My grandson hates me.

gaylemcdo, give him lots of space. If the parents are thinking about going out on errands, retreat to your corner of the apartment right away so that he sees that he has free use of the common areas without having to interact 24/7. Don’t loiter or crowd him, keeping in mind his age though of course. Basically, I think he is saying that you may be trying much to hard here, trying to force something that you both once enjoyed and he senses that. So schedule some time where his living space can feel like the old days. Maybe go out for a couple hours when he is home with his parents, have a lie in, read in your room, things like that. Allow him to come to you. He will eventually, I promise.

He turned 6 in October. He started kindergarten this year.

Thanks for the encouragement

you say that the apartment is small, well that is the problem I think.

Gaylemedo, now that you describe the family and the domestic arrangements your position is clearer.

Unless you are a very strong personality the young parents (or one of them) is going to call the shots about the child's behaviour. It seems hard, but you are going to have to comply with the way the household is run, except when you are in your own private apartment. My advice to you is are with him don't reward his bad behaviour by paying attention to it.

You will have to tell the parents if you can't control him when you meet him from school. If you can actually control him about crossing the road and other physical safety you could meet him from school and do him the favour of not replying to him or even making eye contact when he is rude.

I find some of the above comments really odd.

gaylemcdo ofcourse your GS doesn’t hate you. He is only 6 and ofcourse, he wants to be with his Mum. When my granddaughter was about that age and had to stay with me overnight, when her Mum was working late, she would cry for heaven knows, how long. Nothing I said would calm her. In the end, this may sound cruel, I let her cry herself to sleep. I would give her an item of my daughter’s clothing as a comforter. I never ever felt that she hated me. Don’t feel hurt or bad. I don’t want to rub salt into your wound, but why did you decide to move in with them? These arrangements very rarely work. It happened with my sis-in-law. But it was her d.I.l. who made her life miserable. She moved out and has since bought an apartment, of her own. Good luck

I am guessing you are in America rather than the uk? If you apartment is big enough and is actually self contained maybe you should spend most of your time there and only "visit" the main house occasionally. Could you " invite" you DGS for afternoon tea or a sleep over in your part. Keep some special toys treats etc for when he visits you. He does not hate you. He is struggling with the change in the set up from a visiting granny , who probably had a bag full of treats, to a new occupant in the house. If you collect him from school ask if he wants to go to " his" home or " yours".

happycatholicwife1

I find some of the above comments really odd.

Like mine? If so, how so? Thanks

Do you have your own outside door to the apartment or do you have to come and go through their space?
Could you continue to be as independent as you obviously were before you moved into the flat?
I would focus on my life as much as possible and not get involved on a day-to-day basis unless required.

I hope things settle down once you have made a new life for yourself.

It sounds like a huge adjustment to be truthful for all concerned.
Good luck.