Spending. Treating yourself, better late than never

My husband was always careful what I spent MY money on …..he on other hand spent freely of both our disposable incomes, on what he needed….. mine was always a ‘want’ apparently. After 50 years of marriage and the last 26 spent as nurse/carer/full-time earner/gardener/housekeeper/ chief cook -and-bottle washer….. he’s had to go into a care home …after my second stroke last year! He has finially been diagnosed with vascular dementia AND Alzheimer’s Disease! I’m now free from the money control….or so I though …..but,
am paying so much for his stay there, that I’ll be lucky to eat 7 days a week. But I would not give up that feeling of freedom for even my favourite window shopping ….lovely winter boots!

This thread should carry a health warning!
On the back of reading what others have bought, I have just spent the last hour checking out the knits on Celric & Co (am VERY tempted to buy one of their jumpers)
I have also been looking at Omega watches and Electric Bikes

Seriously, great topic!

Celtic & Co not Celric.

My husband died 7 weeks ago and I feel so guilty for everytime he wanted something or go somewhere and I said we can’t afford it. I know I shouldn’t as when he retired 7 years ago he bought himself his first brand new car, always had second hand ones. We had a few holidays to dream destinations but that stopped because of Covid but were hopping for more. And if he really wanted something he would buy it.
At the moment I seem to be giving the children money for holidays and things they need rather than anything for me.

I'm quite careful to my spending - apart from my hair, facials, home temperature, and vacations.

DH business for 55 years, we're on to fully retire at 77 years old.

School for our 12 GC and GGC is my priority - and will remain that until they are all finished at uni.

I was mindful of this threadwhen I went waitrose shopping this morning, it is a 30 mile round trip but the scenery is uplifting

I did buy some treats ie cherries and some yummy small quiches and poached salmon, their own 90% chocolate. I walked past the croissants but quite honestly never batted an eyelid when loading the treats into my cart. Proud really that I don`t look at cakes as a treat and don`t buy them

Now I am home and have had my lunch, I have again been buying, only the 100% dark chocolate that I love and is so good for me. In bulk, to save the postage

Saggi

My husband was always careful what I spent MY money on …..he on other hand spent freely of both our disposable incomes, on what he needed….. mine was always a ‘want’ apparently. After 50 years of marriage and the last 26 spent as nurse/carer/full-time earner/gardener/housekeeper/ chief cook -and-bottle washer….. he’s had to go into a care home …after my second stroke last year! He has finially been diagnosed with vascular dementia AND Alzheimer’s Disease! I’m now free from the money control….or so I though …..but,
am paying so much for his stay there, that I’ll be lucky to eat 7 days a week. But I would not give up that feeling of freedom for even my favourite window shopping ….lovely winter boots!

saggi, if you haven't already, please contact CAB or AgeUk for benefits/financial advice. There is something wrong when you can't afford to eat.

I’m going to buy some linen bedding, I’ve wanted it for years, but due to paying for GCs schooling and now their University expenses, plus MissOops knee op in 3 weeks time, I couldn’t justify the expense, however MrOops is eying up another sports car and I thought well, why not.

As soon as we get home from our holiday I’m putting the order in. I have a 2 days holiday left and I’m window shopping online to see what else I ‘need’.

PS and it’s all thanks to this thread!

Oopsadaisy1

PS and it’s all thanks to this thread!

Where do people buy their linen bedding from?

I’ve googled ‘Linen Bedding’ there are quite a few with good reviews, but you will get Cotton Bedding adverts too, so you will have to sift through them.

So, I went to our local 'Foodfest' on Saturday and treated myself to twenty quids worth of cheese (including a gift one for when I visit my eldest daughter on her birthday). Lovely having a wonderful mixed cheeseboard, but this did feel every so extravagent.

My luxury treat is cashmere and silk vests?. Italian.

I am looking to buy an electrical item.
It is out of stock everywhere!

snowberryZ

Oopsadaisy1

PS and it’s all thanks to this thread!

