Eventful Day…..told to f*** off

Luckygirl3 if this happened recently I'd call the school and tell them.
I think they would be interested.

A while ago my DH was on the bus and an elderly lady with a walking stick was trying to get off the bus, but a young would not move even though she kept saying excuse me.

My DH gently hit the young hooligan with his newspaper and told him to move - the whole bus cheered. I do not condone any violence, but I bet his face was a picture, hopefully with embarrassment.

An old bloke (e.g. older than me) had a rant at me outside my DGS' school a couple of weeks ago. Because I'd parked next to him. ???? Fortunately, at the time, I was a bit on edge anyway and freely gave back as well as I got, in my poshest accent.

A few weeks before that, a teenage boy tried it on (again, outside grandson's school) trying to intimidate me to move. But as a teacher, I'm well capable of dealing with teenagers and other than a cursory response, ignored him which clearly irritated him. When he'd gone, one of the mothers asked if I was OK.

I admit I wouldn't appreciate a stranger telling me to breathe in. All a bit too casual and entitled perhaps. A loudish ‘Excuse me’ said with a smile followed by a swift thank you works well. I am trained to be assertive and it is not being firm, giving instruction etc but manipulating others to do your bidding so they’re not really aware of their concession.
The one thing I find almost unbearable is adults in supermarkets glued to their mobile, while letting their children swing the trolley around. Not the kids fault, they’re just not being supervised.

Luckygirl3

Some young people from a local cathedral school were walking through the town pedestrian precinct and taunting an East European Big Issue seller. They got pretty short shrift from me and shuffled off red-faced.

Good for you Lucky, well done. Yes, I would definitely ring the Head of the School and get her/him to speak about it in Assembly.

80 year old neighbour was knocked to the ground by a cyclist riding on the footpath. He didnt even stop.

you should have just said 'excuse me please' in the first place

I was taught to say that as a child when I needed to pass two teachers in the corridor but I said to mother, 'can I just squeeze past' and she said a firm No! always excuse me please and don't forget the please!

A woman pushed past my mum, who was coming out of toilets in a shopping centre and my mum fell and hit her head on the tiled wall. She died 2 weeks later with a bleed on her brain. Other people stopped to help my mum, the woman who knocked her over rushed on, ignoring her lying there.

Alioop

A woman pushed past my mum, who was coming out of toilets in a shopping centre and my mum fell and hit her head on the tiled wall. She died 2 weeks later with a bleed on her brain. Other people stopped to help my mum, the woman who knocked her over rushed on, ignoring her lying there.

I'm so sorry Alioop, that is just horrifying... your poor Mum.

A dog walker told me he hoped I got fu**ing raped. My crime, I am frightened of dogs. His was wildly excited and running round me. When he said “he’ll not hurt you”, as they always do. All l said was “right” he changed direction to follow me shouting and swearing. This was in the dark, while walking home from work. I was terrified.
I “ran into him” a few weeks ago. I was out with my husband who was taking me to the fracture clinic for my broken shoulder and his wretched dog kept dropping its ball at my feet. DH kept telling him to keep his dog away but ….
Funny but he didn’t hurl any obscenities at me when I was with a man. I didn’t think he could sink any lower in my esteem. But he really is a lowlife.
I wouldn’t insult men by calling “it” a man

Honestly, as a mom of young kids, if people do something I don't want my kids to learn, I am happy to speak up myself

I wouldn't like anybody to use me as an example because they do not approve of other people's behavior, especially If that person does not know me

This situation had disaster written all over it
They are teenagers! What did they exactly say?
Being told " I am old enough to be your mom" takes the cake - honestly hilarious, as if you held power or authority over them

Oh Mogsmaw that is absolutely horrendously shocking.
They really do walk among us. Absolute scum of the earth
I’m so sorry that happened to you 💐

When my friend challenged a dog walker he threatened to kick her into the sea.

Crikey, there are some horrid people out there! Heres some virtual 💐 for you lovely People. Thank you for your kind comments. I shall learn from this.

