My daughter has died

I’m so sorry tigerpaws. A devastating loss. As other have said SOBS can be an excellent source of support. Please care for yourself . Please do remember there. is always someone here to listen

There are simply no words to bring you comfort. As a mother I can only imagine your pain, I am so sorry.

Very sorry Tigerpaws. I hope you find peace of mind.

Tigerpaws you are working through your grief by talking about how you feel on here. Well done.
Every parent on Gransnet is represented by the words above. Our condolences and hugs.

Tigerpaws Losing a child will always be with you, to lose one in such a tragic way is so difficult. I saw how my parents suffered after my sister died, not suicide, but in a road accident.

The pain will never go away, but you will get used to it. Not much consolation, but the best there is. Turn to your family, ask them to support you, as you have supported them over the years. i want to reach out and hug you.

Dear tigerpaws I am so sorry. To loose your child is the worst thing that can happen to you in life. As so many have said, a year is no time at all when it comes to grief, and you never 'get over it' - you just learn to live with it and around it. Accept the love that surrounds you and any help that is out there. Your daughter will always be with you, will always be your daughter and is a precious part of you. In time this agony will gradually become bearable.

So sorry to hear what you are going through. The worst thing about loss from suicide is the lingering feeling that there might have been something you could have done to prevent it. And the challenge of trying to understand mental illness ... it is so hard to get inside someone's head and imagine how they feel. The truth is that someone whose illness means that the normal istinct to survive has gone is very hard to help. I am sure that you did all you could to support her. Sometimes there really us nothing you can do.
I hope so much that you can make progress towards building a new life ... a life with a scar at its core, but a new life nevertheless.
I have been told that SOBS is a good source of support ... might it be worth reaching out to them? It could be worth a try at least.
I am sending a handhold.

I am so sorry for your terrible loss, sending you a virtual hug

Tigerpaws57 I am so sorry for your devastating loss. Wrapping my arms around you xx

To lose a child is the greatest pain imaginable. There’s no pain to compare with it. It’s still early days Tigerpaws57. Let yourself grieve but don’t feel guilty about the good moments in your life. Cry yes, but laugh too.

Tigerpaws57 I so feel for you in your loss. Nothing really helps but try to share your grief with others and don’t feel bad about crying whenever you want to. Mental health is so difficult, it doesn’t fit with what we are used to and there are no easy answers. I know the mental health services are not always able to assist, I have experience with one of my children. 😢

I’m really sorry to hear about your daughter. People on Gransnet are really kind and you will get support as others say, a year is no time at all to process this xx

So sorry for your loss tigerpaws. We’ve all experienced loss and it is soul crushing and you wonder how you can even go on the pain is so severe. My mom died at 80 from cancer and it was a blessing when she passed due to her suffering. She had a long healthy life til then. My nephew died at 6 from cancer and my brother (nephews dad)passed a few years later. Time does not heal all wounds. They are forever burned into our aching hearts. Life is hard. I can’t imagine what you are going through and I hope everyone’s words bring you some measure of comfort that you are not alone in your pain.

Tigerpaws57 I can't begin to imagine the pain of losing your child, whether by illness or their own hand. I know the pain of losing loved ones but your own child is the natural order turned upside down, nobody expects to outlive their children.
A year really is such a brief span in terms of grief and loss. Let your other children motivate you and give you a reason to carry on, but please give yourself all the space and time you need to begin to heal . Your grief and sadness will never go, but I do hope in time the rawness will lessen. You'll never get back to the old 'normal' but in time the new 'normal' can be a place where there's happiness and peace. Sending love and hope xx

There are no words I can say to comfort you but can send you a gentle hug.

I’m so sorry for your loss. 💐

I can only say that a year is no time at all. Grief has its own timescale, so if you’re putting one foot in front of the other and getting through each day, you’re doing well. After a couple of recent bereavements I waited for eighteen months and then got counselling as I was still unable to process my grief.

I'm so very sorry. My brother too. This is unbelievably hard. The shock is horrendous. My heart goes out to you.

I have no experience of this Tiger paws and can only imagine your pain. There are lovely people here on GN some of whom can offer you more support/ advise than I can . Thinking about you 💐💐💐

Sending love to you. My brother took his life several years ago. One thing that helped was SOBS(Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide). You could check if there are any groups in your area, they also have a phone number you can ring. I found it helpful meeting other people who had lost loved ones, in my local SOBS group. I hope you can feel the care of those in this group.

Sending love to Tigerpaws and all here who have suffered the loss of a child. I am so sorry. I wish I could ease your pain but I hope the fellowship of Gransnet and the strength we are all sending you makes you feel a little less alone.

Sending (((hugs))) any of us mums & grans could be in your shoes 🩷🩷🩷

So very sorry.

My elder daughter died four years ago, tigerpaws to a rare cancer that was so sudden and brutal that we hardly had time to process what was happening before we lost her.

I have no idea what motivated me to carry on but I remember how it felt one year down the line when some days I just didn’t want to get out of bed.

As you struggle to manage your grief it’s important to remember that it’s your grief. You will know when you are having good days and bad ones so treat them accordingly. There’s no cure but you will master it and peace will come when you realise grief no longer defines you.

It was a good move to post on Gransnet. You’d be surprised how many of us understand how you feel. You’re not alone.

I have no words of wisdom, I’m so sorry

So sorry for your pain and hope that posting here and the love that is sent to you helps.
My nephew has been struggling with mental health problems for several years now and this is our worst nightmare. My heart goes out to you and your family.