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Do you still wear you original wedding and engagement ring

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Judy54 Wed 17-Apr-24 13:21:28

Due to arthritis mine are now to tight so am thinking of having them made bigger. Mr J has offered to buy new rings for me but I don't want to change them as they are really pretty. Some Women do I believe change their rings over the years to update them but it is not something I want to do. How about you keep originals or new what would be your preference?

Spuddy Thu 18-Apr-24 10:52:44

In 2011 when we married I bought my own wedding ring from a charity shop for £5.00 and it fitted well.

A few years later it became tight because of Rheumatoid and Osteoarthritis so I took it off and put it in my jewellery box and bought one from M&S for £10.00. That too became too tight over the years so it joined it's sister in my box. Then I got an even bigger one from another charity shop for a couple of quid ... again, my finger/knuckle expanded and I couldn't wear that one either! Third sister in the box!

I can't not wear a wedding ring, it feels weird to me when I know I'm married so now I wear, literally, an elastic band! It's not tight, fits just right and expands with my finger and when it breaks I just use another one!

I was joking with my hubby about 4 wedding rings for 1 marriage and he said it's better than 1 ring for 4 marriages! HA!

Daddima Thu 18-Apr-24 12:46:49

I’ve worn my wedding ring ( which still has the pattern on the outside) for 51 years, and engagement ring for 52, though it does come off occasionally, and has had the claws around the stone renewed twice.

RunaroundSue Thu 18-Apr-24 13:01:16

Definitely, my wedding, engagement and eternity ring also my late husbands wedding ring. I still class myself as married even though my husband is no longer here. Luckily they still fit after 60 years. I had to have my husbands wedding ring downsized as it was too large.

GrannySomerset Thu 18-Apr-24 14:09:53

Pretty Victorian engagement ring went in a burglary along with a diamond set peridot heart ring which was a 10th wedding anniversary gift. Wedding ring cut off twice because of arthritis so a replacement engagement ring courtesy of the insurance and wedding ring courtesy of DH. Still wear my wedding ring all the time and the engagement ring most of it. It is physical evidence of having been married for so long.

Visgir1 Thu 18-Apr-24 16:33:44

No... My wedding ring got too small due to Arthritis. I have had about 4 now. My latest one is Rose gold with diamonds.
My Engagement ring was made for me, but I had it remodel about 10 years ago with my eternity ring diamonds incorporated into it, using all the gold from the rings, but I now can't get that on.
I'm into stack rings now, so completely different.

Primrose53 Thu 18-Apr-24 16:41:27

My engagement ring was very cheap from Ratners I think. My wedding ring matched it. An elderly neighbour had to cut the engagement ring off when my fingers swelled up when I was pregnant. Later on I had it repaired. It got so thin over the years that I stopped wearing it. My wedding ring did wear through so my husband bought me a new ring. i chose it. russian ring in rose gold, yellow gold and white gold.
Not very sentimental about them TBH. Married 47 years.

ginny Thu 18-Apr-24 16:50:15

I never took mine off for about 40 years. A wide ‘70 band aya diamond cluster in white gold.
Then I had an accident and my hand was so swollen they were cut off . We had them made larger.

Nowadays I often forget to put them on or my fingers are swollen and they won’t go on.
Nothing awful has happened to our marriage so doesn’t bother me at all.

Ziplok Thu 18-Apr-24 17:00:30

I wear my wedding ring all the time. My engagement and eternity rings are worn when I go out.

Ladyleftfieldlover Thu 18-Apr-24 17:06:20

I haven’t worn my engagement or eternity rings for years as my fingers are too chubby. I also have a Ruby ring (Ruby wedding) and wear it occasionally. My wedding ring is sort of the original with added gold! I had to have it cut off a few years ago after a shoulder injury. The jeweller had to rebuild it with more gold as it had got very worn over the years.

Lydie45 Fri 19-Apr-24 22:04:36

My original wedding ring was barrel shaped so when it became too tight, to have it enlarged would be difficult and would spoil the pattern so my husband bought me a new one on our 25th anniversary that was 36 years ago.

grannyactivist Fri 19-Apr-24 23:47:46

Yes, I never take them off, although I suppose I should when I’m doing a painting as they often get covered in acrylic. I do give them a thorough clean a couple of times a year.

