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silverlining48 Mon 27-May-24 19:07:02

I have that book still, gave it to my daughter, oh how we laughed. It was aimed at young women getting married…probably in the 40s/50 s. not girls.

kittylester Mon 27-May-24 18:52:49

Quite, Millie.

Millie22 Mon 27-May-24 18:51:10

Oh no not again!

Patsy70 Mon 27-May-24 18:49:02

Yes, that is how it was, apparently. Thank goodness for the sixties! 😳

M0nica Mon 27-May-24 18:48:18

Unbelievable. I was reading this kind of literature in the late 1950s and 60s, and while doing your duty by your husband was a continuing theme - there was no such thing as marital rape then - and I do remember being encouraged to look nice and care for your husband during the day, but all this putting in rollers after he is asleep nonsense may have occurred in the occasional booklet, but it was not usual.

Personally, I (and my friends) used to read all thise booklets out to each other to hoots of laughter. I mean we were the sex, drugs and rock and roll generation - and we were all at school with Marianne Faithful and I am pretty sure that when she hooked up with Mick Jagger in the early 1960s, she wasn't reading this kind of literature and abiding by its recommendations.

ExDancer Mon 27-May-24 18:34:53

I'm told this is an actual extract from a sex education textbook for girls, printed in the early 1950's in the UK. As far as we have come, we have so far to go!!

“When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train.

But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.

When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband's wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy.

Should your husband suggest Congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.

Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up, and apply your night-time face and hair care products.

You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.