I've just found this post and am very upset by it and send my condolences. Being left on the floor for hours with potential broken bones in agony, being half dressed and left. It makes one shudder to think how many very old people suffer who do not have loving family members watching over them.
Similar things happened to my mum. It is happening to my daughter's mother in law now. All so familiar, the falls, the delerium, the UTI 's the denial of food. You did the right thing for her you were able to be there all the way. That is all we can do, and hope for.
And I wish all older people were treated by the services with more respect more dignity less as 'lingerers' as I've seen them called and 'bed blockers' as if they were something vexing the system instead of being the rightful focus. Death will come to us all, the NHS no longer cares for us 'to the grave' as it once promised. We are then at the mercy of cash-strapped councils and the private sector. (Both my mother's care and my daughter's MIL cost nearly a thousand pound a week.) Geriatric care is no longer provided by the State. Attitudes must change there is a taboo about the realities of death and dying. Even the word is not used now.
I'm sorry if that was painful for you to read at this time Jellybaby71011. Your mother was a star. And so are you and your husband.
