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Mum's fallen. Just need some words of comfort.

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Jellybaby71011 Sun 26-Feb-23 23:40:27

First time posting. My 95 year old mum lives with us. I am her carer. She fell at 10.30. Hurt her hip and knee and shoulder. Ambulance will be 4 to 8 hours at least. She’s on a hard wooden floor. We can’t move her. She’s in so much pain. And she’s so lovely.
Never complains and I can’t bear to see her laying there. And there’s nothing I can do.
She’s blind. Deaf. Very limited mobility. But so stoical and cheerful. And I’m so sad and frightened.
Thanks for reading.

ginny Wed 03-May-23 07:56:45

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dogsmother Wed 03-May-23 07:57:04

Sincere condolences to you and may your dear mother now rest easy 💐

GrannyGravy13 Wed 03-May-23 07:59:21

Sending (((hugs))) and my condolences Jellybaby71011 💐

BlueBelle Wed 03-May-23 07:59:44

My elderly bestfriend who recently broke her hip has had the most wonderful treatment at our local hospital she gave the Occupational therapist her house key and they went and measured all her furniture and got items ready for her to go home after two weeks in hospital including a commode by her bed
As she lives alone they have arranged 6 weeks of three times a day carers paid for by NHS she has done so well and is now completing her first week back home she can’t praise the treatment enough It is so dependant on individual hospitals
Good luck to you and your mum x

Nanatoone Wed 03-May-23 08:01:11

I didn’t see this thread originally Jellybaby, my sincere condolences especially having read through it. Your poor mum is at peace at last.

harrigran Wed 03-May-23 08:04:23

My sincere condolences Jellybaby flowers

Caramme Wed 03-May-23 08:05:08

I have just seen this. My heart goes out to you and your Mum. Much the same happened to my late mum and the whole thing is so very stressful and exhausting. Hopefully your mum is getting good care now and her pain is under control. Hospitals are confusing places at the best of times; for an elderly person who is deaf and blind it must be very frightening experience. I hope you and your DH are now able to get some rest.

AskAlice Wed 03-May-23 08:18:05

My condolences Jellybaby on your sad loss.

Witzend Wed 03-May-23 08:22:11

💐 jellybaby

Aveline Wed 03-May-23 08:28:48

Oh Jellybaby. Such a sad time for you. At least your mother is at peace and you know that you could not have done more for her. thanks

Susan56 Wed 03-May-23 08:31:59

So sorry 💐

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 03-May-23 08:36:46

I’m so very sorry. You have been a wonderful, loving, caring daughter and could not have done more for your dear Mum. Try to take some comfort from that, and from the knowledge that she is no longer suffering. 💐

Oopsadaisy1 Wed 03-May-23 08:38:16

Condolences to you and you family, no matter how old we are losing our Mum is never easy.
💐

Primrose53 Wed 03-May-23 08:40:13

So sorry Jellybaby. I know exactly how you feel as my Mum passed away at Christmas 2020 aged 96 and a half. It is a grand age but it’s still your Mum. I am sure, like myself, you did everything for her and my only regret is that due to the pandemic there was a long period when we were not allowed to visit her. Imagine going from seeing me almost every day to not seeing me at all. She was heartbroken and my husband is convinced she gave up due to this.

May your dear Mum rest in peace and I hope you have lovely memories and know you could have done no more. Xxx

spottybook Wed 03-May-23 08:45:59

So sorry to hear about your Mum. A sad time for you and the family.

Georgesgran Wed 03-May-23 08:49:38

Sincere condolences. 💐

Caramme Wed 03-May-23 08:49:40

I am so very so that you have lost your lovely Mum. We all know that this is inevitable but that doesn’t’t make it any easier. I wish you peace of mind and time to recover.

Georgesgran Wed 03-May-23 08:58:25

If ever there was a need to read the thread, or at least JellyB’s additional post yesterday, this is it!

dragonfly46 Wed 03-May-23 08:58:38

So sorry to hear this Jellybaby I send sincere condolences.

luluaugust Wed 03-May-23 09:02:27

So sorry to read your news Jellybaby

sodapop Wed 03-May-23 09:14:50

So very sorry to hear about your Mum Jellybaby sounds like she was a lovely lady. Find comfort in the fact that you did everything you could for her and you clearly loved each other a lot. God bless you all. thanks

ixion Wed 03-May-23 09:24:31

I was so saddened to read your update, having shared with you a journey which is so familiar - and painful - to so many of us here.
Please take some comfort in the fact that you have done your very best for a lady who seems the loveliest of Mums.
🥀

Chocolatelovinggran Wed 03-May-23 09:32:27

Condolences to you Jellybaby. I hope that, in time, you will be able to forget the last few sad weeks and remember the good times with your Mum. Clearly, she was loved and loving - no better epitaph.

Sorchame Wed 03-May-23 09:43:52

I echo Ixion's post.
Sincere condolences to you and your family Jellybaby.

Norah Wed 03-May-23 09:57:11

Your Mum is at peace, I'm sorry for your loss. flowers