feeling Alone - don't comment if you feel I'm needy!

Getting absorbed in a good book helps me on Sunday or any other day. I read with a Kindle and keep a good supply (library loans) in queue.

After my divorce I felt that everyone had someone to share the w/e but I was and still am happy in my own company. It’s not weak to feel alone and lonely, but probably it is something that we have to solve for ourselves

polnan everything you say resonates with me, and I agree the covid lockdowns changed me. I will never be the person I was pre-covid and I feel in a way that I had a huge chunk of what remains to me of a healthy active life taken from me.
Someone else also pointed out the difference between loneliness and aloneness, but both can be debilitating and distressing. I think you can teach yourself to accept and even enjoy aloneness, but loneliness is such a feeling of lack of human contact that can be overwhelming. I don't think there's any one way to cope with it - you just have to find what suits you. Some will just 'sit with it' til it passes (and it always does!) and others will take themselves for a walk, attack a pile of ironing or clear out a cupboard - in other words lose themselves in activity. It's good to talk about it on a thread like this though - it makes us all feel less alone!

Not sure if this makes sense, I have a few friends and a husband, sons. I still feel lonely due to not being able to talk about my illness, mostly people diss me , she looks fine. I try not to say too much to my husband because I don’t want to worry him. Friends are older than me and don’t understand. Support group leader wasn’t understanding and rude so don’t bother with that either. Finding a shoulder to cry on in my case isn’t easy, so I keep it to myself

Loneliness strikes all ages and often young people can feel very isolated. I was distressingly lonely when I went to be a student in London. My parents had recently divorced and I had no support structure. I struggled to make friends and I was in a sea of people every day with no real feeling of connection!

I liked the covid lockdown as it gave me a good excuse to stay at home and read or watch TV or tidy a cupboard.

Being old, housebound, disabled Sunday is just another day for me. Only know what day it is by the different TV. Radio programs. Too much sport!
When my husband was alive he used to spend the day playing golf and watching sport on TV so I used to make it my “beauty” day cutting and washing hair, having a facial, long bath etc whilst listening to the radio. Archers, Desert Island Discs, Just a Minute etc.

I know what you mean. Although it's also a thing feeling lonely despite having access to friends,/people in general.i think it's a state of mind as much as a physical reality. I'm not sure it's same as feeling "alone" though? Interesting to see what others' experiences translate as?

polnan

Thanks for that lefthanded. I have been feeling very tired lately, and went to docs.. Yes! I got a face to face appt!!!!actually got through the receptionist, we have to convince the receptionist that we are worthy of an appt! so.. she did a blood test, then doc, well she authorised one,, and no one came back to me, so I was told that would mean o..k. but then, I wonder what exactly I was tested on,, Iron? Vit B is also another one, so I will try and get another doc appt, cos still very tired, lost 1/2 stone in weight also,, without dieting.. and I was wondering thyroid...

so thanks lefthanded

I fume at the 'no news is good news' habit with tests nowadays!!!! And what happens if the test is lost or misplaced or not looked at in error-and it's not 'ok' ?? What then? It does happen, they're quick to write a shot across the bows when you miss an appointment! Why not send a text/note to give the precious "all clear" eh?!