Self care and self neglect

maddy You're not alone with that feeling.

All on top of your mum's death, too maddy, which was very complex in itself.

Maddy I’m sorry to hear that you’re so down

Thank you Kate too.
Your right MissA I’ve written about the awful allegations my sister has made on my thread Grief for my mother. I knew she’d be difficult but even I couldn’t have guessed so soon.
There are also huge worries for us about our daughter in New Zealand. I can’t write about that on here, but it’s breaking my heart and when I miss my mum so much too.
Thanks for concern.

Thank you Fanny.

Just keep trudging on, maddy.

That's not very deep, helpful advice, I know, but it's all I've got.

Yes, it’s like the old Churchill quote, ‘When you’re going through hell, keep going’

Ironing is torture for me - so I actively avoid it. My version of 'self care' is following my moods - by doing things I enjoy, going out when I want - and eating my favourite foods. I have regular days 'off' when I do nothing useful at all. I don't feel guilty, either, as I'm recharging my batteries!

That sounds ideal hetty.

Thank you ladies, kind, supportive advice. You know how to keep trudging on don’t you MissA I know that. Churchill was right Fanny we just have to keep going.

It is a real trudge for me, lately, maddy.

Still, at least I am warm and comfortable, and resting on my beds, and I'm going to make a nice milk coffee.

Yes, I’m warm and comfortable too. At the end of this month we are going out to New Zealand and we can support our daughter out there for a while.
We have set everything down in a document and are sending it to my sister, and I’ve blocked her on WhatsApp etc so I can’t receive anymore abusive texts or nasty allegations. The document will show her exactly where all the money and legal stuff is and it’s progress. As she’s blocked she can’t respond except by letter. It explains she should get her share of the inheritance by about December. Hopefully that’ll keep her happy for a bit.
I’m always very impressed by you MissA because I know life has not been kind to you, and yet you’re always cheerful.

Psst.. I'm miserable as sin really.

maddy . It's good to know that you're able to go to NZ to be there fore your D.

As if losing your mum after so much heartache isn't bad enough, you now have your sister's nastiness to contend with. I'm glad you've blocked her and hope that that gives you a little peace.

You're an inspiration MissA .

MissA You hide it well. You're so cheery.

I've got my inner miseryguts tamed, for now.

You have! I must try to tame mine.

Wait till me wig blows off, I'll be laughing on the other side of my face, then.