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AussieGran59 Sat 10-Sept-22 03:34:10

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Lucca Sat 10-Sept-22 04:05:10

Sorry but I have too much respect for the medical profession to think this. Where would we be without them ?

“Her one little indulgence” . Hardly !!

Milly47 Sat 10-Sept-22 04:46:32

her one little indulgence so late in her life Really?!

I think the majority of people do not blindly take their doctors advice without questions. Most people respect the experience and knowledge of doctors and specialists, but also use their own initiative and help themselves.

nanna8 Sat 10-Sept-22 05:02:29

I wouldn’t think it would have made any difference to her either way. Her mother certainly lived even longer and I believe she was more than just a tippler. She loved to be a wonderful age and I think things were more difficult after her husband died.

Katyj Sat 10-Sept-22 06:47:44

I hadn’t heard that she’d been advised to stop drinking, why would that be ? My mum drinks several whisky’s every evening and has heart problems, two heart attacks this year. When I’ve mentioned it to the Dr’s they’ve been unconcerned. But even if she was advised to cut down, or stop she wouldn’t. She’s 91 and says it helps her sleep.

Oopsadaisy1 Sat 10-Sept-22 06:52:15

I doubt whether she took the advice!
At 96 yrs old it’s time to carry on the old traditions, unless she was drinking a bottle a night, which I doubt.

AussieGran59 Sat 10-Sept-22 06:53:42

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Spice101 Sat 10-Sept-22 07:15:27

I agree with you AussieGran. While it may not have been her one indulgence at her age exactly what was she going to achieve by giving up her evening drink. By the time one gets to their 90's as long as one understands that there may be negative consequences by ignoring the medical advice then I say go for it!

And yes doctors do need to look at the bigger picture, particularly specialists who usually only see an issue they are dealing with but not the impact of how that interacts with other issues.

DerbyshireLass Sat 10-Sept-22 07:21:03

Perhaps the Queen was taking medication that would have reacted badly with alcohol.

But I tend to agree, if someone is of sound mind then it's their decision as to whether or not to take their doctors advice as gospel or whether to temper that advice with their own discretion.

I think many elderly people are actually advised to have an evening tot of something. My father was and my FIL always had a couple of whiskies of an evening.

I often think about my late grandmothers response to a patronising medic.

When she was 91 she fell and broke her hip. As she lay in bed in the hospital quietly reading a slightly racy book a young doctor admonished her for her choice of reading material.

He said "Madame, at your age you should not be reading saucy novels".

She gave him a pitying look and replied "Young man, at my age I get to read exactly what I like".

Go granny.....?

BigBertha1 Sat 10-Sept-22 07:30:41

I agree with you Aussiegran and as a retired nurse I thought it was questionable advice and not one I have ever heard being said to a very elderly lady with moderate habits.

nadateturbe Sat 10-Sept-22 07:37:12

I get what you're saying Aussiegran. Unless there was a specific reason, I imagine she continued.
I don't think though that many people blindly take doctors advice. We usually respect their knowledge.
Although I do remember being given huge amounts of antibiotics for an infection for which I hadn't been tested. After reading very possible side effects, I insisted on the test, which was negative!

Bea65 Sat 10-Sept-22 07:41:24

How do WE know for fact that the Queen was advised to give up her evening drink?? DerbyshireLass totally agree with Go Granny statement...think I'm already there..grin

AussieGran59 Sat 10-Sept-22 07:51:50

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FannyCornforth Sat 10-Sept-22 07:57:33

Yes, it was widely reported AussieGran
I can’t remember why it was recommended though.
Like her mother, she enjoyed a gin and dubonnet or two

FannyCornforth Sat 10-Sept-22 07:59:14

There’s lots online about it
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-10095581/amp/The-Queen-95-ordered-quit-drinking-royal-doctors-family-friend-claims-Vanity-Fair.html

BlueBelle Sat 10-Sept-22 08:03:26

Good grief when I get in my 90 s I m going to drink smoke a spliff and have wild sex

Do we know she took any notice of the advise at all, do we know she didn’t think ‘Damn doctors i ll have me little tipple when I want it’ ???

YorkLady Sat 10-Sept-22 08:10:38

Giles Brandreth has been quoted today, saying that the Queen loved a crafty cigarette!!! Seems like she had a full life to me!

AussieGran59 Sat 10-Sept-22 08:37:13

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AGAA4 Sat 10-Sept-22 09:00:23

If the Queen's tipple was causing her discomfort or pain then the doctor was right to advise her to stop.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 10-Sept-22 09:02:56

There may have been a very good medical reason for the advice - and was it really just the one drink?

Yammy Sat 10-Sept-22 09:15:22

Having lived with a medic for nearly 50 years I think their advice is usually given after a lot of thought and assessing the medical conditions.
We do not and never will know how much was being consumed. My MIL when in a Care home in her 80 was allowed 2 Gin and tonics every evening and we supplied it. She sat with another group of friends who were all having their customary evening drink.
Sometimes Dr,s orders can sound Draconian but usually are in the patient's best interest.
Having said that sometimes they being only human get things wrong.

GrannyLaine Sat 10-Sept-22 09:20:16

It's all conjecture though as we have no context to evaluate the advice do we?

Re-frame the situation looking at what we do know: at the same time as 'mobility issues' were increasingly preventing Her Late Majesty from participating in public events we were told that doctors advised that she refrained from alcohol. There is a bigger picture there: elderly people with a degree of heart failure tend to have issues with balance and falls are ever more likely. Seen from this perspective, would the OP still feel it was "a shame"?
The Queen was a highly intelligent woman and was well able to make her own decision on this matter

Lathyrus Sat 10-Sept-22 10:09:28

I can’t comment about the evening drink. It’s all “a close friend” “a palace source” etc. Just speculation and people who want to seem in the know.

However, a close friend of mine, with intelligence and a will of her own killed herself by ignoring the doctors advice and thinking “I know my body best”.

So I’m very sceptical about people making intelligent decisions.

if a doctor knows something will have an adverse effect on health it’s their professional responsibility to tell the patient. They’d be negligent if they didn’t.

Fleurpepper Sat 10-Sept-22 10:11:38

But all within reason. Most doctors will weigh out the pros and cons and advise accordingly- taking the age and life expectation of the patient into account.

Mollygo Sat 10-Sept-22 10:26:38

Lathyrus

I can’t comment about the evening drink. It’s all “a close friend” “a palace source” etc. Just speculation and people who want to seem in the know.

So accurate.
A 90-year-old lady I used to visit in a nursing home, had a treat sized Bounty every day (or maybe even two for all I know) even against advice.
She said, “My husband is gone, my family are all busy, am I not entitled to a bit of enjoyment? What will get me first old age or a Bounty?”
She died at 94.