PuddyCat Sat 20-Apr-24 00:02:15

Married twice and engaged once more. I didn't intend to do it again so I flogged 3 engagement rings, 2 wedding rings and an eternity ring. Used the cash to go on a cruise. But I met a widower on that cruise and we got engaged at Christmas so who knows!

Jangran99 Sat 20-Apr-24 01:03:31

Rings were cut off in hospital following a bad fall. I already had the wedding rings which had been my mother's, grandmother's and MIL's so I had all wedding rings melted down for our Golden Wedding and two rings made in the same profile as my mother's.They are engraved with all our initials and both worn each side of my engagement ring.My two granddaughters will inherit.

Milest0ne Sun 21-Apr-24 11:16:27

Nandalot

Sadly, no. I only used to wear my wedding ring as the engagement ring was too delicate for everyday wear. However, after 56 years of marriage, my wedding ring had become so thin I was scared of it snapping so it I keep it safely tucked away.

You could have your original ring soldered over a new ring, to make a modern looking ring, even add a diamond. Or two. Do look for a working craft jeweler not a high street multiple

Tee1 Sun 21-Apr-24 11:21:28

I wear my wedding ring which has been enlarged to accommodate arthritis. My engagement ring was stolen in a break in!

libra10 Sun 21-Apr-24 11:21:57

I still wear my wedding and engagement rings, though I lost a diamond in the engagement ring and the band became thinner. We had a new diamond and band fitted, and it's still going strong. I wear both every day.

When we had been married for 25 years, we bought a sapphire and diamond eternity ring which I wear on special occasions.

JaneJudge Sun 21-Apr-24 11:22:49

yes. I had to have them cut off as I lost a diamond so had them made bigger and and had the whatever things are called redone that hold the stones?

TwiceAsNice Sun 21-Apr-24 11:29:20

I don’t wear any of my rings as am divorced from an abusive marriage. I have kept all 3 rings and hope my grandaughters will like them including the dress ring I do wear every day. If they do there will be 2 each ( with the dress ring) for them to share.

frenchie Sun 21-Apr-24 11:35:02

We never got engaged so no ring but still wear my very cheap wedding ring nearly 48 years later!!

JAS Sun 21-Apr-24 11:55:54

I had my late husband's wedding ring made bigger so that I can always wear it.

Romola Sun 21-Apr-24 12:04:58

My rings are platinum. I wear them both all the time, but I can still get them on and off okay after 58 years. My ex-fiancé, as I sometimes used to call him, took out his pension contributions to buy them in a grand jeweller in Regent Street, a great memory but not a good decision financially. We should have bought second-hand in Kensington Church Street. Oh well...

Vintagegirl Sun 21-Apr-24 12:15:13

I took my wedding ring off to be resized and thought had put in inner pocket of handbag. I thought better to try get off earlier in day rather than face difficulty later in the jewellers. But I never saw it again. I was having the kitchen remodelled and there were gaps in flooring so I guess it hopped off and is there somewhere. I bought myself a chunky gold ring, I call it my bishop's ring. I thought I had lost that too and replaced it only to find it in the car months later. I had taken it off before going swimming. I inherited a great aunt's ring but spent more than it was worth having claws renewed and a stone replaced. Lost another stone later so now dont wear it.

Delia22 Sun 21-Apr-24 12:22:13

Just as some others,my wedding ring has become quite tight now.Part of this is because my fingers are a bit swollen,mainly due to medication I,m taking atm.However I'm hoping to come of this soon,so with any luck my ring will be a better fit.My engagement ring,solitaire diamond still fits but my diamond eternity ring is too small.If my fingers do shrink in the future I,ll wear it then!

grandtanteJE65 Sun 21-Apr-24 12:31:51

I still wear my wedding ring, engagement rings are practically unknown in Denmark, so I wear my dress rings sometimes in turns.

Polremy Sun 21-Apr-24 12:37:29

After a particularly difficult and exhausting day at the chalkface I turned the key to my front door only to notice that the single stone from my engagement ring had disappeared.
That ring with its blue zircon cost all of 10 guineas in 1969!
I did get it replaced with similar and still wear it, along with my wedding ring.