What’s the point of life?

Made in Yorkshire
I read your previous thread and send a gentle hug as you travel the hardest journey for any mum,

Thanks again for all your kind messages and advice. My husband is not my children’s Dad, I left him because of adulterery and abuse. I am normally bright and see the good in everyday but this morning I had a big black cloud. But, the sun came out, we made some Pimms and had a BBQ with some friends feeling a lot better now. All things will pass.

MadeinYorkshire sending hugs. 💐

why don't your children like your husband.
is it something to do with inheritance.
or do they have a legitimate concern, for you ?

Wellbeck they have no concerns for my safety. Something has happened he said something that he will regret for the rest of his life. I want to scream at them and ask them if they have never done anything they regret.

I'm sorry but tough love

Why are you standing by an abusive cheating husband who has hurt your family and still defending him?

That's not ok, just because you have chosen to put up with it your family does not have to an they are right to want you out of there

Please go to the doctor's and get help to make a better life for yourself and your family

Hildegard and Made in Yorkshire. I am sorry you are both going through such hard times. Made in Yorkshire, I read your previous post, it's so heartbreaking, I can only try to imagine your pain. (I am in Yorkshire too if you want to pm). Sending love to you both. Life can be very cruel.

These people, they really hurt you, they bring you as low as you can possibly go and then they flick the switch and you think you have the most wonderful loving man on the planet and that's the real him.

It isn't.

The abuse is the real him

Your family know this

VS, i read it as the first husband having cheated, not this one.
this one said something wrong which upset ACs.

presumably he has tried expressing sincere contrition to them ?

welbeck

Oh you are right

I'm sorry I got things wrong

But I can see why your family would be extra protective of you OP and I think you need to address this and make sure an apology is given

Violet Sky if you'd try to reign in your misplaced anger and poor advice for a second and take the time to re read Hildegard'a post at 19.44, you'd see that she LEFT HER CHILDREN'S FATHER DUE TO HIS ADULTERY AND ABUSE. The man she is married to now is NOT abusive or cheating and isn't the reason her children dislike him.

Is this about his cross dressing?
Your background indicates you have had issues with your daughter for years - hope it improved since then

No. Not cross dressing either.

Pomegranateseed

Violet Sky if you'd try to reign in your misplaced anger and poor advice for a second and take the time to re read Hildegard'a post at 19.44, you'd see that she LEFT HER CHILDREN'S FATHER DUE TO HIS ADULTERY AND ABUSE. The man she is married to now is NOT abusive or cheating and isn't the reason her children dislike him.

I misread

Are you ok?

If he has apologised for what he has said then they are being quite mean really I'm glad you had a BBQ and nice time with friends

What did he say, exactly?

Some words cannot be forgotten and damage is done

As we age the big girl pants tend to work overtime.

I am sorry there are those who are feeling low.

I do not think that there is any value in asking oneself what is the point of life - it simply is what it is, and we find joy where we may.

The point of life is that usually it’s better than the alternative - but the line can be very fine.