I'd forgotten what it's like!!

I used to think my dd1 would become massively tidier once she had her own house, and with the first, she did.

However, 10+ years and 3 children later, plus working more or less full time, she is just as cheerfully lackadaisical as before - will greet you at the door with, ‘Ignore the carnage, I’ve had no time.’

But they’ve always got friends round, nobody ever seems to care - the atmosphere is invariably warm and welcoming.

When she was a student, a shared house was once burgled. Police came round and asked what was missing - they were 😱at the state of her room, which looked as if it had been thoroughly ransacked - she had to tell them it wasn’t the burglar - that was its normal state!

I remember leaving my son around about that age before I was due home he sent me a photo of kitchen as I'd warned him about leaving a mess it was perfect I later found out he'd used paper plates and cups and had takeaways all week

I feel your pain as next week we have our DG who’s 14 (going on 20) staying with us while mum & Dad go on holiday. My DH’s got dementia and is staying at their house with DG for a couple of days whilst he’s at school then he’s coming to our home for 3/4 nights. He’s gaming online mad and I won’t allow him to ‘plug into’ our TV because unless my DS is home we can never get the channels back correctly. So when he’s bored he really lets me know plus eats me out of house & home in the process. I would prefer him to stay at his parents home with my husband but they are not near any shops etc for my DH plus he now cannot drive. Also after nearly setting our kitchen on fire last week I’ve come to realise his dementia is worse than the last time he stayed at their home when they went on holiday and DH babysat for the week which was great as I had not only a rest, ate what I liked or not (hubby doesn’t like beans on toast etc 🙄) and I managed to clean the house and it stayed clean! So next week I will be running between their home and ours, half hour driving each way, and then both back here with a stroppy bored teenager and husband that isn’t far behind him in his ways. Oh joy of joy I will enjoy the first 2 nights hopefully with peace and quiet.

I’m sorry about your GD! But she has to be told to respect your home! I’m appalled by her attitude and saddened by her disrespect towards you!
Totally not acceptable - take care

I would just endure the temporary mess (as I am sure you are doing tanith). How lovely that your GD is happy to stay with you - enjoy your time together, get her to paint your nails and do your hair!

When she leaves you will appreciate your "space" all the more!

My DD and SIL moved in with us for three months, after they sold their flat.
I had forgotten how messy DD was. I had a feeling of déjà vu, when I looked into her old bedroom, where they were sleeping. 😱.

In saying that, my kitchen was sparkling clean. SIL loves to do dishes and is a bit of a cleaning freak in the kitchen.

Enjoy every minute. It's wonderful that she comes to stay at all and a great complement to you. Go out and have fun. Make it a trip to remember for all the right reasons! Life is short.

Think my granddaughter and her female housemates must be in the minority then ! There are 4 of them sharing a house in Durham while at Uni and the house is immaculate, but they are all older than 18. Bet the landlord sees a difference between them and a houseful of boys !

My eldest daughter used to be exactly the same when she lived at home. Now she has her own house everything is immaculate and you even have to take your shoes off when you go in!!

I still have 20 yr old son at home- hes much worse! And yes i have tried teach him, tell him, nag him, yell at him, even threaten him that ill get a cleaner to his room & make him pay for it....all to no use whatsoever.Oh and hes still living at home for uni as well from september for next 3-4 years....🫤

His brothers room (24) is lovely😊

Just enjoy it. You will miss her when she is gone. Remember how much you miss those little hand prints on your patio doors.

Enjoy her company while you can - out of my four adult children my 22 yea old daughter became very close to my Mum, she was devastated when she passed awa last June x

Oh I love it when my teenage granddaughters come and stay. I get involved sit on there bed and discuss what makeup techniques are new. What concerts they’re planning on going to etc. There’s plenty of time to clean the house once they’ve gone home.

Babamaman if you had bothered to read my first and subsequent posts properly you would see that my GD totally respects my home and clears up after herself as she should. Anyone else who wants to negatively comment should first read all my posts on this thread.
I posted lightheartedly a thread I thought would resonate with people and make them smile, just a shame post without fully reading the thread.

Let us celebrate having young females in our families - however tidy, messy, thoughtless and/or thoughtful they are.

She sounds clean compared to my lovely 18-year-old granddaughter. She came to look after me after my eye surgery. I ended up looking after her and picking up her dirty knickers randomly left all over my home. The loveliest girl but so unity. However, it was worth it she cheered me up no end after emergency eye surgery and I was able to go out to car boot sale and for a coffee holding her arm. She is sweet and fun company, I would have her here in a flash anytime despite the mess.

I had my 18 yr old GC and friend stay for 3 weeks. Lots of mess confined to their room. I loved every minute of it! They were over from Australia and we all had a great time!

I asked my usually sensible 22 year old daughter to come to mine to look after her less sensible 16 year old brother whilst we went on holiday. I couldn't believe it when my son rang me in the middle of the night saying he was fed up because he couldn't sleep because his sister had invited everybody from the Pub round for a midnight swim. I was just going to ring my parents to ask them to go round when I got a message from my son who said, not to worry, he'd got rid of them by taking out electrical fuse for the pool lights and heater and the one which was playing the music. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry!

How lovely..I don't mean the mess . Obviously, that's annoying. I don't like it when my adult kids and grandkids turn up and the house is a pig stye.
However, it's what teenagers do ...and I love them.
They grow up and become all perfect and tidy...my messiest now has a perfect home.
Embrace and enjoy for it's all such a short time.

My two girls stayed at home when at uni as well. I had one doing her doctorate and the other a BSc and it was hell. What a couple of muck buckets ! All the usual stuff AND book and papers and files EVERYWHERE! They left in their mid 20s and I got my house back .

Turn a blind eye ….and enjoy her company . Not every 18 yr old would want to stay with gran…..come to think of it ….why is she!? I left my 17 yr old daughter and 14yr old son and went on holiday for 4 days. I informed the school …and they assured me they’d check and make sure they turned up to school. I told my kids that I trusted them to behave well…and that I’d informed the school! When I got home the house was spotless !!! 🤔….So question is “ why don’t her parents trust her to look after herself at 18 ?”

Teens & Toddlers = Trouble! 😂

When my girls lived at home as teenagers their rooms were all foul and I refused to tidy them for them. Funny, now they have grown up and some have their own teenagers their houses are tidy but their kids’ rooms are foul— and so it continues.

It's not only teenagers! 18 months ago my daughter moved home after more than a decade of independent living, after getting a new job in my region. I agreed to this to enable her to save for her own home, which we anticipated taking less than a year to achieve. Then came the cost of living crisis, with rising mortgage rates etc, so buying had to be postponed. Since then she has been made redundant, so we are thankful she hadn't taken the plunge to get a mortgage. She now has a new job offer and will be emigrating!
She has taken over 3 rooms of my house and most of my garage but now needs to start getting rid of much of her belongings before moving abroad as I will not be storing boxes of old belongings which are not worth her shipping with her,
I'm wanting to move myself, to downsize to a cheaper part of the country, so I also need to declutter.
I can't blame her for all the mess as I'm not the tidiest person myself, but other people's mess is so much more difficult to live with than one's own! I lived alone after her younger sibling went to university, so getting my own space back will be nice. I will miss her immensely but only having to deal with my own mess will be a great relief.