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Littleannie Sat 13-Jan-24 19:01:37

My sister's husband died last week. They live a long way away, and due to ill health etc I have not seen them for 20 years. We keep in touch by phone, email, birthday cards etc. We will not be going to the funeral due to distance, and my husband's ill health. We will be watching the funeral via a video link, as will some other family members.
My sister does not want flowers, instead a donation to charity. I'm not sure how much I should send as it is years since we had a funeral so I am a bit out of touch. What do others think?

Sasta Wed 17-Jan-24 11:33:26

I sent flowers from a shop local to a funeral 200 miles away last year which were £50 for a small circular wreath. They started at £30 for a small hand tied bunch, but the extra £20 made a big difference to what they included. I asked for a photo when made up but they forgot, but a friend sent a pic and it was really beautiful and wasn’t small. They didn’t charge delivery as it was only a short walk to the church.

Sasta Wed 17-Jan-24 11:36:44

biglouis

Your donation with be private so give what you can afford - or not.

This is why many people now go for direct type cremations. No fuss and flummery.

Is it okay to ask a something unrelated to the OP’s question? If so, could you say more about direct type creationism please biglouis? I haven’t heard of this.

NotSpaghetti Wed 17-Jan-24 11:40:52

Our donation to a charity did not collect the gift aid.
I was very disappointed as gave the undertaker all the info he needed to pass on.

Cyclone Wed 17-Jan-24 21:36:35

Funeral flowers are £50-£60 nowadays

Sasta Thu 18-Jan-24 00:54:31

Predictive text: I meant direct type cremation above.

Littleannie Thu 18-Jan-24 10:33:28

Thank you all, your suggestions have helped a lot.

Santa- direct cremations are where the coffin is taken direct to the crematorium for cremation by the funeral directors. There is no service, so there is nobody present at the crematorium, apart possibly the next of kin. There is no wake afterwards. This is obviously much cheaper than the traditional funeral, and is now being chosen by more people due to the high cost of a funeral.

Sasta Thu 18-Jan-24 13:16:40

I’ve not heard of that, thank you ‘Littleannie’.

Callistemon21 Thu 18-Jan-24 13:44:49

Firms like Pure Cremation offer this service, paid in advance.

Bereaved families could arrange for a memorial service or celebration of life afterwards if they wish but it does not feel like a farewell, imo.

Littleannie Thu 18-Jan-24 13:52:52

I'm inclined to agree with you Callistemon21, but the cost of funerals now is astronomical. I'm sure many families struggle to pay the cost. I believe many funeral companies offer this now.