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Naked pair enjoy meal in non-naturalist pub.

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grannydarkhair Thu 08-Jun-23 21:27:19

What would you have done if you were in the pub when they walked in?
This is copied directly from a Mumsnet thread.

www.burnham-on-sea.com/news/diners-shocked-as-naked-pair-enjoy-meal-in-burnham-on-sea-pub/

FannyCornforth Sat 10-Jun-23 14:32:46

NotSpaghetti I often wonder if people read posts at all.
It always goes a bit bananas and repetitive when a thread is featured in tve daily email.
I think that many people read the op and comment straight away.

Can you imagine how uncomfortable and mortifying it must be to eat one’s lunch naked and sitting on a bin liner?

It’s literally the stuff of nightmares!
Are they into masochism too?

SunnySusie Sat 10-Jun-23 14:37:15

This couple are just attention seekers in my opinion. Fine if you want to be naked, do it in your own home, on a naturist beach or in a naturist holiday retreat (looked them up on Google). But of course then you just blend in. If you really want to be the centre of attention and get your five minutes of fame walk into a normal pub with your kit off, bingo its all over social media.

Saetana Sat 10-Jun-23 14:54:13

The same couple visited Bristol where I live the previous day. They were spotted walking over Clifton Suspension Bridge and apparently had a meal and drinks in a pub. This is Bristol - so basically nobody was really shocked, we are an inclusive city and there are lots of strange things going on. We have an annual naked bike ride, amongst other things. So long as they sat on a towel or something in the pub, it wouldn't bother me.

TanaMa Sat 10-Jun-23 15:26:36

If that's what 'floats their boat' but not for me, I would have been out the door. I am not a prude but there is a place for everything and nudity in a public eating place is not it! Even Spain is clamping down on swimsuits and near nudity in the streets, s'markets and eateries.Post

harrysgran Sat 10-Jun-23 15:41:18

Attention seeking and I don't think I'd be ordering toad in the hole from the menu it would put me right off

Dinahmo Sat 10-Jun-23 15:47:30

Surely whilst they're sitting at the table you aren't going to see their genitals?

Callistemon21 Sat 10-Jun-23 15:50:14

Dinahmo

Surely whilst they're sitting at the table you aren't going to see their genitals?

They have to get to the table!

Dinahmo Sat 10-Jun-23 15:51:46

I remember many, many years ago, whilst staying with some friends, their young son, unclothed, sat at the breakfast table, playing with his genitals the whole time except for when he reached for a jar, or the toast etc. Not at all hygienic. This was 55 years ago so you can tell it had a lasting impression. One assumes that this couple weren't touching hteir genitals whilst at the table.

Callistemon21 Sat 10-Jun-23 15:51:53

Can you imagine how uncomfortable and mortifying it must be to eat one’s lunch naked and sitting on a bin liner?

Especially on a hot day
Sweaty Betty

Dinahmo Sat 10-Jun-23 15:52:35

Callistemon21

Dinahmo

Surely whilst they're sitting at the table you aren't going to see their genitals?

They have to get to the table!

One could look away.

Callistemon21 Sat 10-Jun-23 15:57:13

Dinahmo

Callistemon21

Dinahmo

Surely whilst they're sitting at the table you aren't going to see their genitals?

They have to get to the table!

One could look away.

But that means that their behaviour and preferences forces others to change theirs or makes them discomfited..

If you're sitting down and look round to find genitalia a few inches away from your direct gaze then some people might feel uncomfortable with that.

ordinarygirl Sat 10-Jun-23 16:09:13

where did they keep their money????

Callistemon21 Sat 10-Jun-23 16:16:25

ordinarygirl

where did they keep their money????

Fanny pack?
Or a Bum bag?

Galaxy Sat 10-Jun-23 16:34:55

You could look away. Yes your boundaries arent important. Brilliant message in particular to send to women and girls.

margauxbordeaux Sat 10-Jun-23 16:41:44

Smileless2012

Pretend I hadn't noticed; obviously attention seeking.

Attention seeking ..

Pretend I had not noticed.

FannyCornforth Sat 10-Jun-23 16:53:32

Galaxy

You could look away. Yes your boundaries arent important. Brilliant message in particular to send to women and girls.

Dreadful isn’t it.
I’m really surprised at some of the reactions on here.

