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Feel the fear and do it anyway

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MawtheMerrier Sat 17-Dec-22 18:49:42

As I’ve got older a lot of my self-confidence seems to have trickled away. Or perhaps it’s since Paw died and I have no longer had the responsibility of kicking ass with some medical professionals, or driving him to appointments at his London hospital. Whatever, I now mostly only have myself to think about but I can find myself dreading things I used to take in my stride (the M25 for example), any long drives, or social engagements with people I do not know very well, or taking an active role in the organisation of our local Arts Society (involving public speaking.)
So I am trying very hard not to “duck out” of arrangements, not to rule things out -even although I would cheer silently if they were cancelled!
Do you “feel the fear and do it anyway” or are you lucky enough not to feel the fear?

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mumski Sun 18-Dec-22 09:57:46

We are all amazing in our own ways and so courageous about facing our fears. What an impressive bunch we all are flowers.

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Kate1949 Sun 18-Dec-22 10:28:58

Life can batter us about a bit. I certainly am battered and have always been fearful. Of life in general. However, I've got in with it like most of us do.

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Norah Sun 18-Dec-22 10:32:25

I think people find ways to lessen their fears, work around parts of fears. For example driving on motorways - I still drive, but less often, only in daylight, never in the rain, to arrive and depart at certain times. The length of the trip doesn't yet bother me. Tiredness may begin limiting me to 200 miles.

My greatest fear is loneliness, I haven't had to work out living or being alone. Well done you who are working through living alone. flowers

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kircubbin2000 Sun 18-Dec-22 10:42:03

When I posted on Next door about being stuck because of the ice 2 strangers offered to shop for me. Luckily I didn't need anything this time.

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Grammaretto Sun 18-Dec-22 18:48:01

So sorry Iam64 it is still very early days.
In a way, the lockdown helped me. I wasn't the only one staying home!

There are so many Firsts aren't there.
I met his old work colleagues for a Christmas lunch last week. It was fine
His mum is an inspiration. She says " you just have to get on with it"
But she lets herself be looked after now, having been the carer, the cook, the homemaker and a school teacher, her whole life.
I am still working out how I want to live my life without him.
This will be the first Christmas I have hosted for 3 years.

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