DS and DiL "babying" 3yo GD

grannyactivist

I regularly have my grandchildren to stay, sometimes for days/a week at a time. I follow instructions given by their parents, but we also happily discuss ‘variations’ in approach. My children and daughter-in-law subscribe to, “grannies house, grannies rules”, which means that there are certain behaviours that the grandchildren know will/will not not be tolerated here and which their parents support.

I’m sometimes rather bemused that grandparents feel they are not permitted to express their views, experiences, or opinions about child rearing. My relationships with my children and daughter-in-law can easily withstand such discussions as they are rooted in mutual respect. I think it’s rather sad that so many grandparents have to bite their lips rather than have the freedom to engage in respectful discussion.

I agree with this sentiment. It’s especially true if granny is taking on the role of carer as I have with my two eldest grandsons. You simply can’t have your whole time micromanaged by parents if you have sole charge of the DGC for any length of time. Fortunately I have a very good relationship with my DD and DSIL. Often have to tread on eggshells with DGC3 though. My DIL has some very funny ideas in my view and I’m not good at biting my tongue. I do only see the little one as “Granny” though and never as his carer so the relationship is bound to be different.

Shelflife bedwetting can have little to do with potty training. My sister was wetting the bed until she was about 8, mainly because she has an oversensitive bladder with a short lead time between wanting to go and going, add waking enough to get out of bed and get to the bathroomaccidents are unavoidable

The sensitive bladder problem has been with her all her life, and all outings and days out are governed by her need to always be within reach of a loo.

Farmor15

I agree with OP with regard to how dummies look in the mouths of children in photos or videos! If I were sent any I would have to delete them - I think I have a bit of a phobia. I never liked dummies and managed to avoid using them with my 5. I know they are sometimes recommended for small babies but fortunately none of my grandchildren took to them, even though parents did try them.

Yep she looks so silly with it in so many pictures. I'm sticking to the advice and not getting involved at all, but definitely afraid about her going to school in September. Although nothing I can really do about it. They're definitely not looking at doing anything until spring as they've got no holidays left...