NotSpaghetti Sat 10-Jun-23 16:53:46

FannyCornforth
grin
⛓️

Fleurpepper Sat 10-Jun-23 16:56:42

I often eat with naturalists, and none of them are ever naked smile

FannyCornforth Sat 10-Jun-23 16:57:42

NotSpaghetti

FannyCornforth
grin
⛓️

Yes, it’s definitely sexually motivated.
But ‘they are just good friends’ eh?
It’s a glorified sexual fantasy which we are all taking part in.

Go home and put some 🤬 clothes on, you dirty beggars!

FannyCornforth Sat 10-Jun-23 16:58:56

Fleurpepper

I often eat with naturalists, and none of them are ever naked smile

I must admit, I wouldn’t like to see Mr Attenborough sans underwear

grandtanteJE65 Sat 10-Jun-23 17:29:30

Well, it's apparently not illegal in the UK - I've just googled it, but I don't think it is either in good taste, or acceptable at all.

But then I wouldn't enter a shop, pub, café or restaurant in my swimsuit either, or my nightwear.

I think, I would have called a waiter over and asked if I might pay the bill and have my food packed as takeaway, explaining that I am too old-fashioned to want to eat in company with complete strangers in the nude.

hallgreenmiss Sat 10-Jun-23 17:39:45

Dickens

Wyllow3

Erm...opportunity to educate the kids?

Assuming parents need to have the opportunity thrust on them?

I bet most parents would prefer to decide when their kids were confronted with nudity - by complete strangers - and not have the decision made for them.

Personally I prefer not to be confronted with strangers' genitals and bottoms in a dining environment. On a beach, or out in nature it would be acceptable, but not up close and personal in a pub.

Sure, it's not illegal, but I think that's largely irrelevant, they're forcing other people to accept their values. I wouldn't walk into one of their venues fully-clothed if that was not the norm, it would seem rather an arrogant thing to do on my part.

The pub agreed - did they ask the other patrons if they agreed, whilst they were polishing their 'inclusivity' badge?

I agree

Callistemon21 Sat 10-Jun-23 17:54:59

hallgreenmiss

Dickens

Wyllow3

Erm...opportunity to educate the kids?

Assuming parents need to have the opportunity thrust on them?

I bet most parents would prefer to decide when their kids were confronted with nudity - by complete strangers - and not have the decision made for them.

Personally I prefer not to be confronted with strangers' genitals and bottoms in a dining environment. On a beach, or out in nature it would be acceptable, but not up close and personal in a pub.

Sure, it's not illegal, but I think that's largely irrelevant, they're forcing other people to accept their values. I wouldn't walk into one of their venues fully-clothed if that was not the norm, it would seem rather an arrogant thing to do on my part.

The pub agreed - did they ask the other patrons if they agreed, whilst they were polishing their 'inclusivity' badge?

I agree

I agree too.

It's not a social norm.

Dickens Sat 10-Jun-23 18:36:13

Dinahmo

Callistemon21

Dinahmo

Surely whilst they're sitting at the table you aren't going to see their genitals?

They have to get to the table!

One could look away.

One could - and probably would. And if 'one' is sitting some distance away, there's even less opportunity to see anything. But not so for those seated close by - unless the pub staff have cleared an area specially for the couple.

But none of this is to the point, is it?

We wear underwear for a reason - does that need pointing out? That we put a layer of material between those often damp and sweaty parts of the body and the outerwear. Shall I further point out that not everyone is fastidious when having to relieve themselves - either through carelessness or lack of the necessary facilities to clean up. A pub is more often than not an intimate space, that's part of its attraction, Some pubs / bistros and other eating places will not allow men with bare chests, or wearing vests - they know it can be off-putting being confronted with sweaty and hairy armpits when you are eating.

That's why there's a huge difference between that environment and naturists outdoors on the beach, or sunbathing, swimming, hiking, etc.

... and the reason I'm labouring the point is because it appears those of us who object to the principle of Neil and Danielle sitting on their bin liners are being treated as if they are the odd ones out.

And why didn't the silly person on the pub staff who wanted to be "inclusive" and use it as a 'learning experience" give the couple permission and exclude those who were already in the pub by not consulting them! Maybe they didn't want to be part of this learning experience.

Dianehillbilly1957 Sat 10-Jun-23 18:50:42

Sweaty bums on seats!! That's what would put me off, otherwise let them get on with it if they must!