Keeping up appearances - or not!

Yes of course it's OK to do what you want when you want, and is nobody's business but yours Foxygloves.

Your own business, Foxygloves, you're not hurting anyone!
I'm very comfortable in my pj's, and why mucky up clothes if we're not going out?!

It's fine to do exactly what you want to to do. It's harming no-one . And it's nobody else's business. So relax and enjoy

I am going to buy some new nightwear tomorrow. I was looking online and found these.
Actually will send link in next post.

I think there are more and more people who stay longer in nightwear in the morning, and go into it earlier at nighttime, particularly in winter.

Perhaps that is why the M&S range now look much more like summer dresses?

Whatever makes you feel comfortable! I am very often in just a nightdress, until I have to get ready to go out on an errand. Lots of GNs here, (I know from previous posts) feel slovenly if they havent got ‘dressed’ before breakfast. I even prepare the evening meal in my nightie. Ofcourse, it goes straight into the wash after that - I’m not that bad 😂

It’s your choice, you must do exactly what you like in your own home and garden and be comfortable - just don’t start going to the supermarket in your nightwear like some people do, that’s going too far in my option.

www.marksandspencer.com/l/lingerie/nightwear/nightdresses/fs5/cotton

I'm Team Foxygloves . All my life I've had to be up early and dressed appropriately to fit around other people, and now I don't need to I refuse. I happily sit in (clean) PJs or a hoodie and leggings if I am going nowhere and expecting nobody. Before anyone posts about standards, my standards are based on how I treat people, not how far I conform to some sort of social expectation. I scrub up ok when I go out or am in company, so I don't scare the neighbours, and that's enough for me. My home is my castle - I've worked for it and I enjoy it as I wish.

Flannel pj bottoms and a t shirt top for me, often in them all morning, so comfy and why not?

Foxygloves ...is it OK to do what I want when I want and nobody’s business but my own?

Of course.

We wake, walk the dogs in our oldest washables, have coffees/ breakfast. He goes off to his work buildings, getting even dirtier.

I work around, cook, do books, walk the dogs again, garden.

We finally bathe/dress when he finishes working. Eat lunch.

People do what suits them.

I don't find that odd at all as it is comfortable, what I find strange is when people state on here that they are up, showered, dressed, full make-up, and hair done all before 6 am, then all they do is sit reading and commenting on this forum.

One of the pleasures of retirement, for me, is not having to get up and bustle about in the morning.

I do try not to judge people who are naturally morning people though; I know it’s not their fault, and there’s nothing intrinsically worse about their habits.

I wear a kaftan around the house and very rarely have anything on under it as it comes down to my ankles. On rare occasions I have gone to collect a package and the driver has apologised for "getting me out of bed". I usually assure them with a smile that this is what I normally wear and they have not got me out of bed. As I sleep commando style I would never get out of bed to answer the door.

What I wear to answer the door is my business providing I am decently covered. I have a very healthy disregard for the opinions of random callers. If they dont like it tough s**t!

I usually get dressed by about 9 am - 9.30 am which is very late compared with how it was when I was working - I would drive to work and start at 8 a.m. because it was peaceful at this time and I could get a lot done. I really don’t like sitting around in P.Js, even if I’m ill. Trackie daks and a T shirt was my lockdown uniform and that is what I wear for gardening now . Usually if I go to the shops I upgrade the trackies to jeans!

I am often in my jimjams until lunchtime, its warm in there! So long as I am washed and dressed in time to cook lunch its a good day! S*d what the neighbours/[postmen think!

I’m an early bird and prefer to shower and dress first thing I like to walk every day so if I’m dressed there’s no excuse.
Of course we’re all different and staying in PJs is fine if that what suits you.

I’m having an off day today - my mojo has gone missing, so I’ve just washed my hair, put on a bath robe and intend to read a chapter of my book! I think I’ll head to a local garden centre later for a bag of compost and a few plants, if I can handle all the excitement!
Usually, I’d be up, dressed and out of the house by 10am most mornings.

I don’t do mornings and haven’t done so for a few years now, more so since the pandemic. Kaftans and matching PJs and gowns for mornings pleasing myself wearing what I refer to as my goonie. All appointments are made for pm. After years of being up and organised at the crack of dawn I now have time to call my own and boy, it’s bliss.
Time to do what you enjoy doing now Foxygloves…embrace it along with your adorable sleepy hound. 😄

Perhaps different if one has dogs who need walking at wakeup? Thus we throw on washables, get out into the fields at dawn.

I wouldn't feel guilty Foxygloves. Used to be up and dressed, hair washed, full make up etc, before 7am.

My son was shocked to find me still in jammies at 11 am, the other day! I couldn't summon the energy to get dressed.

I have a builder friend. Who was doing some work here last week. I had forgotten he was coming.
Day 1. I happened to be dressed early so was looking fine.
Day 2 I got caught out. Still in nightdress. But he didnt bat an eyelid.
I suspect he is well used to people in sleepwear when he arrives somewhere. And as I wrote earlier, it has become more normal nowadays I think.

Having been spared to reach retirement age (12 years ago now), I reserve the right to grow older disgracefully, and to do what I darned well please, with the proviso that my peccadillos do no harm to anyone else. Very little need to refer to a timetable, other than for my season ticket with NHS services, go to bed when I'm tired, get up when I feel like it, slob around until I decide to take a shower. Ain't life great... As regards "forbidden fruits", at my age, I'm with Rumpole of the Bailey, who accurately stated that "I can think of no earthly pleasure I would wish to forgo for the sake of even one extra day in the Eventide Home for the terminally bewildered in Scarborough". Feeling guilty? Not on your life. Revel in it while you're still able to do so.

I have been caught out occasionally by someone calling round so I do try to be dressed by 9.30. And, if I haven't got dressed by then, I probably never will.

I would be a bit embarrassed if someone called and found me undressed, but tbh, I think that unannounced 'dropping in' is rude, so the fault would be with the caller, who should be the one who feels bad.