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nanna8 Mon 05-Dec-22 21:58:32

I don’t know what it is about this year, maybe some sort of post Covid comedown but I really can’t be bothered doing much. We have a lot of social events lined up before Christmas but I’d just as soon stay home and vegetate. I have only just sent my overseas Christmas cards out, cut them down significantly because of the outrageous postage cost. I don’t particularly want to deal with anyone other than family ( we have a lot of them ). I don’t feel depressed or anything like that, just inert and, dare I say it, a tad grumpy.
Anyone else got this ?

Beeb Thu 08-Dec-22 12:35:00

Me too. Sent one present and got GC presents done. Not done cards or decorated . Hoping for very quiet Christmas with a nice walk if weather allows.

Nainijo Thu 08-Dec-22 12:41:24

I have paired things down this year, primarily because I had a hip replacement four weeks ago, and didn’t know exactly how active I would be. I have sent cards, not as many, made dozen mince pies yesterday and we have, collectively as a family, decided not to do presents, we are going out for Christmas Day and planning family meals for December/January, I am so glad I don’t have to shop, for presents or food, I would be scared in case I got knocked with a trolley or pushed when it’s so busy. It is so commercialised now.

Camille333 Thu 08-Dec-22 12:43:41

Fed up ,snowed under with unwrapped presents stacked against the radiator and falling into my bed.Chaos in every room ,can't find a ruddy thing , lost several gifts ,where are they?šŸ˜ šŸ”„.Oh to have a Christmas at someone else's house ,sick of Xmas stress every year.

holcombemummy60 Thu 08-Dec-22 12:52:02

Dreading it my father is on end of life care and we live 400 miles away . Travelling up the next two weekends so no time for Christmas sad

Sawsage2 Thu 08-Dec-22 12:59:11

Same here! Dining table full of presents (been like it for a week). I have a '2 hour rule' for visiting everyone. I'm never hungry so don't go for meals (family know this and are ok about it). I know it sounds selfish but 'hey ho at least they know' (my new Xmas carol) wink

Beeb Thu 08-Dec-22 13:26:01

holcombemummy60 sorry to hear that

Ilovedragonflies Thu 08-Dec-22 13:29:16

I'm actually a bit depressed at the moment. For the first year in many, nearly all my (small) family members are coming to me the week before to see me on my (unfortunately timed) birthday. This will be my Christmas present as we are all spread out everywhere and seldom happens. I had a big birthday during lockdown and celebrated alone so this is something I've really been looking forward to. Now it looks like the forecast of snow may mean it doesn't happen and I shall celebrate both my birthday and Christmas alone again. The tree can stay in its box until I know more and will remain there if the plans fall apart. If there's only me to see it, what's the point?

Jansue Thu 08-Dec-22 13:47:14

Well sadly we had to say goodbye to our beloved cat yesterday as she had to be put to sleep so no we won’t be celebrating much this year either.
Luckily we hadn’t made any plans to go anywhere and had already met up with family recently so just myself and DH will be remembering our Misty quietly in our own way, she was a little cat who’s left a big hole in our hearts.

hicaz46 Thu 08-Dec-22 14:04:24

Having stoically battled through Covid restrictions over several Christmas’s when we did what we did for the sake of others and the country, now with the terrible state that this country has been brought to by the present government, I can understand peoples apathy regarding celebrations. Whilst we are lucky enough not to be struggling this Christmas, I fully appreciate that many, many are and I wish this country as a whole could be more careful and caring. Our celebrations will certainly be muted.

Reluctantnanna Thu 08-Dec-22 14:15:51

I think I am a bit low in mobe od , I have been weepy quite alot since the Christmas songs have started. I have two DC and GDCs ( their 1st Christmas) but I'm just not feeling it. I feel a bit of a fraud as my kids don't realise how unhappy it makes me. ( My DM died end Dec back in the 1990s)
Have lots to wrap...

ourjude Thu 08-Dec-22 14:18:56

Last year I was ambivalent about Christmas - kept changing my mind every few days about whether I was going to celebrate or not. This year, I've got in the usual bits and pieces but, at the moment, would be quite happy if Christmas was cancelled.

