Your thoughts please, feeling anxious

YANBU. Perhaps when you see them outside just say with a smile, “ I hope we didn’t upset you the other day but it was causing a jam in our hall. Do you know how to track your deliveries so that you can delay them so you’re in to collect them? “

Ohmother

YANBU. Perhaps when you see them outside just say with a smile, “ I hope we didn’t upset you the other day but it was causing a jam in our hall. Do you know how to track your deliveries so that you can delay them so you’re in to collect them? “

The thing is that my husband wasn’t rude etc and the neighbour obviously took offence and stomped off. V rude indeed. I don’t know what’s wrong with me,I’m being ridiculous.
Apart from the parcel debacle, they have previously knocked to borrow stuff and even last week asked my husband to look at their heating system as they were not quite sure of something.
As I say, happy to help but not being made a mug out of and previously couriers have told us that he has said to leave stuff with us lol

I wouldn’t worry about it, act as if nothing has happened and speak to them as usual.

YANBU some people take advantage of neighbours willingness to be helpful.
I used to accept parcels and then the items got bigger and bigger. We were in the middle of building work and in one week the neighbour had a very large TV and a bike delivered to our address he then moved out and a day or two later live fish were left in our porch. When I checked the label it had the neighbour's name on but our address, obviously deliberate. The woman that moved into the vacated property started having parcels sent here, I suspect the previous tenant said something. I no longer take in parcels except for my immediate neighbours as we have lived here 51 years.

Sounds as if your neighbour's taking advantage Sikipoo. Your H did the right thing.

The other thing to consider is the possibility of accidental damage to parcels of high value. A friend took in a parcel for neighbours that contained some very pricey computer parts. On opening, a significant amount of damage was discovered. My friend then got involved in a three-way row with the neighbour, the courier and the sender about who was responsible for the damage. I hasten to add that my friend was not arguing with her neighbour - it was the couriers who suggested that she "must" have been responsible for the damage.
I do take in parcels for my neighbours but I don't really feel comfortable with high value items.

We are the ‘older neighbours’ and around more, so quite happy to take in parcels for others, as long as they collect them as soon as they’re home. Sometimes, if they are away, they bombard us with WhatsApp messages asking if we have seen their parcels and can we check that they’ve arrived. 🙄

I think that if considerate neighbours are planning to ask you to take in parcels regularly, they should offer you a key so that you can let the delivery guy in.

Your neighbours sound as though they have no reasonable boundaries and will constantly push until you set the boundary.

I think this whole thing is getting slightly out of hand.

If I ordered boxes of garden furniture, I'd be tracking the delivery and making sure I was around and if I couldn't be, I'd at last have the courtesy to ask my neighbour if they would, or could, take them in.

Your neighbour needs a lesson or two in good manners and one in comprehension... taking in neighbours' packages is a neighbourly kindness, not an obligation. If he can't be around for the delivery, it's his problem - and he's making it yours!

Dickens

I think this whole thing is getting slightly out of hand.

If I ordered boxes of garden furniture, I'd be tracking the delivery and making sure I was around and if I couldn't be, I'd at last have the courtesy to ask my neighbour if they would, or could, take them in.

Your neighbour needs a lesson or two in good manners and one in comprehension... taking in neighbours' packages is a neighbourly kindness, not an obligation. If he can't be around for the delivery, it's his problem - and he's making it yours!

Tbh, I feel like a concierge service lol
I’m not a mean person but this is several times a week.
He really wasn’t happy when my husband said about it. This last time he hadn’t even bothered to knock and collect the stuff. It’s lack of respect. We are retired and that’s ok to dump us with all their stuff!

Stop worrying about it and just refuse to accept any further deliveries, politely telling the driver that you are unable to accept the delivery for number so and so. Their parcels are their concern, not yours.

Tell the deliverers that it is not your parcel but next door’s and to leave it on their doorstep.

Ali23

I think that if considerate neighbours are planning to ask you to take in parcels regularly, they should offer you a key so that you can let the delivery guy in.

Your neighbours sound as though they have no reasonable boundaries and will constantly push until you set the boundary.

A fabulous suggestion! Tell them you have struggled with so many parcels, especially larger items and would be happy to accept them if you have a key. This would make it simpler all round as the parcels can go straight in their property!

I don’t know why your anxious and worrying as your neighbours as they are not obviously not giving you the slightest thought , they are just taking advantage of your good kind nature , I think they are being thoughtless and rude in assuming your happy to oblige . In future refuse to take in their parcels , it’s their problem to sort out their deliveries not yours . And no, it doesn’t sound pathetic , it’s affecting your lives , I’d feel very much the same as you do .

Chestnut

Ali23

I think that if considerate neighbours are planning to ask you to take in parcels regularly, they should offer you a key so that you can let the delivery guy in.

Your neighbours sound as though they have no reasonable boundaries and will constantly push until you set the boundary.

A fabulous suggestion! Tell them you have struggled with so many parcels, especially larger items and would be happy to accept them if you have a key. This would make it simpler all round as the parcels can go straight in their property!

Don’t think that’s a good idea as then you’d be spending your time running around their house opening the door for their deliveries , and why should you want to do that when they can behave so rudely . Also , need to think of security because if something went missing then all hell would be let loose !

This might work?

www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtG_FAzb5bw

Joking aside though, I echo what Oopsadaisy1 says. Don't fret about it.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Thanks everyone. Much appreciated x

they are cheeky pluckers.
don't stand for it.
keep a cool distance.
don't go in their house.
any more queries re heating etc just say, sorry, i need help myself.

Thank you all. I was beginning to feel like I was going mad lol
This will make you laugh…
When they moved in about a year or so ago, we knocked and invited them in for a cup of tea etc.
They have a 4 year old. I made a cake and put out chocolate biscuits for the child.
The father said , oh could she have some toast please….😮
My mouth dropped open and I was somewhat startled and said yes. He then went on to ask what bread I had as she only likes seeded bread ! I swear to you this is true.
Then a few months later he knocked at the door and said did we have any ketchup as they had run out and the kid likes it with her dinner. I said ok and they went.
Now bear in mind that the local shop is 6 mins walk from us, plus the fact that they have 2 cars!
A month later the ketchup was returned . I binned it. But the normal thing to do was to have bought a new one?
Maybe I am getting old or going bonkers but it is all bizarre behaviour. Thanks for listening

Oh please DONT ask for a key that could open a Pandora’s box what if something went missing from their house you d be chief suspect

Sikipoo They have a 4 year old. I made a cake and put out chocolate biscuits for the child. The father said , oh could she have some toast please….😮 My mouth dropped open and I was somewhat startled and said yes. He then went on to ask what bread I had as she only likes seeded bread ! I swear to you this is true.

This was your first red flat Sikipoo

flag, not flat

welbeck

they are cheeky pluckers.
don't stand for it.
keep a cool distance.
don't go in their house.
any more queries re heating etc just say, sorry, i need help myself.

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