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Do you find it hard to ‘let it go?’

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merlotgran Wed 07-Aug-24 14:04:44

I’m not referring to the Always pads advert for bladder leaks 😂 but being able to move on/put it behind you when you realise you’ve done something silly.

A few days ago I went to the Range to buy some gardening stuff and as it started to rain quite heavily when I got home I left the bag in the boot of the car and made a dash for the door.

I didn’t bother getting it in until the following afternoon and that’s when I realised I must have left the tomato feed and the houseplant spray bottle at the checkout and they were the things I actually went for in the first place. If only I’d unpacked the shopping immediately there would have been time to nip back and hopefully claim them.

I’m so cross with myself for not paying proper attention at the checkout and I know it’s not the end of the world as was not really much money to waste. I’m also cross with the checkout girl for not calling me back as there was nobody else behind me so she must have noticed.

Are you one of those who can just shrug and move on or are you harder on yourself than others?

And I won’t be telling DD or she’ll think it’s the start of the slippery slope! 😂

Kandinsky Wed 07-Aug-24 14:15:14

I’d give them a ring.
The check out girl probably did see them (?eventually ) and popped them under the counter.

Primrose53 Wed 07-Aug-24 14:26:02

I do silly things all the time. A few weeks ago I bought a lovely dress from Lily & Me. Linen with white background and lovely fresh flower design.

Washed it on 30 today went to hang on line and thought it had a pinkish tinge. 😱 i discovered a bright red napkin mangled up in the pocket.

Showed husband and I said I felt really stupid. He just calmly picked the gunge out of pocket and put it on quick wash with some different powder and it’s perfect again.

Kandinsky Wed 07-Aug-24 14:57:04

Although I must admit, I only opened this thread because I thought it was about unrequited love.
Bit disappointed it was about tomato feed.

But I’ll let it go.

Calendargirl Wed 07-Aug-24 15:31:06

I would also give them a ring.

I left an avocado at Tescos one day, didn’t notice it in the checkout tray.

Realised when preparing tea I hadn’t got it!

Enquired next day, assuming the next customer would have popped it in their bag, but no, it was behind the reception desk!

Oh ye of little faith!

So worth asking. If not there, don’t beat yourself up, you can’t do anymore, but if you don’t ask, you’ll just wonder…

crazyH Wed 07-Aug-24 15:38:16

Me too Kadinsky

Judy54 Wed 07-Aug-24 16:28:07

Yes I would definitely contact them. Mr J went to the supermarket and forgot his wallet and they put the items to one side whilst he came home for his wallet. Most places I find are very obliging so worth asking.

MissInterpreted Wed 07-Aug-24 16:29:58

Oh, I find it very hard to 'let it go'. I find myself lying in bed at night fretting about something I've said or done from years ago - and which was probably of little consequence at the time and even less so now. No-one is harder on themselves than I am.

Poppyred Wed 07-Aug-24 16:54:21

I wouldn’t let it go without doing everything in my power to put it right, if all else fails have a glass of wine. 🍷

nexus63 Wed 07-Aug-24 16:58:30

i used to be the type to worry and lay awake at night thinking i should have said that or i should have done that, getting myself worked up because i left the pack of expensive roast beef in the trolly at morrisons, but after having 2 different cancers at 54 and 55 and getting past the 5 years, i am now 62 and my attitude has changed so much, today i sat on the couch with my kindle and some popcorn, the hoovering can wait, so can the bathroom cleaning, after being widowed twice (last time 3 years ago). i now only have myself to please. when a surgeon tells you that you have 6 months to live and you may not survive the operation.....that pack of roast beef does not matter...i can have toast and beans...life is to short and not worth the energy of worrying...ps i will hoover tomorrow or the next day.

merlotgran Wed 07-Aug-24 18:03:51

Poppyred

I wouldn’t let it go without doing everything in my power to put it right, if all else fails have a glass of wine. 🍷

I can do both!! Following the advice on here I phoned the Range not expecting the items to still be at the checkout as it was three days ago but they were!!!

