I don’t know if any of you can relate but I’m still fuming when I think about this.
Having recently moved house, we’ve had occasion to have visits from a few salesmen and builders etc.
I’m noticing a recurring theme where the tradesman listens to my husband the whole time , responding to his questions and practically ignores anything I ask, entirely
.
A couple of weeks ago I arranged for a builder to come to quote and discuss a job. He was fully engaging with my husband.
I may have been a ghost as it’s like he wasn’t even seeing or hearing me.
He said perfunctory hello initially, but then I clearly vanished!
At one point I literally asked him a question and he ignored it and answered to my husband instead.
He spoke over me and on the one occasion he did respond it was to agree with my husbands preference.
It was really quite demeaning! I just went inside without saying anything and they didn’t even realise. Although after he left. my husband said
Where did you go to ?
Typically my husband said he didn’t notice anything.
Course he bloody didn’t ?
Anyway yesterday we went to a conservatory sales office and the sales guy in there did virtually the same thing.
My husband and I were discussing the size of the proposed conservatory. The only time he engaged with mr was on one occasion to say
That he agreed with my husbands preference rather than mine.
I’m a pretty laid back person but I was starting to. get a bit irritated by the end.
When the sales man said said I agree with your husband after actively ignoring me, i felt like telling him to get lost!
I’ve realised that when I was young and relatively attractive, I tended not to get completely ignored, not because they weren’t actually massigonist but just because they did at least want to engage me more because I was a younger woman.
Now I’m old AND a woman I am totally surplus to requirements if there’s a man there for them to talk to instead.
It doesn’t even occur to them that I might be the person paying for the work either lol!
Funnily enough, a lesbian couple we know said that in a car show room they visited the sales man was totally confused initially with them being both woman but then he quickly began speaking almost solely to the one of them with the buzz cut and more masculine attire lol ?
