Being British and non confrontational

Biglouis Your situation could have been just as easily sorted, going to see the neighbour being polite to her but making it very clear that no one should come into your garden with out your consent. Well done and you could have made her into a nice and cooperative neighbour who didn't snitch.

Try reading my posting again a little more carefully!

I had already stated that I would not refuse them permission to access the property providing they cleared it with me first.

"I dont need your permission your only a tenant"

Does not invite a polite response.

The previous tenants had been a young family and she had bullied them to the extent that they left at the end of their lease. Constantly complaining about things like children playing in the garden, mowing the lawn, and so on.

People like that deserve to have someone confront them and put them in their place.

But what were you doing that made her want/need to snitch? How nice a neighbour are you?

My visitor had parked in "her" spot because the other spaces in the street were taken up. This is no concern of the LL.

when i was only a tenant somewhere and parked my car, a woman rushed out of a house and told/asked me to park farther down the road as she had visitors coming.
this was quite a wide spacious back street, not lacking on road parking space.
i was in a hurry and felt annoyed, why couldn't her visitors park farther down. she was not impolite but a bit pushy, really a cheeky plucker.
i didn;t want to move, but reckoned i would be in a worse position if she came out at night and slashed my tyres.
so i moved. it irked me and still does.

Later I learned what a nosy cow she is
I came right back with "Well your only an immigrant and if your going to live in aother persons country it would be a good idea to look up the law on trespass. Is that how you behave in your country
Wow wow wow you sound a real gem to have next door
I ll be completely confrontational now and say I don’t like what I m hearing one bit, you sound a neighbour I would never want to live near
How’s that then ?

When my children were toddlers we lived close to the dead end of a close of terraced houses. One family who, I suppose people would describe as rough, they kept a fast food van on their very short drive, had a tribe of secondary aged sones who regularly played football at the end of the close, running all over peoples front gardens, and in my case, damaging some rosebushes I had planted. They got regular flak from others in the close and I was none too pleased about it either.

One day I went out, not to complain but to ask them, when the ball landed in my pocket handkerchief front garden, whether they would just come and pick it up and not kick it through the roses. They were cheeky to me, so I said if they were so difficult, I would speak to their parents. They thought this was a joke and 'dared' me to. So I walked up to their front door and rang the bell, when the father came to the door I said I wanted to talk to him about the football and all the children piled in expecting me to be bawled out.

Instead I sat down and told them I could understand their problem with so many children in the house and a tiny back garden, and no nearby park, so the boys had only the close to kick a football around. I then said, my problem was not to stop them playing football, but just to ask that if the ball landed in my front garden they should lift it off the grass and not kick it until it was back on the road, but also to try not to get it on my garden.

They were so gobsmacked, that I was so nice to them and my request was so reasonable, they agreed and the boys heard their father agree and we parted on the best of terms. And after that the boys did stop kicking the ball off (and frequently onto) my grass and I remained on the best of terms with the family.

Many nasty obstreperous people are like that because people treat them badly. Be nice to them and it is surprising how accommodating they will be, simply because , for once, instead of shouting at them, someone has been nice.

It was not just me who was pizzed off with her. The LL felt she had driven the previous tenants away with her constant whingeing and complaining. Eventually LL blocked her number.

Again if you read my posting a little more carefully you will notice that I had already offered NDN the ability to access my property so long as she cleared it with me beforehand. That was very reasonable of me. It was she who began the mud slinging by saying I was only a tenant. I had only ever lived in flats until that time where we were all tenants. So it had never occured to me that someone would look down on me because I was a tenant. When you begin an argument with me you get a backlash in kind.

Remember the old saying:-

"People who live in glass houses should not throw stones."

BlueBelle

I can’t read this shorthand CF Cystic Fibrosis
NDN no disrespect to nuns
SCBA (sorry can’t be arsed) prefer to read it in English doesn’t take any longer to write

I agree Bluebell. Takes ages trying to work out all these abbreviations..... Puts you off reading these posts. Just write the words!!