What would you say if your husband told you to stop squawking?

paddyann54

Espee believe me I dont take prisoners if its something worth arguing over.... but a word?
I genuinely cant remember the last time my OH and I disagreed ...well apart from the TV in the kitchen...which is no longer IN the kitchen because he decided sitting in a noisy steamy kitchen didn't work for him.
What kind of precious princesses get fired up about a word?
It really is a different world on here

paddyann
We can disagree about anything 😁 and frequently do but I wouldn't change him.

Jeez, I dread to think what some of you on here would think about our relationship if you get upset over a bit of 'squawking'!

She is being sensitive over the attitude, and has asked him before not to use that expression - she was more or less told to stop complaining over him claiming that SHE was the one who raised the query that her daughter had rung him to answer. Was she supposed to agree, when HE was the one who had raised it? Read the original post to see more - it seems he does this sort of thing often.

As she said in a later post "No it’s the insidious put down. I don’t feel inferior in any way and do stand up for myself - until the next time. He’s being nice at the moment. It’s about control.

^ Surely life is too short to be so sensitive over a word.^

It all depends on the word, but squawking isn't one of mine. Impolite, I agree, but something that could be used at times of tension, when feelings are a bit on edge and snappy - and we all have those moments - . Such moments that are generally followed by apologies all round.

Sensitive over a word? Thst isn’t what the OP is being

I realise we’re in the minority, but I agree with paddyann54. Surely life is too short to be so sensitive over a word.

You may mean gawking, not squawking, Ali08 Squawking is the noise that anxious chickens make.

If you're squawking at something, you're looking at it. So what does he want you to stop looking at him? Fine, go squawk at someone you find pleasing to look at, and do it in front of him so he can't accuse you of doing it behind his back etc!

BigBertha1

I'm not taking any abuse from my other half in fact I think he found the Good Husband Book early on and does everything in it BUT we call each other names of course we do it gets so that we are crying with laughter at how silly the names can get. I won't share them as there seem to be many people who would be offended by us.

Hear, hear.

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that your mother-in-law is completely responsible for her son's misogynistic behaviour, 25Avalon.

What would I say if this happened over and again?

Something like "I'm sorry that you can't change your behaviour. I don't intend spending my last years being belittled so will be talking to a solicitor about legal separation."

nadateturbe

^It was rude and unacceptable, but I would have called him out, not rushed out to compensate, by using his credit card. That doesn't solve anything.^

It would make me feel better!

It wouldn't work for me, we have joint accounts for everything.

Sadly I suspect this behaviour is not new.

Actually I can and do use the credit card whenever I like - I am a person of moderation from a frugal background who does not overspend anyway. And tromping off on my own to spend wouldn’t be much fun especially as I’ve bought several bargains online during Black Friday.

No it’s the insidious put down. I don’t feel inferior in any way and do stand up for myself - until the next time. He’s being nice at the moment. It’s about control.

I'm not taking any abuse from my other half in fact I think he found the Good Husband Book early on and does everything in it BUT we call each other names of course we do it gets so that we are crying with laughter at how silly the names can get. I won't share them as there seem to be many people who would be offended by us.

Espee believe me I dont take prisoners if its something worth arguing over.... but a word?
I genuinely cant remember the last time my OH and I disagreed ...well apart from the TV in the kitchen...which is no longer IN the kitchen because he decided sitting in a noisy steamy kitchen didn't work for him.
What kind of precious princesses get fired up about a word?
It really is a different world on here

It was rude and unacceptable, but I would have called him out, not rushed out to compensate, by using his credit card. That doesn't solve anything.

It would make me feel better!

I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where being rude in this way was seen as acceptable. I can’t understand those who minimise the distress 25Avalon is feeling. Making a joke of it, using rude expressions back. Very unpleasant.

Esspee

I find it interesting how many would put up with such disrespect for the sake of peace. It does make me wonder how much abuse they are taking from their OH verbally or otherwise.

I imagine they’re giving it as well as taking it.

I find it interesting how many would put up with such disrespect for the sake of peace. It does make me wonder how much abuse they are taking from their OH verbally or otherwise.

Tell him to stop whining.

I have to say, I agree with paddyann's post.

It was rude and unacceptable, but I would have called him out, not rushed out to compensate, by using his credit card. That doesn't solve anything.

paddyann54

I quite obviously live in a different world from the rest of GN.
I have a fantastic marriage ,have spent most of every day in my husbands company ,worked together ,lived together ,laughed and cried together .
One remark ,one silly word and you;re all jumping on high horses and threatening to go on spending sprees to "punish" a man you say you love .
And we wonder where the younger generation get such strange attitudes??
Surely I cant be the only person over 60 who thinks THAT behaviour is every bit as bad as ONE word.

What a strange attitude to life /marriage where ups and downs are all part of the fun .If ONE word upsets you so much I'd recommend you seek help

Exactly this. He was rude but I’m sure you have your moments too.

I’d have said it back to him!

My Dh is ALWAYS telling me to ‘stop squawking’. I laugh - it makes me giggle and defuses my rage!

I spent yesterday morning talking with a friend who lost his wife 15 years ago to cancer .He was diagnosed last year and given a year....ish to live .Yesterday he got bad news,his year is almost at an end .
Get a life Grans,its far too short to act like outraged virgins at ONE word

I quite obviously live in a different world from the rest of GN.
I have a fantastic marriage ,have spent most of every day in my husbands company ,worked together ,lived together ,laughed and cried together .
One remark ,one silly word and you;re all jumping on high horses and threatening to go on spending sprees to "punish" a man you say you love .
And we wonder where the younger generation get such strange attitudes??
Surely I cant be the only person over 60 who thinks THAT behaviour is every bit as bad as ONE word.

What a strange attitude to life /marriage where ups and downs are all part of the fun .If ONE word upsets you so much I'd recommend you seek help