Are you too scared to post what you really think?

Doodledog

Now, I am scared to post on the RF threads . I have no comprehension of why people get so angry about total strangers they are unlikely ever to meet.

😂

Be brave! Post!

You post, Doodledog, and we'll all be nowhere to be seen right behind you.

Callistemon21

Doodledog

Now, I am scared to post on the RF threads . I have no comprehension of why people get so angry about total strangers they are unlikely ever to meet.

😂

Be brave! Post!

Feel the fear and do it 😂

Oh yes we are all with you doodledog.

Hey thanks Joseann I tend not to remember much from forums but like to speak up when blatant piling on occurs especially when remarks are twisted by posters with an agenda.
MissAdventure is dead right btw often it’s a chosen method of getting a dig in.

MissAdventure

You post, Doodledog, and we'll all be nowhere to be seen right behind you.

😂

Doodledog

Now, I am scared to post on the RF threads . I have no comprehension of why people get so angry about total strangers they are unlikely ever to meet.

You have to be very good at mental gymnastics to keep up with some of it, Doodledog!

The only reason I don’t post what I really want to say is because I’ve had a couple of suspensions and I will not give the easily offended the satisfaction 😂

Joseann

Dickens I remember a big pile on I experienced on a M & H thread when I said Meghan was history now! I was accused of threatening a living person, and on cue additional posters pitched in over several pages. Luckily, half a dozen more sensible posters came to my rescue, and fortunately they are the ones still on GN whereas the others disappeared! So thank you,
Oreo
Callistemon
25Avalon
MerylStreep
as I recall.
If something like this still comes to mind, after possibly 18 months, I can see why some posters are scared to open themselves up to bullying if they post something expressing any criticism.

... oh!

But, saying someone is "history" surely is a phrase that lots of people use about those who are considered no longer relevant .

It takes some stretch of the imagination to translate that as a threat! But obviously others must've thought something similar if they joined in the pile-on.

Doodledog

Now, I am scared to post on the RF threads . I have no comprehension of why people get so angry about total strangers they are unlikely ever to meet.

I agree, on the one hand.

However, the RF are part of our constitutional culture so disrespecting them probably feels like we're being treated with contempt?

I don't really know, or understand it, so maybe that's not the reason. I don't often post on those threads as M&H hold very little interest for me - but the comments are interesting.

Dickens

Joseann

Dickens I remember a big pile on I experienced on a M & H thread when I said Meghan was history now! I was accused of threatening a living person, and on cue additional posters pitched in over several pages. Luckily, half a dozen more sensible posters came to my rescue, and fortunately they are the ones still on GN whereas the others disappeared! So thank you,
Oreo
Callistemon
25Avalon
MerylStreep
as I recall.
If something like this still comes to mind, after possibly 18 months, I can see why some posters are scared to open themselves up to bullying if they post something expressing any criticism.

... oh!

But, saying someone is "history" surely is a phrase that lots of people use about those who are considered no longer relevant .

It takes some stretch of the imagination to translate that as a threat! But obviously others must've thought something similar if they joined in the pile-on.

Perhaps it was misunderstood by someone who does not understand English idioms?

I don't post a lot, or often, but when i do post I speak my mind.

If someone wants to answer me, and have a go at me then that is up to them. We are all big boys and girls, free to speak our minds, this is 2024, not 1984.

So come on WT, if you have something to say, say it, the only thing you are likely to get back is words, and they can't hurt you unless you let them do so.

Unless anyone has passed on information, we are all anonymous, it's not as if someone will come knocking on your shouting and screaming in your faces.

I think it is more about do you NEED to say what you think?
there is a difference between thinking and saying. I have strong views about many things but do people NEED to know my thoughts ?

Here goes then, I really don't want to upset gransnetters, but I think these pro Palestinian marches should be banned, and I support Israel as I think October 7th attack by Hamas was sheer unadulterated evil

Some of us deal with shouting & screaming better than hurtful words though.(because that's obviously the person's problem & you respect them less & don't value their opinion). Words can hurt,of course they can, even typed on gransnet. Especially if you're someone who doesn't have all that much face-to-face contact on an ordinary day.

Galaxy

Rocket ship, there is a section called getting started on GN, in that section is a list of the acronyms.
DH means dear husband, DS means dear son, etc.

Thanks Galaxy!! I'll try to find it.

Some interesting viewpoints.

I can deal better with people I know when or if they verbally 'attack' me - but complete strangers, which we all are on here to each other - is for some reason more difficult. It should be the opposite though. We don't know each other, so what the heck does it matter!

There's one or two posters whose strong opinions I sometimes find quite shocking - and I certainly oppose them - yet I can still respect the poster. In the same way I absolutely loathed Margaret Thatcher's ideology, but I respected her absolute unswerving dedication to it. If that makes sense?

rocketship

On here I've always felt safe to put my true opinions on any subject. Same with OH and DAC. With real life friends, even close friends, I never discuss religion or politics as I feel they both can cause a rift or upset the friend. My family are open minded and tolerant to ideas different from theirs and respect others views. OH and I agree to disagree on many subjects but it never causes arguments.
On gransnet if I get rude replies (which is rare) I can just stop reading that thread. Not so easy in real life.

Think it's understandable and sad that these days you can hold back for fear of reprisals , I used to speak my truths in situations but now very careful - especially if know my address. Even when driving eg an idiot pulled out in front of me but I didn't peep as would have done because car had youths in it........it kind of provoked fear
But if you can't speak truth here I guess what's the point x

Whitewavemark2

*I steer clear of estrangement, gender and royal threads, which seem to be where there is most personal conflict, and it’s a lot less stressful not to get involved at all*

And me! I am astounded at some comments that people direct at others. It is dreadful, particularly as they have no idea of that persons background or mental state. It really is appalling.

Totally understand this , there are some people who jump on posts & in defending yourself you become embroiled without starting out with that intention.
So , yes there are many things that I would like to post , but have learnt to hold my tongue on . Which isn’t who I am , I am someone who will say if something isn’t right and yes even if it offends as sometimes others are far to sensitive.
Also these days you can’t say all manner of things without offending one person or another !

I have always been prepared to stand up and be counted, in real life and on GN, although, since I have never had a post removed by GN, that I can remember, I have not overstepped the line.

I find standing up and being counted, whether bullies at work, or anywhere else causes far less trouble than being intimidated by people, to my face or in print.

Nan0

Here goes then, I really don't want to upset gransnetters, but I think these pro Palestinian marches should be banned, and I support Israel as I think October 7th attack by Hamas was sheer unadulterated evil

"I wholly disagree with what you say but will contend to the death for your right to say it."

Voltaire (Translated from the French)

Before anybody starts, this is not to say I support Hamas. I don't.

When I first joined GN I was hurt by the replies I got to one of my postings and actually left it for a while but then thought 'Why should I' so I posted how I'd felt and someone privately messaged me to apologise which I appreciated.

Since then, I couldn't care less how, what, why or when I post. Its the same names who are 'spiky' with their answers, others are 'kind' but you get to know the ones who are 'spoiling for a fight' straight away.

How many of these names are Bots ?