I'm not particularly well and it is only me these days so that might be the cause but then again, 'everything' Christmas related seemed to start being touted (items in shops, carols played everywhere and films on TV) before we'd even done Halloween this year... Or so it seemed to me.

Perhaps if the Christmas hype didn't start until December was here I might feel differently. Or, considering how many of us feel the same way, maybe there's something in the water grin

I did have a bit of a giggle though. I received my first Christmas present at the weekend. It was from an older (I won't say elderly!) friend who decided that a festive pie (from Lidl or Aldi, I can't remember which) was not suitable for Christmas dinner. So, she brought round all the fixings for a 'traditional' Christmas dinner - plus a large variety of nibbles.

Didn't have the heart to tell her the reason I was planning on having the pie was because I'm fed up of the 'traditional' and the only thing that 'grabbed' me - despite visiting 6 different supermarkets/shops - was the Festive Pie. I am having 'all the fixings' alongside it - and all the usual nibbles - and have already bought them all so most of her gift has been gifted on to a family I know that wouldn't be able to afford these things.

YorkLady Thu 08-Dec-22 14:22:06

Jansue sending you hugs!

Blondiescot Thu 08-Dec-22 14:31:32

I'm definitely in the 'can't be bothered' camp. I hate xmas anyway, and left to my own devices, would happily ignore the whole shebang. However, daughter and fiance are coming to us on xmas day, so I will have to make an effort at some point. She moaned at me last year when I hadn't put the tree up about a week beforehand. I'll have to get round to it at some point, I suppose.

FranA Thu 08-Dec-22 14:58:02

I am in the ā€œI can’t be bothered camp tooā€. If I can’t be bothered then nothing will happen. I have one friend who I know needs her presents so I have got her something. I am not sending any cards and dinner is already in the freezer so I will heat it up on the day. Tree and decorations are in the attic and will most likely remain there. I may play a Xmas CD and drink some wine, perhaps eat a few chocolates on the day. The grandchildren all have so much already I can’t even raise the enthusiasm to try to figure out what is missing from their ā€œmust haveā€ arsenal.

Davida1968 Thu 08-Dec-22 15:13:13

Yes, nanna8, I'm feeling absolutely like you are! (I wrote about this on another Christmas thread.) However I am going through the motions and I hope to gain some festive spirit from somewhere, before the 24th....... (I have always enjoyed the "Nine lessons and Carols" service broadcast on the radio on Christmas Eve.)

Bazza Thu 08-Dec-22 15:24:51

Oh nana8 I could have written your post! I’m just trying to psyche myself up to write some cards, although I’m cutting down considerably. Are we the last generation to send them I wonder? My two girls don’t bother with them. I’ve still got presents to buy and have wrapped nothing. Definitely a case of CFS. If only it was like the Olympics, every four years, perhaps we could work up some enthusiasm.

On the plus side, all our relatively small family of 10 will be together, not at our house, and we have so much to be grateful for I do feel a bit guilty.

GoldenAge Thu 08-Dec-22 15:29:09

Not even started - too busy - but when I do it will be a severely paired down affair. Maybe covid taught us that we didn't have to go crazy (not that I ever did) preparing for these two days months in advance, and gave us permission to be less frenetic. So we're going away for a quiet Christmas, I won't be putting a tree up or ending the usual bunch of cards with very expensive stamps on them and the hope that they actually reach their destination. Not even made a Christmas cake - yet!

rocketstop Thu 08-Dec-22 15:29:29

Jansue
So sorry for you. Your cat was beautiful, celebrate her life this Christmas and be glad you gave her a loving home.

