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kittylester Sun 03-Sept-23 10:12:47

one of my most glamorous friends messaged yesterday to ask what foundation and blusher I use, because my complexion 'always looks fabulous'! blush

Has that happened to you?

Nanatoone Mon 04-Sept-23 12:51:18

One of my children’s friends said “your house always smells of soap” I was u reasonably happy as I do clean but I don’t use fake smells just normal cleaning stuff.

abby0950 Mon 04-Sept-23 12:55:18

Are you going to tell us Kittylester or is it a secret - haha.

Aldom Mon 04-Sept-23 13:08:05

abby Kitty has already told us which makeup she uses. See page one, Kittylester @11.14.
But I would like to ask Kitty what BB cream is? smile

AreWeThereYet Mon 04-Sept-23 13:15:37

When she spotted me I was very surprised to get “And here’s a lady with a very beautiful smile……and a very ugly floral coat”.

maggiemaybe that made me chuckle 😁

MayBee70 Mon 04-Sept-23 13:20:45

I’ve never been very confident, especially at social occasions, and I had a husband who put me down all the time which didn’t help. But, many years ago one of his friends married a lovely Irish lady and we went to the evening do. All of our friends at the time were his friends but she was obviously new to the group. When our marriage fell apart a few years later she was very angry with him and told him what a fool he was and she told me that the night I’d gone to her wedding do ‘ you walked into the room, you were wearing a red top and a black skirt and you lit the room up’. I’d never had a compliment like that. They moved to Ireland and I used to visit her with my new partner ( she used to say your husband was handsome and charismatic but I can actually have conversations with this one). She died a few years ago and I hadn’t visited her for a long time. I wish I’d thanked her properly for what she’d said but I did tell her at one point how much her friendship meant to me.

yogitree Mon 04-Sept-23 13:32:24

Skydancer

I used to look much younger than I was. People used to be amazed when I told them my age. But now, when I tell people I am in my 70s, nobody ever expresses surprise. What has happened! Must try harder! But I must admit it's all such an effort these days.

It's hard to get used to isn't it Skydancer, we've been spoiled. Right up until I was 60 I regularly had folks comment that they thought I was in my 40's, however now I am 68 and compliments have gone. I guess I look 68 now - ah well, I had my moment as did you!

Greenfinch Mon 04-Sept-23 13:33:19

A headmaster ( who didn’t actually know me very well) once gave me a reference: “Mrs. G can teach anyone anything .”It isn’t actually true because I was not very good with difficult students but it gave me a lot of confidence and sustained me all through my teaching career.

AreWeThereYet Mon 04-Sept-23 13:55:00

When something like that happens out of the blue it is such a nice boost - regardless of whether you care what people think.

I do get compliments on my hair since I let it grow long and curly. Something that never used to happen to me. I've now started complimenting other people occasionally just to 'pass it along' - I've yet to meet anyone who doesn't respond with a huge smile and a 'thank you'.

Hetty58 Mon 04-Sept-23 14:05:48

A young wedding guest admired my figure - and my dress. It made me feel great, until my daughters were talking about her - and she'd said exactly the same to them. Obviously, it's her way of being friendly - and that's all.

rafichagran Mon 04-Sept-23 14:15:09

biglouis

*Why would working for an employer make any difference*

When you work for a large organization you (may) have to conform to a dress code and certain standards of dress. You have to look neat, tidy and professional. Especially in a customer facing environment.

When you say goodbye to that life you dont have to conform to any standards - except public decency when you go out. So you can do away with uncomfortable clothes like bras, tights, etc.

My self respect comes from inside me, and not what randoms think.

I agree, but it is nice to have your hair and clothess looking nice.
I always take a pride in myself, but today I am out in a lovely thin strapped dress with no bra on, no one knows and it dies not notice.

MayBee70 Mon 04-Sept-23 15:22:47

yogitree

Skydancer

I used to look much younger than I was. People used to be amazed when I told them my age. But now, when I tell people I am in my 70s, nobody ever expresses surprise. What has happened! Must try harder! But I must admit it's all such an effort these days.

It's hard to get used to isn't it Skydancer, we've been spoiled. Right up until I was 60 I regularly had folks comment that they thought I was in my 40's, however now I am 68 and compliments have gone. I guess I look 68 now - ah well, I had my moment as did you!

I think everyone has ‘their time’. I didn’t fit what was regarded as pretty in my teens and twenties. Flat chested, fat legs, thin hair, sticky out ears, freckles….But then, in my late thirties going into my forties and fifties I aged much better than many of my contemporaries ( having more money to spend on myself and having dental work helped) and I felt quite smug about it. However, over the past three or so years it’s as if my ageing has gone into fast forward and I almost want to hide away.

