Hen/Stag dos

I ve never been on one nothing like it when I married or my children ( thank goodness)
I m a real old grinch I think they are awful when I was in Barcelona recently there were loads parading through the city in their fancy dresses …. even a stag do with the groom wearing big pink balloons in a strategic place
They are so OTT and a big old waste of money but I m obviously just an old misery

Didn't exist when I married in 1958 thank goodness. Good luck to those who want it but it's gone a bit over the top in recent years I think.

If you're out of step, so am I, annsixty

There was no such things when I got married and DD just had a lovely meal out, although I think she and her friends went out in town afterwards while we oldies went home. DIL just had a nice meal out too.

I've heard of hen weekends in Majorca, Ibiza etc followed by a lavish wedding, then they say they can't afford the deposit for a property or decide to call the whole thing off anyway.

As for stag weekends, I don't know!

I love a good hen weekend, and in fact we now have an annual ‘no hen’ where a group of us (extended family and friends) go away for the weekend with no bride, it’s an excuse for a girls get together, this year it’s actually next weekend and I’m really looking forward to it. We go in the UK, and hire a big house, yurts or whatever, and do different things to normal, it doesn’t cost a fortune and it’s just lovely to all be together.

Seeing as the happy couple have probably been living together for years and maybe have a couple of children, then it all seems a bit pointless.

Not like years gone by when it was all about leaving your parents home and starting out on a whole new life, bachelor/ spinster soon to be man and wife.

Sane reason as a huge expensive wedding seems OTT.

My next door neighbours had a wedding a few weeks ago for their D.
It was very extravagant and they themselves paid £500 for a suite for the night of the wedding in which they probably spent just a few hours.
But , horses for courses, they could afford it where for others this may have been the budget for the whole wedding.
I am merely interested in you own thoughts and experience,

I hope you realise that I am not criticising the modern culture.
Just wondering if I am now out of step and wondering what your own experience was.
At the end of the day it comes down to money.
Lots can afford it and will.
Many others can barely afford a decent wedding and will do the best they can.
It takes all sorts …..

GrannyGravy13

Things change, it’s up to the bride to be and her friends and family.

Yes, but this is a discussion.

Some of them do seem to be over the top.
I went out with friends for a drink or several at a local hotel two days before our wedding. My daughter had an afternoon activity, evening dinner and onto a nightclub. She invited me and I went. We stayed overnight in a hotel as did most of her friends.

Things change, it’s up to the bride to be and her friends and family.

Yes, gone far too far.