Message left in library book

Just chuck it.

Not your circus, not your monkey!

I d not see how an anonymous message left as a part of a current trend to confuse meaningless gestures that make the instigator feel good with actually doing a kindness, possibly at some sacrifice for someone, can possible be meaningful to anyone. The message and its acceptance by some chance person who sees it is all about the person sending it and has nothing to do with the recipient.

Kate1949

I think it's lovely. For those of us who have been in what they call these days 'a dark place' those words could be a life saver. Maybe the person who put the note there had been through the mill and knows that a few supportive words can be a boon.

I don't know Kate, I'm not in a great place myself at the moment but being validated by someone who doesn't know me from Adam didn't help in the slightest!

Just shred it and say out loud "I knew all that without some stranger having to tell me!" 🙂

Bin it and stop making it into an issue. You are probably over-sensitive because of "not being in a great place" right now. Hope you feel better soon 🌸🌹

eddiecat. I'm sorry you are having a bad time. Re the note. I wouldn't feel validated but a few supportive words can never do any harm. I'm sure the person who left the note had the best of intentions.

There’s been an exhibition recently of things found in library books… some library workers collect the notes, shopping lists etc they find, so maybe you can find a collector if it makes you feel better?
I heard of someone who found a bacon rasher being used as a bookmark…!

Callistemon21

Just shred it and say out loud "I knew all that without some stranger having to tell me!" 🙂

Love this- good advice
PS we could have told that too.
Hope things improve for you very soon 💐 💐

just flick through your books before leaving the library next time!

from me too, eddiecat

'I knew all that without some stranger having to tell me'. Not everyone does though.

Kate1949

'I knew all that without some stranger having to tell me'. Not everyone does though.

But if eddiecat says it she will begin to believe it.

I hope she does.

About two weeks ago a three line quotation randomly appeared on my phone. It came from Survivors of Suicide. I've never heard of this group before. But I'm five years in to 'surviving' my son's suicide.
Those three lines spoke to me as no others have. Five years on I was ready to hear those words. They have helped me rationalise something I couldn't come to terms with before.
I feel ever so slightly better for reading and contemplating on those words. Whoever wrote them had clearly travelled the long dark road that is Surviving Suicide.

Aldon may I ask how you would have felt if the message had appeared shortly after the tragedy?
The problem with sending these supposedly uplifting notes, eg in a library book,to random people is that the sender has no idea about the recipient's current state of mind

I’m sure it was well-intentioned, and if it helps someone perhaps I should be more positive, but I find this sort of thing tiresome. We had a long-term supply teacher once who “did his rounds”, as he called it, every morning, giving each member of staff a little personalised life-affirming message and wishing us a blessed day, sometimes with a quick hug if he thought we looked “sad”. People were hiding in the toilets to avoid him. Add to that the young teacher who wanted us to start every day with a group hug in the staff room, and it started to get crowded in there.

Wasn't there a trend quite a few years back for leaving "Upliftingmessages",in Libraray books. I've been in a holiday cottage where the books you could borrow had been bought by the yard and found a few notes in them.
Just ignore it, they're not meaning you personally. I hope you feel better soon and less vulnerable.
Better than the fried egg one of my DD's found when little we took it back and bought our own after that.

Aldom. We have travelled that hideous road in our family too.

I’ve had similar in a library book, it was one of those nauseating quotes you see everywhere, “Live, love laugh” or something like that, I don't know if it was a bookmark or meant for the next reader. I threw it away.

eddiecat78

Aldon may I ask how you would have felt if the message had appeared shortly after the tragedy?
The problem with sending these supposedly uplifting notes, eg in a library book,to random people is that the sender has no idea about the recipient's current state of mind

You may indeed ask. The quote would not have offended me in the slightest. Nor would it have helped because I was not ready. I have read many unhelpful pieces and just three which have been helpful. However, when these words were not helping me perhaps someone else was ready to hear them and maybe find comfort or resolution.
Life is a journey. Things change, people change. None of us know what will be meaningful to us, until it is.
Hope you feel better soon.

I’d have found it twee and irritating to be honest. And binned it.

Baggs

Bin it and stop making it into an issue. You are probably over-sensitive because of "not being in a great place" right now. Hope you feel better soon 🌸🌹

That’s exactly it.

Have found all sorts of stuff in library books in the past.😲

A friend didn’t leave messages in his library books, but used his (hard) contact lenses as a bookmark each night. I hope he never forgot them…

We are in an age of ‘positivity’ as if there’s some shame in being at a low ebb when we often have a good reason to be.

Re church signs, locally there is a huge sign along the lines of “Is This All There Is?” or something similar. Well if this world is all there is, it suits me very well thank you, I love it.
BTW I’m still a believer in ‘something’.

Now I am cross.
If people are leaving fried eggs, old banana skins and goodness knows what else in library books, why did I fess up to a little chew of one page by my puppy and give the library £16.99 when I returned the book?