I will pick them up tomorrow and tonight I will celebrate with 🍷 😂.
I will also give myself a hard time for not having enough faith to contact them earlier. 🤔🤨

Oreo Wed 07-Aug-24 18:36:30

Kandinsky

Although I must admit, I only opened this thread because I thought it was about unrequited love.
Bit disappointed it was about tomato feed.

But I’ll let it go.

😂

Oreo Wed 07-Aug-24 18:37:54

Always worth checking with shops if you leave something behind.
I would be cross with myself for doing something silly or forgetful but not for long.

Coolgran65 Wed 07-Aug-24 19:16:35

Slightly off track, but my fingers were a bit swollen and while out shopping in Asda I moved my engagement ring onto my little finger where it felt safe. Got home and no engagement ring. I raced back to Asda to ask at Customer Service. And there it was. Some kind lady had found it among the loose vegetables and handed it in. My heart had been beating unbelievably fast and it took a few minutes for me to calm. Unfortunately Asda had not taken the lady's details. I would so have wanted to thank her. Most things get handed in and most people are honest.
My faith in people is strong. It always had been.

dragonfly46 Wed 07-Aug-24 19:21:05

No I wouldn’t be able to let it go. So pleased the items were still there.

Redhead56 Wed 07-Aug-24 19:23:53

I have made some mistakes lately but I won’t let them go I am very stubborn. If it was me I wouldn’t ring the supermarket I would go back with my receipt. If the products had been put on customers services you might well get them back it’s worth a try.

Tuaim Wed 07-Aug-24 20:03:23

My bete noir is leaving the hob on when I have finished cooking which of course is very dangerous. I make sure that when I am cooking I am standing by the cooker or doing something in the kitchen while things cook on the hob. When I am finished I not only switch off the hob rings but also the main cooker at the wall. And, if I go out, I double check all plug sockets and anything that could be left on. I walk around romancing and miss essentials which is very bad of me.

Poppyred Wed 07-Aug-24 20:46:59

merlotgran

Poppyred

I wouldn’t let it go without doing everything in my power to put it right, if all else fails have a glass of wine. 🍷

I can do both!! Following the advice on here I phoned the Range not expecting the items to still be at the checkout as it was three days ago but they were!!!

I will pick them up tomorrow and tonight I will celebrate with 🍷 😂.
I will also give myself a hard time for not having enough faith to contact them earlier. 🤔🤨

Well done! Cheers!

Calendargirl Thu 08-Aug-24 11:06:58

Really pleased for you Merlotgran.

Grandageorge Thu 08-Aug-24 12:05:24

Me too
Life’s too short

HelterSkelter1 Thu 08-Aug-24 12:14:51

Hope you had a Merlot. Gran.

Calendargirl Thu 08-Aug-24 12:24:13

Coolgran65

Slightly off track, but my fingers were a bit swollen and while out shopping in Asda I moved my engagement ring onto my little finger where it felt safe. Got home and no engagement ring. I raced back to Asda to ask at Customer Service. And there it was. Some kind lady had found it among the loose vegetables and handed it in. My heart had been beating unbelievably fast and it took a few minutes for me to calm. Unfortunately Asda had not taken the lady's details. I would so have wanted to thank her. Most things get handed in and most people are honest.
My faith in people is strong. It always had been.

So pleased that it was handed in. Losing my rings would break my heart, and yes, I know they are only ‘things’.

But very special ‘things’.

Can imagine how your heart was pounding, and I bet you could hardly believe your luck!

Serendipity22 Thu 08-Aug-24 12:34:56

Contact them and just put it down to '1 of those silly things' . Ohhhh there isn't enough room here to type out the silly things I have done over time, i laugh about it and carry on with life. Don't beat yourself up, its not worth it......

BigBertha1 Thu 08-Aug-24 14:43:10

I walked into a road sign on Tuesday and fell flat on my back. Big bruise and cut bridge of nose. Road sign fine.

Milest0ne Thu 08-Aug-24 19:37:13

Pre mobile phones early 70's, I was driving on the motorway in a rain storm when my windscreen wipers packed up. The RAC refused to come out because the car was not disabled. We got home by tying thread to the ends of the wiper blades and feeding it into the car for DD to pull on the threads to work the wipers. Fortunately we were only a few miles from home. I have never forgiven RAC and still hold a grudge after all these years grin