty) and things were marvellous in the beginning she was a very intelligent lady with a good job and they seemed suited, but it turned out to be she was very minipulating, and caused my Son a lot of stress, she also nestled in, for her to have 5% of a summer cottage on the west coast of Sweden, where we all live, in Sweden not in the cottage.Things didnt go well, after six months ,my Son had had enough of being told what to do etc.and they split up, she is now demanding money from a project they did together ie. built a little workshop in her garden for my Son to work, as he repairs boat engines etc. It all sounded really good but unfortunately didnt last.I am just saying there are all sorts of things you should consider before taking on anyone you dont know.Good Luck I hope you find the right person.

Do watch the bbc prog For Love or Money. There are a lot of scammers out there. Learn how to do reverse image checks on photographs as well. Oh and if it all looks too good to be true it probably is. Saying that I have a lovely friend who I met on a dating site. I doubt it will develop into a relationship but I enjoy his company....lovely walks and good conversation. Meet without expectation and you won't be disappointed.

Reader, I married him.
Kissed a few frogs on the way but 15 years on we're happily hitched for life.

If you avoid the money scammers you’ll be fine.
There’s just as many weirdos in pubs / clubs & anywhere else people meet.
It’s pretty much the way people meet these days ( especially the younger generation )

I met my husband in 1995, via a national dating group (pre-on line you joined a club). I met a few men, most of whom were older than myself. Some were genuinely nice men just not for me. Some were so off the wall that I saw them as caricatures, and then one, ten years older than myself, who made me laugh, made me feel special and who treated my children with kindness and respect.

That was 27 years ago, we are still together, and for the record he is MY carer not the other way around.

Give it a go is what I'd say, and take all the advice about places to meet etc that you are given. Am sorry, but in this day and age after all the stories about people being daft enough to send anyone money, it really beats me why anyone still does it.
After my divorce at 41, I met the love of my life at a Singles group i joined and we had a few very happy years together but in our separate homes. Sadly we broke up and i was devastated but a friend had just met her (now) husband on a dating site and i signed up to the same one. Think it was match.com but i don't even know if it still exists.
I only wanted to meet reasonably local men as was unable to embark on a long distance relationship. I met 2 guys who i had longish, 2/3 year relationships with but also dated one or 2 others briefly.
I felt I'd rather meet men in person sooner rather than later as anyone can type anything but hearing and meeting in person gives you more of a feel for someone.
A wee l;augh. One such guy sounded great but when we met, for coffee in a town centre to be sensible, he looked unkempt and brought his divorce papers to show me, then told me some story about his ex and teaspoons! After our meeting I told him (nicely) I wouldn't want to meet him again but he was very persistent with messages till I threatened to go to police. He stopped immediately.
I'm now married to my last online date. We dated for 3 years first.
As for posting photos, I didn't do it as i worked in a huge office of hundreds of employees and did not want to be recognized, but in my profile said i was happy to share photos later. So I wouldn't put too much stead on someone who doesn't post a Photo.
Give it a go, and good luck.

I think I must have been very lucky with internet dating as I met my 2nd husband through Match.com when I was 55 (he was 56) and I'm now nearly 71 (very happily married for over 13 years). He was the 3rd man I met in person, all of whom lived no more than about 20 miles from me. We both had adult children when we met and that has worked out fine. I contacted him first as, although I hadn't even seen a photo of him, I really liked what he wrote about himself which, luckily, was true.

Friends kids ( now 33 & 35 ) advertised her without informing the woman!! They even met fellers who sounded normal and told them the truth…that their mother wouldn’t touch internet dating sites but would like to meet a suitable partner sometime in the future. One man seemed ideal for their mum so they arranged for him to attend a village show to “innocently “ meet her.
That was in 2012 and she is now long happily re married. Internet dating good result? Well. Not exactly. The man had a rescue dogs like my friend, so the arrangement was that both dogs would enter the “Best Rescue Dog “ competition.
It turned out to be pure chaos. My friends elderly dog was attacked by another dog and the fight was broken up by a man who eventually married my friend and the e-mail contender ? Don’t know what happened to him but my friend still says people who do internet dating are daft. Her kids still haven’t told her about what they’d arranged and I doubt if they ever will

Please watch The Tinder Swindler. Not one to put you off but there are many sharks out there, Why not join a group like U3A where you might meet someone in person.