NannyG4 Mon 04-Sept-23 15:32:27

All the time..... As if🤣🤣

paddyann54 Mon 04-Sept-23 17:14:46

We were at an event with our 20 something daughter when a man asked me if I was Mr Paddy's daughter .I laughed and asked why he thought that and he said because you're his wife's double when she was young....lol I told him I was Mr Paddy's wife ,the same one he'd always had . He had known us decades earlier when our daughter was a toddler I often get told I have "beautiful skin" most recently when I visited my sister in hospital .The woman in the next bed was very complimentary.It makes up for all the times I was knocked back from pubs in my 30's because I looked too young to drink

HousePlantQueen Mon 04-Sept-23 17:28:15

I have been told that I have lovely skin, and very few wrinkles for my age, by a beautician friend so I was flattered. I don't agree with what you said BigLouis; I always make a point of being presentable, not for an employer, not for anyone else, but for me, not suited and booted granted, but always groomed. And always wearing a well fitting bra. My Mother was always very chic, and although I cannot possible emulate her, I absolutely will not slip into the no bra, tracksuit bottoms, comb dragged through the hair look, even if I am spending the day at home!

kittylester Mon 04-Sept-23 19:12:30

My bb cream is Garnier but I do think it's quite thick. Or maybe I put it in too thickly!!!

Jaxie Mon 04-Sept-23 19:15:30

What is BB cream?

Foxygloves Mon 04-Sept-23 19:27:23

When you work for a large organization you (may) have to conform to a dress code and certain standards of dress. You have to look neat, tidy and professional. Especially in a customer facing environment
You don’t say!
Anybody would think that being a grandparent means sitting at home, knitting their Shreddies. I imagine we have all, or very nearly all worked in a professional capacity and some still do.
I don’t disagree about looking neat, tidy and professional, but just because one is no longer in a professional environment means that standards should slip, or that without an audience one cannot look all of the above things, plus, most important stylish
As I said , that’s all part of self respect and indeed respect for the people one comes into contact with in our everyday life.

AreWeThereYet Mon 04-Sept-23 19:39:39

BB = beauty balm, usually quite sheer and used to replace foundation and primer to even out skin tone.

Treetops05 Mon 04-Sept-23 21:27:09

No, I'd need to start wearing mack up! :D

biglouis Mon 04-Sept-23 21:53:37

Offices are a great deal less formal now than before the pandemic. Smart casual is now the rule in many places where it was previously suits and ties.

One of the reasons people enjoy remote working is because they dont have to waste time or money getting ready for work and buying a complete wardrobs of suitable clothes. Not to mention time wasted on the commute. For "teams" meetings you just make the top half presentable with a smart blouse or shirt. No one knows you are still in your pjs or joggers. You dont even have to bother doing your hair when wigs are so cheap. And those zoom virtual backdrops can be a godsend.

Suki70 Mon 04-Sept-23 22:16:02

Recently, when I asked a market stall holder if he would hold some plants for me until I’d finished my shopping , he replied,
“ You may have a lovely smile but the answer’s still no!”

DanniRae Tue 05-Sept-23 08:54:07

Last time I was buying something in Next the young, male assistant asked if I was on my lunch break? I explained I had been retired for years and was (then) in my early 70s. He seemed impressed!
Mind you I did wonder if that was part of their training ... flattering customers! grin

Bea65 Tue 05-Sept-23 09:12:08

I get asked for proof when I shop at Iceland and the Co-op on Senior discount Tuesdays… it tickles me and my DD says , Mom they’re checking your age because you’ve bought wine!!

Lexisgranny Tue 05-Sept-23 09:24:27

It’s a while ago but once I broke a nail at work, and a colleague looked at me in amazement saying that everyone thought my nails were false because they were always so perfect. As I say that was a while ago, but recently the chief compliment I get is regarding a pair of summer shoes. My husband finds this very amusing for some reason. I even got complimented by a nurse as I was being pushed into A&E with a suspected heart attack!

0ddOne Tue 05-Sept-23 22:01:26

I don't wear make up, hate the stuff, so wouldn't have that specific compliment, but I always used to look much younger than my actual age, even sans make up. I was always being mistaken for younger. I was in a gay pub once, playing pool with a young girl who was flirting with me, until she discovered I was 45 (at that time), as she though I was late 20's, early 30's. When I was 58 I was mistaken for a 40 year old. Unfortunately, mother nature is a cruel mistress and now, at 62, I think definitely look my age but I daren't ask anyone in case they say 70! Lol!