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How Old (or Young) are you in your Head? šŸ¤”

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FannyCornforth Thu 26-Jan-23 11:35:03

Hello smile

Inspired by the ā€˜64’ thread.

How old do you really feel?

Do you believe in ā€˜arrested development’ or similar?
In the H***y threads it’s suggested that he ā€˜got stuck’ at the age he was when Diana died.

For me, 11 seems very significant, and also 25 (when my mom died).
I never feel older than 30 in my head.

Physically, it’s a totally different kettle of fish..

FannyCornforth Thu 26-Jan-23 15:57:22

I think that you may have misunderstood my op Baggs.

I’m not saying ā€˜you’re as old as you feel!’ nonsense.

I’m asking which ages seem significant.
For many reasons 11 is always the age that I think of.

I was in what I think of my prime; with so much promise; definitely the brightest I have ever been; and none of the adolescent stuff to take me off track.

Baggs Thu 26-Jan-23 16:52:29

I’m probably just too literal about age, FC. Nothing else was meant. And I only read the thread title, not noticing who wrote it. šŸ™‚

LRavenscroft Thu 26-Jan-23 17:02:54

In my head I am still 21. I notice my age when it comes to modern attitudes, manners, ways how society deals with things and then I realise I really am a 1950s baby. And for me the adage still stands: Discretion is the greater part of valour!

Marydoll Thu 26-Jan-23 17:04:06

I am about thirty in my head, with a zest for life, but about 100 healthwise!
My mind and body keep arguing with each other. wink

fancythat Thu 26-Jan-23 17:04:15

About 48.

I feel better now than I did 10 years ago. Back then, I felt about 88 some days.

FlexibleFriend Thu 26-Jan-23 17:11:18

It's really not something I ever think about, I'm just me and age is irrelevant.

Ohmother Thu 26-Jan-23 18:45:29

Baggs

What does being young or old in one's head even mean? I think it's a nonsensical question – utterly subjective and unhelpful.

Ouch! 😳

Grandmabatty Thu 26-Jan-23 18:54:45

My ex mil was old mentally when I first met her til her son and I split up. She had a very old fashioned attitude to life which she expected us to follow. My mum until recently was young at heart. So I don't consider the question nonsensical in the slightest. I've found the replies interesting

Alioop Thu 26-Jan-23 19:01:22

I'd say around 20. I still love the music from then and have a dance around the house with the hoover to it, but then my hips remind me later what age I actually am.

Allsorts Thu 26-Jan-23 19:03:02

Interesting question. Sometimes when not well I feel every year but in my head, I am just as interested in life and people and thinking ahead, that hasn’t changed. I hope I accept change, a lot not for the better, but it is what it is. Certainly kept my interest in clothes and travel.

VioletSky Thu 26-Jan-23 19:08:29

I don't know, not 46 that's for sure...

Body feels much older due to long term illness missed in the pandemic

Apart from that I'm a very responsible child with a serious nature marred by stupid sense of humour and I'm a very sensible idiot

Best I've got

Yammy Thu 26-Jan-23 19:22:25

I think I'm about 35 in my head. DH with final job, me with a permanent job that I thought would last until I retired,nice house and two children all content at last
Somedays I feel young and sprightly and do enjoy where we live now. Health issues are starting to change that and the lack of facilities, I know we will have to move again and it does pray on my mind. Losing a few cousins this last year has brought me up sharp.

Sara1954 Thu 26-Jan-23 19:53:23

I think I feel pretty much the same as when I was thirty, but when I look in the mirror I see a different story.
Worst of all are my grandchildren constantly taking photos ā€œTHAT IS NOT MEā€ I cry, ā€œI am young, slim and pretty ā€œ
They think I’m nuts, they obviously can’t imagine me that way, I’m just slightly plump, old granny.

dragonfly46 Thu 26-Jan-23 20:03:37

I am like Monica I have never thought age was important. I judge myself on my capabilities.

Baggs Thu 26-Jan-23 20:11:08

Ohmother

Baggs

What does being young or old in one's head even mean? I think it's a nonsensical question – utterly subjective and unhelpful.

Ouch! 😳

I fail to see what's ouch about what I said. Reading most of the replies it's perfectly obvious this is a subjective thing.

Which means my feelings about it are as valid as anyone else's and I have as much right to express them.

No need for anyone to take it personally.

hollysteers Thu 26-Jan-23 20:31:52

Bette Davies said ageing should stop at 36. That sounds about right and will do me, not too old, not too young.

I have an inner 9 year old who collects pop up books, toy theatres and trains.

Oreo Thu 26-Jan-23 21:38:21

M0nica

I am no age in my head and neer have been. There is just the essence of who I am, which is ageless.

I feel much the same as you, it’s just me in there.

Wyllow3 Thu 26-Jan-23 21:48:36

I feel my age, but am OK with it. Its brought blessings as well as problems. And the illness bits aren't helped by wishing them away and I feel better accepting and adjusting. Probably better at it, too.

M0nica Thu 26-Jan-23 23:20:49

Oreo exactly.

biglouis Fri 27-Jan-23 00:26:27

I still feel like Im living in the 1960s!

AussieGran59 Fri 27-Jan-23 00:39:49

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crazyH Fri 27-Jan-23 01:18:21

For some reason , I feel I am still in my early 40s. I liked those years. Family complete. Husband was offered parity in the partnership. Children at that lovely age. A health scare with my middle son, was behind us. He was fine. But little did I know it was the calm before the storm. Husband’s affair knocked me for six. Heading into my 50s, start of divorce proceedings which took 5 years to settle. Back to stability now.

absent Fri 27-Jan-23 06:23:42

I am 72, approaching 73. I feel that age. My health is not great and I find some things hard. I look like an old woman because I am an old woman. I cannot pretend that I am 30 or 40 years old because those years are long past. That doesn't mean that I think I am past it or of no value any more. It just means that I am realistic. I am valued by many people – families and those for whom I volunteer – so I don't feel useless and I don't feel I have to pretend that I am younger than I really am. Seems silly to me to believe that you are years younger than where you are. I am still there with all my cough drops.

FannyCornforth Fri 27-Jan-23 07:04:46

Baggs

I’m probably just too literal about age, FC. Nothing else was meant. And I only read the thread title, not noticing who wrote it. šŸ™‚

Thanks Baggs thanks

FannyCornforth Fri 27-Jan-23 07:08:10

I agree with you in the main Monica
But someone I worry that I feel far too young.
I honestly think that I have the sensibilities of a child ( an 11 year old specifically).
It was a time that I was very happy, so there must be something in that.
I’ve found the responses on here cheering and reassuring
Thanks all.
I’ve