Mum's fallen. Just need some words of comfort.

jelly, you need to ask for an occupational health assessment as she cannot come home under current circumstances. The health service can fund 6 weeks in a respite/rehab home at the very least where she can recuperate and further meetings can be had to consider appropriate care.

I'm so sorry, this is a very stressful time for you all fancy leaving her in inappropriate clothing too

We've cared for three elderly parents, at the same time as bringing up young children and working and now have siblings and their spouses who are in care or may need care.

We do know the difficulties involved, the hurdles to overcome.

Aveline, I did not know hospital volunteers could do hands-on care in a ward, and am very glad to read your message.
Not only that, but also I am so glad there are sympathetic and efficient carers like you.

I don't do hands on care but if I saw a patient like that lady I'd have popped a rug over her.

Again lots of kind responses and good ideas. Thank you.
Fortunately she already has a social worker as we’d asked for and been allocated a respite place which was due to start on the Monday morning 12 hours after she fell!
She’s a lovely lady and extremely sympathetic. She’s going to see my mother next week. And has already been in touch with us. So that’s one less worry.
I find any sort of confrontation or complaining very difficult.
I did have a meeting with the nurse in charge and she was very apologetic.
We can see just how busy the staff are. And how hard working.

Callistemon21

Glorianny I've just had a message and it seems there is now an action plan in place for him which is starting today. 👍

That's great. Hope all goes well. I think it is a great problem wanting to get your loved one out of hospital but knowing you couldn't cope with all the work. You feel inadequate. All the best to your friend and her DH.

My mum is in her late 80’s and is often in and out of hospital, I would be very angry & upset to find her sitting in just pants and a cardigan, that’s not acceptable at all. They should have a Privacy & Dignity policy which would usually state staff should endeavour to ensure patients are properly clothed or covered at all times. I know it can be difficult as some patients remove clothing and throw covers off etc but it sounds like this lady hadn’t been helped to dress properly at all and has just been left sitting in her underwear.

Glorianny

Callistemon21

Glorianny I've just had a message and it seems there is now an action plan in place for him which is starting today. 👍

That's great. Hope all goes well. I think it is a great problem wanting to get your loved one out of hospital but knowing you couldn't cope with all the work. You feel inadequate. All the best to your friend and her DH.

Thanks Glorianny
He might do as he's told by the medical professionals!

Sad update.
Sadly Mum died earlier this evening. She had been deteriorating daily for weeks. And had been refusing food for at least a month. The delirium never left her. All active treatment was withdrawn at the end of last week. And she was just having regular morphine.
My wonderfully supportive husband and I were with her as she just peacefully stopped breathing.
95 years of being a lovely mum, Nan and great Nan.

Condolences Jellybaby 💐

Jellybaby71011

Sad update.
Sadly Mum died earlier this evening. She had been deteriorating daily for weeks. And had been refusing food for at least a month. The delirium never left her. All active treatment was withdrawn at the end of last week. And she was just having regular morphine.
My wonderfully supportive husband and I were with her as she just peacefully stopped breathing.
95 years of being a lovely mum, Nan and great Nan.

Oh bless your heart. Condolences to you. It seems she died peacefully. And you were with her
Even when expected, death comes as a shock.

I’m so sorry…

Jellybaby71011 Sincere condolences to you and the rest of your family

So sorry

I’m sorry, Jellybaby.

Very sorry for your loss, JB

jellybaby so sorry. Have just seen this thread. Sincere condolences on the loss of your lovely mum.
If it’s any consolation my mum had delirium due to dehydration and she was unaware that I was with her. It was a distressing time as I was so worried she couldn’t understand what was going on. When she recovered she couldn’t remember anything about the whole episode. Please don’t think your mum was feeling like that at the end. I’m sure if anything was in her mind it would have been your loving care for all these years.

I’m so very sorry for your sad loss of your mum Jellybaby ♥️

So very sorry for your loss Jellybaby sending you lots of hugs

So sorry for your loss, Jellybaby. You must feel so sad, yet relieved that your Mum’s suffering is over.
I did not see your post back in February as I was busy caring for DH, at home in recovery after a heart attack and three weeks in hospital. Sadly he took a turn for the worse and died just a few days ago.
The support on Gransnet is wonderful, especially when it is the middle of the night and your family are asleep.
I hope you will have help to cope with the busy days ahead. I have been held up with official matters because of the long Bank Holiday weekend, and another one to come: the backlog will worsen. Do stay online for more support. It is a wonderful community here.

Have just read your post and was sorry about your mums fall and touched by how much you obviously loved her.
I am so sorry that she has died, you will be in shock and am sending you a gentle hug.

Sending you my sincere condolences, and a gentle hug. It's hard to lose a mum, no matter how old they are.
May your dear mum rest in peace.

So sorry Jellybaby

So very sorry for the sad loss of your Mum Jellybaby