Great idea, I met a lot of nice men through dating sites when I was 50 but finally met my husband via a church speed dating event and we've been married 13 yrs now. Be cautious about your assets etc. but its so much better than pre-internet days when it was mostly down to chance

Go for it but be careful. My son met his wife on line, Whirlwind relationship, Married and one baby now and very happy. . I have tried it in the past, as did a friend of mine, we never met Mr. Right but had fun with a few Mr. Wrongs and I did meet one who was very nasty. But I do have stories to tell.
Never part with any money as some of these 'scams' are based in UK. Good luck.

A number of years ago I tried online dating. One man was really nice and chatty and we got on really well but that’s as far as it went. Next one again seemed lovely until I worked with a work colleague that we were both chatting to same man. Even our conversations with him were similar. ? Third one actually asked for date. I said yes. Never heard from him again. I gave up. I’m 65 now and too old. I go know people who have found partners and things have worked out really well for them. Good luck!

Remember that all the bad things that can happen, can also happen with a man you meet in real life too. If you meet someone in a bar or even a club/group, they can still lie about who they are. Just keeps your wits about you. You’ll be able to tell the ones who just want quick sex. They don’t hide it as there are plenty of women online who want the same. The thing you have to be careful of are the ones who love bomb women for weeks, even a couple of months, pretending to be successful/rich. Then they run into a ‘cash flow’ problem and ask for money from a woman who has grown to feel very fond of them. They have usually never met them in real life. If you get a hint of that, run far, run fast and block them on everything. I met my now husband online 14 years ago when I was 49. It was a lovely process and we’re very happy. I also know of several others who met their spouses online. Enjoy!

Omalinda 65 is not too old. You have probably around 20 years ahead of you and there are lots of over 60 year old men who are looking for a partner to have fun with.
Women are not the only ones who would like company for meals, entertainment, holidays etc.
Give it another go.

Thanks Esspee
I just might. It would be nice to have some male attention.

MawtheMerrier

Not sure why a 49-year old is asking this question on this site.
Approval from “oldest and wisers “ ?

It's perfectly possible to be a Gran at 49! And even if not, there's a lot of experience of all sorts among us so good for her!

There's a dating site called Bumble where the women are far more in charge of what's happening than how it works on Tinder.

Go for it. The site was 'Ourtime' for the over 50s and another close friend I know also met her forever partner. I married mine four weeks ago. Just have fun with it and stay safe.

Too Old???? never. I met my husband four and half years ago and we married four weeks ago age 71 and 75.

I know of three happy marriages which began via dating sites. Be cautious, but also be lighthearted - seems to be the their main advice. By lighthearted I think they mean be open to whoever you meet, and if it doesn't work, move on and cheerfully keep going.

I was a grandma at 42. Perhaps she is too

ShropshireMiss - give it a try - you have nothing to lose if you keep your head You can say exactly what you're looking for in a date/partner and it doesn't matter how long it takes before you find someone you're comfortable with - does it? My brother-in-law who had a very complicated life with three children to different mothers was very open and honest when he wanted to find a fulfilling relationship and he hit the jackpot - he and his wife of now many years are happy as can be. However, I know of younger people who've had poor experiences but that's a matter of maturity I think in terms of reading between the lines. You have a lot of life ahead of you so make it what you want. Good luck.

I met my partner 14 years ago through one of the online dating sites. I was 47, so was he, we had both come out of long term relationships and been cheated on by our ex's. Must admit I had a good feeling about him from the outset. However, prior to meeting him, I had met up with quite a few others, could write a book about some of them, but it's not too hard to distinguish those that are fibbers, players, married etc.. from the genuine. I also tried going to organised singles nights, again that was interesting but found I struggled being forthright with some desperate souls for whom the spark was never going to flicker but they just wouldn't take the hint. Try it, but don't rush into meeting up, chat first for a while, bear in mind that some profiles and photos may be exaggerated or not current, tell a friend where and when you are planning on meeting up, make sure it is a busy public place and it's good to always have an exit plan just in case...

I was a gran at 46!

I met a lovely guy on the Times site and we have been together for 3 1/2 years now… I also met some ok guys and a kinky millionaire… just go for it and you will know if you meet the guy for you… good luck