Why report so much ?

Urmstongran

Galaxy that’s an astute observation. There are indeed many facets to people’s characters. Thank you for that post.
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Like the facets of a jewel, sparkling.

Yet sometimes a jewel has a small flaw inside.

Yet sometimes that flaw can look good from some angles.

Group hug anyone? ??

I know what you mean.

There's a poster I used to find terribly abrasive and troublemaking.

Then I realised, from a particular thread, that she's actually a terribly lonely woman. I find it easier to turn a blind eye to some of her behaviour now.

Galaxy that’s an astute observation. There are indeed many facets to people’s characters. Thank you for that post.
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I havent explained that well but I know what I mean.

Oh I loved Grange Hill.
I wonder if looking at different threads helps. I disagree with lots of things Urms says politically (sorry to single you out Urms) but I read the good morning threads (never post) and it shows a different view of people. There is another poster who I have 'clashed' with on a number of subjects but I have seen her give endless kind support on a support thread.

In my mind it was at times looking and sounding more like Grange Hill on a bad day.

And torches to read our books by! Or use them to make spooky shapes on the walls ?

Just don't ask me to play hockey or swim in an outdoor pool. I'm definitely a Gwendoline when it comes to that.

Ooh we could have midnight snacks and everything.

Galaxy

Are grown adults using the words tittle tattle?

I feel like I'm in the Upper Fourth at Maliry Towers

I never thought you did Iam64 ?
In fact I don’t think anyone did. No comment of mine was deleted. No warning given.

I’ve learnt a lot this past week.
I agree with GNHQ that they have the right to moderate as they see fit and I’m more than happy to comply with their guidelines.

It IS nice to be back! I’ve missed you ALL (in one way or another - even the N&P threads!)

Good to see you Urmstongran.

Are grown adults using the words tittle tattle?

Baggytrazzas

Hi, Callistemon21 I've had a trawl through several threads and can see that some people have a much more direct approach than others and indeed I have seen that some posts seem to be bordering on what some people might find to be a too aggressive tone. Including some on this thread. But of course I cannot see those that have been removed following reporting.......which would have been useful to see as examples of what is deemed to be unacceptable. To answer your question, if I saw anything that was truly awful then yes I would probably report it however I believe that the system needs to be reviewed and changed so that if a post is deemed to be unacceptable by GNHQ then action should be taken against the poster, but the offending post should remain visible as an example so that everyone can learn to improve over time. Maybe GN isn't actually suitable for everyone all of the time, just the same as sometimes we have face to face spats with our closest friends and families and we have to find a way of handling those too. We probably can't always walk away from close friends or family, but we all have the ability to walk away from GN even for a short period if we don't like the tone. It seems that we have several options available for dealing with undesirable behaviour on GN and so we should make our choices and then get on with our lives.

I used to belong to a forum where if someone posted something rude or offensive, a moderator would quote the post with the instruction 'vintagejazz, do not post on this thread again'.
If a poster was banned the word appeared under their username anywhere it had appeared in previous threads.

And yes, sometimes taking a short break from Gransnet if it's getting you down can be advisable. It can be easy to get too caught up in it and lose perspective.

Lucca: I’m saying they should come on the thread and say what they don’t like rather than going straight to gnhq.
To repeat MichaelGransnet again:
If you have any concerns about a post or poster then please do report to GNHQ rather than airing them on the boards. We're always fine to take a look behind the scenes
These are the rules we sign up to when we join.
We may disagree with them but it is no-one's place to criticize posters for choosing to follow them.
We do not know who reports what or when; some posters may already have said what they don't like on a thread and consequently been the recipient of the mean-spirited ganging-up; some have even left as a direct result. This behaviour has been quite rightly identified, investigated and sanctioned.
Because of this thread members have become aware of the unpleasant behaviour of a few posters on threads they don't normally follow.

biglouis

*A bit like knowing there are certain neighbours you can't reason with so going straight to the landlord/council*

I once had a neighbour like that. My (then) LL said "I dont like tittle tattles" and put the phone down on her.

Pretty irresponsible.

Just reread my post and want to add, I didn’t report you urmston, I disagreed strongly and said so on the thread. Very few posts need deleting imo.

I did wonder where you had gone Urmstongran, I didn't know you had been sent to the norty step again! Our politics couldn't be more opposite, but it's good to see you back.

Hello urmston, good to see you back. I can’t recall us ever agreeing on news and politics. I was very cross and said so, in response to some of your comments on refugees.
I didn’t see what led to your suspension.
Sometimes the report button must be very hot.

I joined GN in 2019 I know of 2 threads that where deleted by GNHQ. I won't say which forums as it will validate the bullies.

As in life the minority spoil it for the majority. My daughter says they aren't real people. But you can soon spot those as they post once and disappear.

I know how much help,advice ,support and friendship I have found on GN. As I have said I do report posters who go to far and will continue to do so. Any form of bullying and abuse is not acceptable in real life so why do some think it is acceptable on line while they can hide behind their username.

I was bullied enough when I was at school adult bullying is inexcusable.

Good to see you back Urms

Welcome back Urmstongran

I was suspended recently and have been on the norty step. It’s nice to be back. It was a shock to be put on it to be honest. It’s certainly been an education.