Where do people buy their linen bedding from?

www.secretlinenstore.com/

beautiful quality. First I bought blush pink and cream, simply gorgeous and later I also bought shades of naturals/browns for winter

Wait for sale prices

I have a friend who appears to have gone troppo with the improvements to property, holidays etc since her DH passed on!? She's had lots of work done on her home, new kitchen , decorating ,new fence etc, and she does appear more cheerful , I know DH was ill quite a while before d day but still,,- makes me wonder if our DH have a damping effect on our true personalities? I know I "curb it" a bit when he's around, and he makes me feel a teensy bit guilty spending. Although he's generous, he's also fighting his desire to be Silas mariner too. Like his pa who has 1000s literally sitting doing nothing in bank whilst he struggled without central heating, decent car and anything else I enjoy in twilight years! I agree to having what I want , without bankruptcy!!

This will sound totally indulgent but if I suddenly came into a decent amount of money I would buy myself a Native Indian flute and a Handpan and then play these (not at the same time ) to lull me into a kind of meditation. I desperately need to switch off from the world at the moment.

Gabrielle, I never went mad when my husband was alive but I actively encouraged him to get the bike he really wanted, the scrollsaw, the tools. He would never have stopped me getting stuff for myself but at the back of my mind was always the `what if` we needed care. I held the financial reins

Then when he died it hit me, saving for what! That is when I gave goodly sums to the children and to the dgc, which they don`t know about. Charities too and too much tbh

I went back on an even keel and eventually moved. My house is lovely, new build and economical to run, so either I save or I let the reins loose a bit and spend more on me than I used to

adding to the list and bought last year

2 big luscious British down pillows and 2 prime silk pillowcases

Lovely uplifting thread. A question; do you have to iron linen bed linen? Could I go for wrinkled, comfy look? Bit like the rest of me

Oopsadaisy1 Houseplantqueen. I bought some lovely bed linen from Soak and Sleep, always when there’s an offer on. I don’t iron it, just fold it neatly when dry. I’m known for ironing almost everything but I think it looks fine slightly crumpled.

HousePlantQueen

Lovely uplifting thread. A question; do you have to iron linen bed linen? Could I go for wrinkled, comfy look? Bit like the rest of me

oh gosh I never iron proper linen bedding. I absolutely love the crumpled look and I love the subtle layers of eg pink with cream or magnus grey with natural. The bed looks so cosy and it is very inviting

Linen gets softer with washing btw. The first wash after buying, I thought whoops it is a little stiff but it soon softened when I lay on it and now it is soft after washing. It actually dried quickly in the wind this morning, even the fitted sheet which easily covers my deep mattress. If I could turn the clock back then I would have had linen for everyone in my family, I would only have had to buy it once

Whitewavemark2

My luxury treat is cashmere and silk vests?. Italian.

If you like Italian cashmere, look up Maison Cashmere (it sounds French but it is a small firm in northern Italy).

Much cheaper than buying cashmere in a shop as they make to order only. No intermediaries. Everything from gloves to ponchos. The wool they use is either Italian or Scottish.

I treated myelf to a poncho last year, feeling very guilty. Lovely and warm and so light! They will even make the article you choose with longer/shorter sleeves or hemlength.

a couple of years ago I got a lovely wool duvet, a double one just for me. Sheepsking boots and slippers help keep me cosy too. I'm retiring soon and am treating myself to some UK breaks.
I don't see the point of a new [second hand] car while old car still gets through the MOT, but I do like the sound of an electric bike
Am spending money on the garden because I want to be able to sit in it next year and just potter around in it, I might actually get some gardening help to help me get on top of it

Whitewavemark2

My luxury treat is cashmere and silk vests?. Italian.

Patra in the UK is very good too.

I bought a newer car. And I'm going on a cruise. I also gave some cash to my children and grandchildren last Christmas.