Weddings of yesterday and today.

So sorry Grandmama💐you have my deepest sympathy.

I was married in the late 70’s, a church wedding and a reception at a local hotel afterwards. We invited all the family, including aunts, great aunts and uncles, cousins etc, some close friends & also the neighbours who we had both grown up living next door to. We also had lots of children at the wedding and they all seemed to behave impeccably. We had a night ‘do’ with a disco & buffet where work colleagues and other friends could join us. We left the evening party a little early for our honeymoon.
Nowadays wedding often seem to be more about friends than family and some couples make it clear in the invites that they don’t want young children there. We wrote our own invites and kept things quite simple so it didn’t cost the earth. My lovely dad had died two years before so I missed his presence but my mum brought me a lovely dress from money he had put aside and also paid for the reception. My uncle gave me away. I can’t really remember planning it for long or whittling about any of the preparations. We had a lovely day followed by a short honeymoon in the UK. Sadly I lost DH almost 2 years ago after 42 years of marriage, we were lucky enough to have been able to celebrate our Ruby wedding abroad before Covid struck.

My eldest daughter got married in Sri Lanka which was wonderful and meant we could combine the wedding with a wonderful holiday. It’s certainly not necessary to have to spend a fortune (tens of thousands of pounds in some cases) to have a nice wedding, it seems a waste to me when people go totally over the top and often end up starting married life in massive amounts of debt to cover the cost.

Mine was a second marriage in 2007. I have been with my second husband since 2002. All my 4 children to the ex were at mine. They were 22, 20, 18 and 11.

I had the divorce from hell from the ex. I never thought there was anyone decent out there I could trust after fleeing domestic abuse finally after 16 year in 2000.

I had the wedding I wanted. It cost £2000 plus honeymoon/holiday which we were going going on anyway.

It wasn't alot by today standards even back then. A wedding for about 30 of us. Held the reception in our home with a gazebo in the back garden. It was a beautiful day. I was original in cheffing so I did the food myself.

The two expensive things were one limousine and a professional photographer.

My dress I found in the debutant depth of Debenham in blood red. My 2 bridesmaids wore silver and black.

My SiL did all our makeup as she a makeup artist.

Ah it's different times. Our parents would have grumbled about our generation. Live and let live.

I personally would rather give my daughter the 10s of thousands than spend it on a wedding.

My DiL parents who are extremely wealthy paid for a very lavish affair for my eldest son and DiL It would have cost them at least £15 thousand.

Grandmama I'm so sorry.

Grandmama, I was so sorry to read your sad news. I lost my husband nearly 7 years ago, after 53 years married, and it still hurts. You were so brave to post in this thread amidst your sadness.

Sorry to hear your sad news Grandmama

Grandmama, I am so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family.

Our youngest son was married June 8, and it was a lovely wedding. Yes, there was money spent that we wouldn't have done, but the event was beautiful, and a lot of fun.

I do wish there would be a trend back to simpler weddings, with less money spent. The day doesn't need to be magazine-perfect. I'm afraid the young people put very high expectations on themselves.

lovetopaint
We had a reception in a pub,
a honeymoon in a bed
and breakfast in Bognor Regis.


I think many had a honeymoon in a bed... but expect fewer went to Bognor for breakfast!

Germanshepherdsmum
Richard Branson's daughter went to het parents wedding and later to the marriage of a couple who were friends of the family. She was shocked and said "But they can't get married, they haven't got any children!"

NotSpaghetti

lovetopaint
We had a reception in a pub,
a honeymoon in a bed
and breakfast in Bognor Regis.


I think many had a honeymoon in a bed... but expect fewer went to Bognor for breakfast!

That is funny. Made me laugh. Sounds as if we had a great time.

Married in 1949 after my hubby had finished his National Service. We were still on rations but, with living in London and getting to know the Barrow Boys they helped with a few extra things thrown in to make an edible salad for the buffet which was held in my parents front room. It was a Cockney wedding so I leave you to imagine the knees up after we had all come back from my Great Uncles pub situated in the Old Kent Road in London. We were in our 67th year of marriage when I lost hubby to Dementia.