Children having haircuts

My DS2, as a toddler, used to strip off at the hairdresser's because of the itchy little bits of hair that used to fall down his collar. When he was 10, I decided to give him a haircut. Unfortunately, every time I thought I had got it right, I needed to take of a little more. The poor child ended up almost a skinhead though I thought he looked quite cute . 40 years later he hasn't quite forgiven me.]grin]

Another vote for finding a super patient hairdresser. My DDIL is one such and I can't praise her highly enough. If you're in the Herts/Bucks ping me a message and I'll forward her details.

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

What does that even mean in this situation happycatholicwife1?

Haircuts are nothing to do with running the household (or even the family) - but they are to do with how we feel about ourselves, a sense of identity, and learning to make decisions.
Why can't a little person make decisions about harmless (and frankly not very important) things?

Parenting is not about power and control - it's about nurturing growing and teaching the respect of others.

Well said, NotSpaghetti - allowing a child, even a young child, to have a say in something like their hair, is a far cry from letting them rule the roost.

Well, I think so,*blondiescot*.

We just did one of our sons hair at home it was just too stressful. He now goes regularly and loves it mind you he’s 41!?

Don't force him it will have lasting consequences. My pa cut my hair from a toddler and I was swaddle wrapped I. A towel so I couldn't wriggle held by ma then he used a Wilkinson sword razor blade he held in some newspaper to save his fingers.i screamed and screamed thinking he was cutting my neck and ears off , sometimes he did nick me. It was traumatic to say least. 64years later? I'm obsessed by my hair mess with it constantly and cut/styled it myself for all but 5 years of my life! DH says he thinks my trauma created my fixation so please please DON'T persist, he'll decide when he wants it cutting!

It's not just boys who are like that. My DD aged not quite 2 came out of the hairdressers with the screaming habjabs. With half her hair cut into a bob it was when the scissors went near her ears or eyes that set her off. My mum solved it by putting on one of those shields that children wore for getting their hair washed and suggested they played hairdressers. They played with rollers and scissors then pulled her own hair back and caught the bottom in an elastic and asked dd to cut it off. She then said should she do the same to dd put an elastic on the really long side and was allowed to cut it. DD did end up with a very short bob .
just let him be and buy one of those play dough hair saloons where he can cut hair or let him go with his dad a few times and just sit on his knee before suggesting he might like it.
I also had a friend who cut her sons fringe while was asleep.

Never having had sons I have no experience to offer but I do understand how distressing it can be to boys, especially if a barber is rather impatient with them or worse still, nicks an ear during the hair cut.

Maybe it is one of those things that parents need to prepare children for eventually, like going to the dentist - my girls were taken along to the dentists with me from a very young age and when the time came for their first check-up they were both comfortable with the procedure.

happycatholicwife1

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

You mean let them have body autonomy?

Disgraceful, isn’t it?

The mother of my childhood friend couldn’t bear having her scalp touched. It was very sensitive and actually hurt. There’s a hairdresser locally that specialises in children with this fear. Might be worth asking on local social media or for a home hairdresser and pay for extra time if they are willing to attempt it. Quite a few boys now have long hair so might be best to leave it for now rather than create more stress for you all.

happycatholicwife1

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

What an odd thing to say!

happycatholicwife1

Good grief! Can't believe how many people let their children run the household.

What would you suggest? Tying them down to the chair and putting their head in a vice? it's not children running the house it's letting children know you are in control and they can feel safe.