This ‘love you!’ malarkey.

I once told a call centre handler that I loved him.
I had had the worst exchange ever with a handler after being locked out of Netflix.
The call ended with me being abusive.
I then got a call asking me if my problem had been resolved 😡
He was so sweet and patient and used words I understood 😄

I bet you made his day

It's not a phrase we use in our family. At the end of a phone call I usually say "speak to you soon" .

It’s used regularly in my family, and between a handful of. Dry close friends. It’s said because it’s true

Can we have a definition of love?

My definition would be someone who I want in my life for the rest of it in a personal capacity because they make it better by existing

My daughters don't say it and I don't say it back. They know without saying it. I don't say See you later either. Why do people say it when you know you won't.

I will never regret these being the last words I said to my apparently well mum after a chatty phone call.

That night my mum died unexpectedly in her sleep.

I must admit that I rather like Scott Mills’s “love you bye” at the end of every call. Particularly when there’s some big and burly masculine (sounding) man on the phone. And that everyone returns it to him. Cheers me up.

I listen to Scott every week on Must Watch and I’m not surprised that he says ‘love you’ to people. He’s lovely. I think a lot of people relied on doing lots of things by phone during the pandemic and got into the habit of saying ‘stay safe’ at the end of a phone call. I know I did. Maybe love you is a knock on effect from that.

Sparkly- same here. I’d been sitting on mums bed in her ‘temporary’ nursing home place. She woke up , she was registered partially sighted “ is that you Iam are you still here”it’s me mum and yes I’m still here. I love yiu iamlove she said”I love you too mum
She had a major stroke within hours so we never spoke to each other again. Very precious memory

EMMYPEMMY

Never use it
Love you
Please , really pple have to be told constantly

I use it constantly.

I think you should often tell people how much you love and value them.

It was never said to me as a child, not ever. So I've made sure I've told my children that I love them at every opportunity.

i say love you to my son and family over the phone, in person or text, for friends i always end with take care or look after yourself if they have been ill, my dad is the only person that will never say it, i spend ages looking for cards each year that don't have all the soppy words, when he calls me angel at the end of a call it is his way of saying i love you. i love you was the last words my husband and i said to each other before he was gone. if anyone is not comfortable saying the words just say me too. your friend might think more of you than you do of her.

Sounds very silly on the Scott Mills show when everyone says 'love you bye'. What is that all about? They are just passing voices on the radio. Takes the real meaning away from the words.

I agree Summerlove,i tell the people i love that at the end of a conversation or when leaving after a visit.
My family have always said it,my heart jumped when two of my grandsons who are in their teens were at their dads b/day party and with their friends said "bye grandma,love you", gave me a hug and a kiss,their friends didn`t bat an eye lid.

The only "I love you" I got as a child was "I love you but I don't like you"

I remember clearly the first time my best friend said "I love you" and it was indescribable how I felt, at the same time it was amazing but also terrifying incase they decided they didn't like me.

I don't think people always realise how much power words have.

Words can bring people to their knees and leave them depressed, anxious, with low self esteem and feeling worthless and suicidal.

Words can make someone's entire day, make them feel good about themselves, confident, leave them smiling and happy.

Whoever wrote that rhyme "Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" was completely and utterly mistaken

I work with younger girls and it’s the norm to end texts with an x my sister never dies it but she dies come over a bit stiff upper lip! My older brother ends his call on a Sunday with love you and makes my week.

No chance of that happening in Germany! But the language does allow for "Liebe Grüße" which is very usual or "Hab' dich lieb" which sort of means "I am fond of you". I would be very careful telling someone I loved them.

Love thy neighbour ❤️

Make Love, Not War.

You never want to devalue the meaning of “love”. It can be shown in many ways. You don’t need to be overt about it either. Whether it’s said out loud, written, hugged, delivered in gift, flowers or food - there are different levels of love too.

I wonder about people though who have an aversion to ANY displays of love and think it’s not needed, “because they should know.”
I think maybe they need it the most.

Use generously but wisely.
USA Gundy
PS - How about - I ❤️ Gransnet❣️

Always tell my GC, when I am / they are leaving, after a visit .,

I'm 58 now and my parents never said it to me - ever, my Mum was very loving , so we always felt loved by her . Dad was more distant, so I never felt loved by him. I would have loved to hear him say , he loved me.

Oh Debbie

Imagine a world where we ended most of our conversations with a brief statement about our feelings for the other person!

Our son has always said it to both of us, and we say it back. Living in the States I find that most friends will say it, and I invariably say it back to them too. I don’t think it matters either way, it’s a nice way to end a conversation or say goodbye.