Ukrainian refugee and host running off together

Another sleazy story from that horrendous rag, the Sun! Saw it on the Apple News headlines and skimmed over it with a feeling of deja vu. There are bound to be some difficult if not downright risky situations in matching hosts with refugees; I presume it would be viewed as a given! Shame the government did not have an adequate policy with regards to Ukrainian refugees. But looking at the shambles they make of the constant refugee/immigrant crises generally, I guess we should have expected this present one to have its flaws.

I have looked on some of the Facebook sites where Ukrainians are requesting sponsors and many of the girls' photos are what I would call glamour shots. I do realise that people are entitled to show themselves as they choose, but whether it is the wisest way when you are a lone female asking for accommodation with unknown people in a foreign country is open to question

I don't subscribe to the theory that men are simple creatures and easily led astray. For goodness sake they are grown ups and as such responsible for their own actions. Its a sad state of affairs ( no pun intended ) when an attractive woman is not welcome in your home.

Agree with you Kate

Also she told him that his wife was very lucky to have him! Like so many men and women looking for a bit of excitement!

Feel very very sad for his poor partner! I’m not surprised though! Good looking woman comes in to household on all accounts his partner feeling threatened as this woman staying up late with him following him about cooking him meals! What could go wrong!

I read this morning that the wife did have reservations with opening their home to a refugee as their children had to give up their bedroom to be able to host someone.
Did the husband bully his wife into the decision, with every intention to start a relationship with the person he had been corresponding with ?
Nasty piece of work. He's allegedly moved himself and new girlfriend into his mother's house.

Dickens

Katie59

What was his wife thinking of, allowing a young woman into her house, men are so easily seduced, we all have sympathy with refugees, that was a disaster waiting to happen.

If a man is so immature that he can't control himself in the company of a young woman, well that's a sorry state of affairs.

And really, there are men who are not easily seduced. Some of them manage to admire an attractive woman without feeling the need to own them.

Hear, hear!
What a Victorian attitude - @Katie - but perhaps there are still Neanderthal men out there.

Oh, Esspee, I sort of know what Kate means.
It’s more that some men are rather simple creatures.
I don’t think that she actually meant that in this case Ms K. was the guilty partner

Katie59. Are you actually blaming the wife? She’s to blame as “men are so easily seduced”. Really?

On Mumsnet you would be flayed alive for victim blaming. I suggest you return to the 1950’s where you have clearly formed your attitudes.

“Men are so easily seduced” is another

Are people really so unsure of their husbands that they wouldn't trust them around a young woman? How did those who feel like that cope when your daughters had friends over?

Mr Dog has worked with women, been friends with women and spent time in the company of women (some of them no doubt very attractive) in all the 42 years we've been married, and it's never once been an issue. If I even thought he'd take advantage of a very young, vulnerable and probably traumatised refugee after 2 weeks in our house, I'd divorce him without a backward glance. Actually, I would never have married him in the first place.

Katie59

What was his wife thinking of, allowing a young woman into her house, men are so easily seduced, we all have sympathy with refugees, that was a disaster waiting to happen.

Either
A) the wife really loved and trusted her husband, and never dreamt that this would happen

Or

B) he coerced his wife into it. Possibly he abused her kindness and generosity

That’s what I think, anyway.
What a sad state of affairs

Esspee

Going by the photo on this thread she cannot be described as beautiful. I do wonder why, both of them having behaved so badly, they are willing to air their dirty laundry in public. It has to be for the money I suppose.

I think she looks haunted. This is down to him solely I would guess.

Katie59

What was his wife thinking of, allowing a young woman into her house, men are so easily seduced, we all have sympathy with refugees, that was a disaster waiting to happen.

If a man is so immature that he can't control himself in the company of a young woman, well that's a sorry state of affairs.

And really, there are men who are not easily seduced. Some of them manage to admire an attractive woman without feeling the need to own them.

Going by the photo on this thread she cannot be described as beautiful. I do wonder why, both of them having behaved so badly, they are willing to air their dirty laundry in public. It has to be for the money I suppose.

What was his wife thinking of, allowing a young woman into her house, men are so easily seduced, we all have sympathy with refugees, that was a disaster waiting to happen.

I hold the man responsible.
He has taken advantage of someone needing help, and used it to boost his own ego.
Hopefully, the woman will get stronger, and see him for what he is, and dump his sorry arse.

Whether she could say no or not rather depends on the question, doesn't it?

rafichagran

Doodledog

Yet it's the woman who gets the blame ?

They are both to blame, he is a Creep, and at 22 she is old enough to say no. He makes me sick, but not all men are faithless, and like him Thank God.
I think their are alot of genuine people who want to help, this guy is just revolting and he seems proud of himself.

is she able to say no? in another language and fleeing war?

Daisend1

Didn't take long did it and no doubt this could make some think twice?

I agree, I have to say I would not take anyone in, but I admire the people who genuinely want to help, not this vile man.

Didn't take long did it and no doubt this could make some think twice?

Doodledog

Yet it's the woman who gets the blame ?

They are both to blame, he is a Creep, and at 22 she is old enough to say no. He makes me sick, but not all men are faithless, and like him Thank God.
I think their are alot of genuine people who want to help, this guy is just revolting and he seems proud of himself.

stories are picked up from local news via news agencies.. everything isn't sold to the press...half of it wouldn't be interesting enough

I think this story was published because of it's rarity. Certainly the news of it has generated much interest.
The couple rent a house, so they perhaps have some room.
Why did they sponsor a single young woman?
Company for the woman? Child minder for their two?
Why not an older single woman, or with a child of her own?
The man found the national registry time consuming.
So he went on Face Book. Got to see the woman first himself.
Fancied what he saw? Maybe communicated with her?
This kind of story isn't the norm, and it most certainly sells.

This man sounds like the sort of men who hang around women when they see they are vulnerable - widows, the bereaved, the betrayed, or otherwise fragile.
Out they come from the woodwor hoping to capitalise on someone else's misery for their own ends.