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Foxygloves Fri 30-Jun-23 21:30:21

I read this recently and thought how appropriate it might be for those of us with health worries, poorly or even fading loved ones -and of course our beloved pets who have no concept of tomorrow, just now, today.

β€œ We may not have tomorrow, but we do have today, and life is oh so very short. So please- come sit with me now and let us share these precious moments we have together.”

rafichagran Sat 01-Jul-23 18:41:44

That is a lovely quote and so true. Due to family circumstances I am very tearful and unhappy, however I am trying to follow the quote and have just forced myself to eat.
I am hoping things get better.
I realise time goes so quickly.

kittylester Sat 01-Jul-23 19:18:04

Sending you huge, gentle hugs raficha.

Grannmarie Sat 01-Jul-23 19:36:11

Rafichagran, πŸ’.

DH and I are sitting on the sofa, watching telly, Granddog is curled up between us.

Thank you, Foxygloves, that reflection made me stop and appreciate the moment.

Primrose53 Sat 01-Jul-23 19:45:50

Grammaretto

That's so sad Primrose but I'm sure he's remembered even if a cautionary tale.
DH died nearly 3 years ago and I miss him but at least we had a few years together when we hoped the chemo might keep him for us a bit longer, and it did.
We didn't call it a bucket list but we did several things we'd always meant to do.
No regrets.

❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️

Urmstongran Sat 01-Jul-23 20:01:12

Those words certainly struck a chord with me this evening Foxygloves. Our life has changed out of all recognition now and we are heartbroken. x

kittylester Sat 01-Jul-23 20:17:41

And huge, gentle hugs to you too, Urms.

Grannmarie Sat 01-Jul-23 20:23:09

Urms and MrUrms, πŸ’•πŸ™

rafichagran Sat 01-Jul-23 20:25:04

Urmstongran

Those words certainly struck a chord with me this evening Foxygloves. Our life has changed out of all recognition now and we are heartbroken. x

Urm what Kitty said.

Callistemon21 Sat 01-Jul-23 20:50:41

Urms hugs
Best wishes to you both. flowers

And flowers to everyone else having a tough time.

Dickens Sat 01-Jul-23 21:25:27

My son, who is now 52, told me a few weeks ago when I was moaning and groaning about the minutiae of every day life, "Mum, this is not a rehearsal, this is it, live the best life you can".
I've been thinking about that ever since.

merlotgran Sat 01-Jul-23 21:41:32

Love and best wishes to you and your DH, Urms

Redhead56 Sat 01-Jul-23 21:44:23

I am very sorry for you the grans who are suffering right now. We have had a rough year and it’s left its mark leaving me especially sensitive.
Foxygloves this post does give you food for thought yes we all have our bad times but there is always something that brings a smile. My smiles came today spending it with my lovely GC.

nadateturbe Sat 01-Jul-23 22:01:21

Very wise words. The last year of my mum's life I spent a lot of time keeping her house clean. How I wish I had spent more time just sitting with her.

Nannagarra Sat 01-Jul-23 22:02:42

Sending a gentle, enveloping hug to you and your DH, Urms. πŸ’

Callistemon21 Sat 01-Jul-23 22:55:07

Dickens

My son, who is now 52, told me a few weeks ago when I was moaning and groaning about the minutiae of every day life, "Mum, this is not a rehearsal, this is it, live the best life you can".
I've been thinking about that ever since.

He's absolutely right!

Dickens Sat 01-Jul-23 23:27:11

Urmstongran

Have just caught up with your news.

Hugs to you, and "himself", Urms.

I hope you take some comfort from the support of your family - and your 'family' on here.

flowers

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 02-Jul-23 09:00:48

Sending love and hugs to you both Urms

Dickens Sun 02-Jul-23 12:48:52

nadateturbe

Very wise words. The last year of my mum's life I spent a lot of time keeping her house clean. How I wish I had spent more time just sitting with her.

It's a difficult balance - hard to 'relax' with your mother if there were things that needed doing. Maybe she appreciated the comfort of living in a clean house though.
flowers

Milest0ne Mon 03-Jul-23 12:25:30

From a Sanskrit poem
Yesterday is but a memory ,Tomorrow is only a vision
But today well lived makes every day makes every yesterday a memory of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope
Look well therefore to this day.

knspol Mon 03-Jul-23 13:54:22

Wish I'd paid more attention to that quotation when DH was still with me. If only...

springishere Mon 03-Jul-23 15:18:10

Leisure
by
William Henry Davies

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

I printed this out for my children, when they were dashing around.

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 03-Jul-23 16:54:05

I thought of that poem so often when I was working. Now I’m retired the time to stop and stare, to appreciate each season, is a priceless gift.

nadateturbe Mon 03-Jul-23 18:23:44

knspol

Wish I'd paid more attention to that quotation when DH was still with me. If only...

πŸ’

hollysteers Mon 03-Jul-23 18:45:14

Thinking of you UrmsπŸ’πŸ’•

Maxine16 Mon 03-Jul-23 18:47:28

A few years ago I saw a bench dedicated to a young person who had sadly passed away. it just said

"No one knows how the day will end"

It had such a profound effect on me, I often think of it.