Mogsmaw

A dog walker told me he hoped I got fu**ing raped. My crime, I am frightened of dogs. His was wildly excited and running round me. When he said “he’ll not hurt you”, as they always do. All l said was “right” he changed direction to follow me shouting and swearing. This was in the dark, while walking home from work. I was terrified.
I “ran into him” a few weeks ago. I was out with my husband who was taking me to the fracture clinic for my broken shoulder and his wretched dog kept dropping its ball at my feet. DH kept telling him to keep his dog away but ….
Funny but he didn’t hurl any obscenities at me when I was with a man. I didn’t think he could sink any lower in my esteem. But he really is a lowlife.
I wouldn’t insult men by calling “it” a man

The casual, instinctive, violent response of people is really worrying.

Was society always like this?

I got called a "f***ing retard" on a social media platform a few months ago. My crime? I pointed out to a man who was insisting that "tarmac-is-tarmac-and-it's-all-the-same" that there is open-graded and close-graded tarmac and that used on driveways is not necessarily the same as that used on roads. What on earth could justify such an abusive response? Other than sheer misogyny...

Reminds me of a music-hall song my mother used to sing (facetiously):

Two lovely black eyes - oh what a surprise,
only for telling a man he was wrong.
I got two lovely black eyes.

Of course that thug didn't say anything to you when your husband was with you - like all oafish bullies, he is a coward, picking on those he feels he can intimidate. But what he actually said to you also indicates misogyny, lumbering, loutish misogyny, which is so prevalent now. You insulted his fragile ego because you didn't 'respect' his flippin' dog...

I agree Lemsip. I always add the please and say excuse me please followed by thank you if the person responds. It doesn’t always work though even with please.

My first thought is 'on drugs?' Simple dope-smoking can make people paranoid and irritable, and it's extremely common.

Possibly had a really poor role model, a lot of domestic violence and general disrespect for women out there amongst a few unpleasant characters. You did the right thing treating him like a normal person and I hope it doesn't stop you treating young men like that as most are perfectly nice and well socialized.

There was a time when Shopkeeper's themselves would have had a go at the ones giving out bad language etc in their shop but not much these days- i guess they need the custom that much or theyre afraid of recrimination from them.Or both.😐

These days you never know if they are on ice or some other drug when they behave like this. Once I would challenge anyone who was rude but now I feel I don’t want a knife or gun pulled on me so I don’t.

Just a rude human. Lots around. No respect or manners. I would say excuse me , rather than breath in, as younger generation probably just wouldn’t understand what you mean by it. Not sure I would, and being large I’d think you were being rude. Certainly wouldn’t reply like
That though! Let it go and just be glad his not your neighbour and you don’t have to see him again

Just to say that bad manners are not restricted to the younger generation. Just returned from a cruise where I experienced several instances of this from the older passengers. Firstly, when exiting a lift, a man (not a gentleman) pushed into the lift also knocking me over. I am not slow or doddery - he just couldn’t wait for me to exit.
On another occasion half a dozen people were queuing for an item at the buffet when a sprightly older lady went straight past the queue and asked to be served. I said loudly that there was a queue and her riposte was “Well I’m at the front now”. Don’t always blame the youth sometimes older people set a bad example.

Pink hair does constitute a wrong 'un though- ive brought all 7 of my kids up in the right way, as i was, and none of them would treat folk the ways youve described- in fact they'd probably be the ones 'speaking up' for people- its how i brought them up to be- correctly- but occasionally my daughters dye their hair bright colours (including pink or red etc) and one even has a couple of tattoos hidden away(kids names etc)But that in no way means she's the type to loudmouth, swear or mistreat folk.Im afraid thats just down to how these nasty people have been dragged up.🤨

I was in Oxford Street in early December and it was very busy. I was trying to cross from the underground station to where Top Shop used to be when a very tall man, about 30, stopped in the middle of the road with me right behind him. I did say out loud, 'don't stop in the middle of the road, we'll get knocked over' (the lights were just about to change and I was worried we would be mowed down)to which his response was SHUT UP!

I have been known to open my mouth once or twice but have been told by people in the past that they dont expect it of me because I’m normally quiet and mild natured. It’s only when I do open my mouth that people see a totally different side of me and the fact I’m not the total pushover that they think I am