This sort of thing is going on on tiktok.
I'd throw it away.
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Whilst reading a library book late last night I found a hand written note which says
"Dear you
I hope you know you are capable, and brave, and significant, even when you feel like you are not
With love
A friend."
Whilst appreciating it was probably well intentioned I actually found it rather creepy - especially seeing it signed"with love from a friend".
My dilemma is what to do with it.
Leave it in the book for the next borrower or get rid of it?
This sort of thing is going on on tiktok.
I'd throw it away.
Leave it in the book.
Those words could be a life saver for someone who is struggling with self doubt.
Someone out there cares.
I can't see it as creepy at all. It would make me smile if I found it. I'd leave it in the book for someone else - who knows how many people have already read it.
I would leave it in the book. Someone left it for others to read and perhaps be comforted by it. Nothing creepy at all - simply a goodwill message . A thoughtful thing to do .
Hand it in to the library; they usually have a box full of bookmarks left in books, and if it is important to someone they can reclaim it.
I agree with the poster, I find these quotes mawkish but it may be meaningful to the person who left it.
Aldom
Leave it in the book.
Those words could be a life saver for someone who is struggling with self doubt.
Someone out there cares.
How true.
I just think that if you were feeling a bit paranoid you could be very freaked out by someone anonymous claiming to be your friend!
eddiecat78
I just think that if you were feeling a bit paranoid you could be very freaked out by someone anonymous claiming to be your friend!
You obviously don't use Facebook much or you would know you can have a million friends you've never heard of 😅
I think the note is rather presumptuous, the person who wrote it and left it there, sounds very smug and one of those people who always has a an unctuous saying on their lips. Very Patience Strong. Screw it up and chuck it away.
I had a similar experience - I found a bit of folded paper in a car park and picked it up. It was a heartfelt letter written by a mum to a daughter trying to mend a rift. ‘I miss being able to hug you’ it said. No names, no personal details, no way to hand it to one or other but I couldn’t bear to put it in the bin. I’ve still got it tucked away. It touched a nerve and still does. I hope they made it up!
IMO its not a harmful creepy message...a positive note and would return the book with the note inside for the next person..
I had a customer leave a sticker on the counter when she left. It said “you are beautiful”. Lovely gesture! I needed a bit of a boost.
It’s on the inside of my locker, it makes me smile every time I see it. Never underestimate the kindness of strangers.
Mogsmaw
I had a customer leave a sticker on the counter when she left. It said “you are beautiful”. Lovely gesture! I needed a bit of a boost.
It’s on the inside of my locker, it makes me smile every time I see it. Never underestimate the kindness of strangers.
It's not kindness
I wouldn’t mind at all, although it does remind me of Meghan writing positive statements on bananas…
It has been a ‘ thing’ for a long while to leave little notes around and so far this is the first time I ve heard ANYONE think it’s creepy, there are often posts on FB saying ‘I found this today on my walk it’s made my day’ and a picture of a painted pebble and message or a message in a plastic bag or a little tiny crochet animal or bug with have a lovely day message on it
The next person to get the book hopefully will understand and appreciate it
I think it’s weird.
How can anybody write anything meaningful to a total stranger “you are loved” on a banana or a trite message in a library book. It’s not “reaching out” it’s creepy and would have gone straight in the bin, here.
It’s also frankly intrusive and while I feel sorry for whoever writes these things, I also think they should mind their own business.
Reminds me of letters we sometimes get from some sort of New Age churchy group around here. I thought it was just us but friends have told me they get them too and I found one in a cottage we let out for holidays too. They are just addressed to The Occupier so they don’t know our names.
eddiecat78
I just think that if you were feeling a bit paranoid you could be very freaked out by someone anonymous claiming to be your friend!
I agree. I think it would depend on what frame of mind I was in when I found something like that. The message is ok I guess, it’s the over familiarity that’s a bit creepy.
BlueBelle
It has been a ‘ thing’ for a long while to leave little notes around and so far this is the first time I ve heard ANYONE think it’s creepy, there are often posts on FB saying ‘I found this today on my walk it’s made my day’ and a picture of a painted pebble and message or a message in a plastic bag or a little tiny crochet animal or bug with have a lovely day message on it
The next person to get the book hopefully will understand and appreciate it
I think the fact that I discovered it in my own home does make it feel more personal. It is almost like having an anonymous note posted through your letter box
I wouldn't describe it as creepy but I do think it's arrogant and tiresome to leave these mawkish little homilies around, whether as physical notes or random postings on FB.
Into the bin with it!
I’d throw it in the recycling.
A church near us has a huge sign outside “You Are Loved”.
By whom? Jesus, God, The Vicar, the congregation…..?
Personally, I just don’t think it necessary, but realise that is probably just me.
Also wonder how much the sign cost in these straightened times for churches.
It’s not at all creepy, more a sign of the times. My first thought was, very Meghan Markle.
In fact a whole industry has grown up urging us all to think of ourselves as wonderful, special, deserving etc.
Whether or not I would leave it in the book when I returned it to the library, would depend on my whim on the day!
It's vomit inducing actually.
There's a trend on Tiktok when someone who is sitting alone is confronted by a kind soul who thrusts a note into their hand. Telling them how beautiful they are etc etc.
They then end up on Tiktok in a highly intrusive invasion of their privacy. A lady in Australia actually went to the police to complain. Sometimes they're given a bunch of flowers. All done by so called influences for likes.
You see them wearing t shirts with an awful message on the back telling the person reading it that they are wonderful etc etc
Then they get filmed.
Ridiculous.
I think it's lovely. For those of us who have been in what they call these days 'a dark place' those words could be a life saver. Maybe the person who put the note there had been through the mill and knows that a few supportive words can be a boon.
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