OnwardandUpward Thu 08-Dec-22 15:31:05

Every year I simplify more. Do less. As my husband says, "it's just a big roast dinner!" He cooks well and would cook the whole thing if I wanted.

Christmas shouldn't be about jumping through hoops, anyway. It should be just remembering what's important, eating a nice meal that should be anything you want and being with those who want to be with you too.

Christmas can be a big chore, if you don't enjoy the food and all. I'm not a fan of many of the traditional foods, so I won't eat them. As a kid I was forced to eat horrible festive foods , so as an adult I avoid them. My kids don't like most of the festive foods either, so we will eat what we like.

OnwardandUpward Thu 08-Dec-22 15:35:03

ourjude

Last year I was ambivalent about Christmas - kept changing my mind every few days about whether I was going to celebrate or not. This year, I've got in the usual bits and pieces but, at the moment, would be quite happy if Christmas was cancelled.

I'm not particularly well and it is only me these days so that might be the cause but then again, 'everything' Christmas related seemed to start being touted (items in shops, carols played everywhere and films on TV) before we'd even done Halloween this year... Or so it seemed to me.

Perhaps if the Christmas hype didn't start until December was here I might feel differently. Or, considering how many of us feel the same way, maybe there's something in the water grin

I did have a bit of a giggle though. I received my first Christmas present at the weekend. It was from an older (I won't say elderly!) friend who decided that a festive pie (from Lidl or Aldi, I can't remember which) was not suitable for Christmas dinner. So, she brought round all the fixings for a 'traditional' Christmas dinner - plus a large variety of nibbles.

Didn't have the heart to tell her the reason I was planning on having the pie was because I'm fed up of the 'traditional' and the only thing that 'grabbed' me - despite visiting 6 different supermarkets/shops - was the Festive Pie. I am having 'all the fixings' alongside it - and all the usual nibbles - and have already bought them all so most of her gift has been gifted on to a family I know that wouldn't be able to afford these things.

Did you get the Festive Slices from Aldi? I bought them for my son, but he hasn't tried them yet and he sniffed at them a bit because apparently Greggs sell a similar one. I wouldn't have known grin

So kind of you to gift the traditional fare to a family who wouldn't be able to afford that. Enjoy your festive pie and good for you for not being pressured.

Saetana Thu 08-Dec-22 16:01:48

I'm not bothering with Christmas this year apart from cards and gifts for family and friends. My husband died on Christmas Day last year and it has completely ruined a time of year that I used to love. Am going home to visit my family for a few days at Christmas, having been advised not to be alone for the first anniversary of his death. My parents aren't that big on Christmas either, don't even bother with Christmas dinner these days, so hopefully will take my mind off things a bit.

Witzend Thu 08-Dec-22 16:12:17

I’m so sorry, Jansue - I know how horrible it is. šŸ’

Maidmarion Thu 08-Dec-22 16:16:56

Yep… me too! I have been given notice to quit my lovely, lovely (and warm) house as the landlord is selling it. (Why he couldn’t have waited until Spring is beyond me - it’s not as if he’s poor!!!!) so I’m spending all my time on my little iPad searching, searching for something to rent in the locality. Nothing doing ā€˜in my price range’ so at this rate I’ll be on the streets in February…. It’s so very worrying at 74!!!!
And yes, I have no interest in Christmas this year. I usually go to my family in USA but am unable to go this year for various reasons. I usually LOVE Christmas but don’t even want to think about it this year 😢

Hetty58 Thu 08-Dec-22 16:26:36

Maidmarion, February? Please do bear in mind that, if you don't find something suitable and leave, your landlord will have to start the eviction process (and it takes some time).

Supergran1946 Thu 08-Dec-22 17:38:37

You have just described me ! Daughter and grandchildren have just moved to USA, my husband is awaiting Radiotherapy treatment and I just cannot be bothered with all the gaiety of xmas. Good lord am I turning into Scrooge - think I had better go out for a brisk walk to lighten my mood šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