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finns Thu 07-Sept-23 11:29:51

i’ve always wanted to be a midwife/ nurse and come from a family of nurses and paramedics police military etc.

i started training in my 20s but was happily sidetracked by having my own babies and decided not to be a career woman ha ! I did get a degree later and have done lots of fabulous jobs, but the dream of midwife never left me. Now my children are mostly grown up and i thought about going for it - to finally have the time to myself and dedicate myself to my own dreams. I could start the journey by college and renewing old qualifications as a mature student alongside my life experiences of birth and losses and everything in between, but yet again i’ve had a crisis of confidence- am I just being a past it old fool ?, all be it a young 53yr still lively not ready to write myself off lady ? I’d be 58 at qualifying
is it too late ?
fx

SporeRB Sat 09-Sept-23 13:26:31

Before you commit yourself to 5 years of study, it may be a good idea to see whether you can get work experience in midwifery where you shadow a midwife and see what the work really involves.

I looked online and there is a company which provides 2 weeks pre med work experience in London or Thailand.

My younger sister, living overseas, worked as a nurse but she has recently retired age 58.

She started nursing very young. After her O levels she joined the school of nursing and did a three years nursing diploma.

Granabs Sat 09-Sept-23 13:17:08

I’ve recently been a birth partner to a young friend and while the midwives were wonderful I can also see how much as a new mum my friend valued her Doulah. She had day and night Doulahs who were both mature women with lots of experience supporting the choices she made and helping her make those voices work. Doulahs are wonderful and if I was ten years younger ( 58!) I’d take it on a my third career!

MarathonRunner Sat 09-Sept-23 13:10:06

Absolutely not , I had 3 children , first one delivered by an older midwife and it was a most positive experience . Go for it , you'll be fab

fluttERBY123 Sat 09-Sept-23 13:01:01

53! You are a spring chicken. And there is a shortage of midwives. You have a duty to the nation to train.

Daisydaisydaisy Sat 09-Sept-23 12:51:10

Love this …Go for it ..,If it doesn’t work out hey ho 🩷💜💚

Carbonated Sat 09-Sept-23 12:44:00

Same here! 53, always wanted to be a psychologist. Would qualify when I'm 57. Applying now.... if I can do it, believe me, so can you! Go for it!

Bridielou Sat 09-Sept-23 12:38:54

Go for it if that’s your dream and it’s possible. Wishing you the best of luck

JLR1220 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:35:13

Fill out the application and don’t look back!!! You won’t regret it and will thoroughly enjoy the journey!! I’m proud of you!

sarahcyn Sat 09-Sept-23 12:31:57

I so wish I had retrained as a midwife twenty years ago when I began working as a doula in my early 40s. Promise me you won’t hesitate to start training now!

Helenlouise3 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:31:23

Definitely go for it. The life skills you'll have acquired will equip you well for the role

ReggieLouise Sat 09-Sept-23 12:30:08

Do it!

Kanny Sat 09-Sept-23 12:29:01

Absolutely go for it!

Harris27 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:22:55

Go for it I qualified as a nursery nurse mid 40’s never looked back.

Bella23 Sat 09-Sept-23 12:20:59

Have a big think after reading these posts then if you still want to "Let them reject you, not you them" before you even apply.

Treacletoffee Sat 09-Sept-23 12:19:23

How fabulous- go for it - my retirement age will be 67 so you would have over 10 years left anyway to share your expertise ❤️

hilz Sat 09-Sept-23 12:18:35

All those life experiences are transferable skill and a huge value in any work place. Its heartwarming to know that despite all the negativity around nursing and NHS that someone with a genuine passion to nurse may soon join other trainees.

naughtynanny Sat 09-Sept-23 12:15:46

This may not be totally PC, but, I'd far rather have a mature MUM, nurse/midwife, with life experience helping me deliver my baby, than someone with a zillion paper qualifications, but who actually doesn't know what I'm going through. Go for it, enjoy this new adventure. Good Luck

Sarahr Sat 09-Sept-23 12:13:22

Never too late. Follow your dream. Good luck.

Mamo Sat 09-Sept-23 12:06:59

Absolutely go for it!! You bring your life experience and compassion to the job and they’ll be lucky to have you.
My DH was conferred a Doctorate yesterday, a mature student aged 67!! Never too late!

LovelyLady Sat 09-Sept-23 12:03:29

Go for it. You’ll regret if you don’t.
Best wishes.

CrazyMazy Sat 09-Sept-23 11:57:45

Definitely- never too late! Go for it! If you do not at least try then you will always regret it! Good luck!

Pjcpjc77 Sat 09-Sept-23 11:57:43

Go for it a million times. You only come this way once. Realise your dream.

Vwenber Sat 09-Sept-23 11:50:40

Theres plenty of older students in both nursing and midwifery.
Go for it

ForeverAutumn Sat 09-Sept-23 11:47:01

During the birth of my first child I would have much preferred an older midwife with experience of childbirth. I didn't much appreciate being told that I was imagining pain and it was 'only' contractions. Luckily with my second child, I had a lovely midwife who told me this was her first delivery solo, she was an older nurse with a family of her own, very gentle and she made such a difference. Go for it, the NHS will be lucky to have you

NannaFirework Sat 09-Sept-23 11:46:24

Do it! And wishing you all the happiness and fulfilment in the World! xxx