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pably15 Tue 03-Sept-24 13:27:45

Just read this on the news...an 80 year old man was attacked in a Leicestershire park while walking his dog, by 5 children aged 12 to 14, boys and girls,the man has since died, what is happening in this country, when children this age can do something like this...

eazybee Tue 03-Sept-24 16:50:08

The example of the mother going on holiday to Ibiza while her son was due to appear in court is the reason why some children are like this.
These parents of dangerous children should have heavy fines for neglect.
And pity the teachers who are faced with these sort of children each day.

kittylester Tue 03-Sept-24 16:53:02

Boz

The victim is an Asian man who has lived here for 40 years.

I hope that doesn't lead to more rioting in Leicester.

M0nica Tue 03-Sept-24 17:01:28

Shelflife, Sodapop there are many responsible and careful parents out there. In fact that would describe most parents, as loving and caring, but there is a small and growing underclass of feral children, once found only in very big cities, but now found, thanks to social media, everywhere. Children who mainly live wih their mothers and mutiple different partners, who have limited contact with their fathers. Their mothers have little interest in them and they are left running the streets like stray dogs. When they reach the age where they become parents they will just replicate the same story.

I know what I would do in an ideal world where money was no object. In the meanwhile we must do far more to try and draw these children into some kind of home based care system that can supply the necessary structure to their lives that their parents ar incapable of providing. Reinstating Surestart and reopening youth activity centres would be a start.

Chestnut Tue 03-Sept-24 17:04:49

It's a combination of things:
1/ poor parenting with no moral guidance or boundaries.
2/ graphic violence seen on TV, in games, movies and the internet.
3/ fear of society in general, knife crime, drugs etc.
Put the three together and you have children with no morals who experience violence in the media and maybe on the street. They are going to be corrupted by the age of 10.

When I was a child we only saw what we came across in our everyday life. Children saw nothing bad on TV or in movies. We were innocent. By the 1980s videos brought horror and violence into the home, bad parents allowed their children to see video nasties. By the 1990s things were creeping ever onward and then along came the internet. So now 25 years later we have total breakdown of society, and my personal view is that the 'media' (TV, movies, games, internet) have all made a huge contribution. No-one ever thought it necessary to protect children from all this. Their brains are not fully developed and cannot process all this screen violence in the same way an adult can. So here we have it, children committing murder and it won't be the last time.

Vintagejazz Tue 03-Sept-24 18:08:40

Probably lots of reasons but there does seem to be a lot of chaotic families out there; parents having children with multiple partners, moving new partners into the family home at alarming speed, blending and unbending families, absent fathers etc etc.
Also, while I'm certainly not advocating the days when children were put up for adoption for spurious reasons, I think the pendulum has swung too far the other way. Young vulnerable girls, barely able to look after themselves, being allowed to leave maternity hospitals as sole carer for tiny babies; parents addicted to drugs being 'entitled ' to keep their new baby, who then spends most of his childhood in and out of care. There are some people who are just not capable of being good parents and shoukd not be allowed to keep their babies or to refuse to have them adopted while they spend years 'sorting themselves out' and the child spends years being dragged between his biological parent and a series of Foster carers.
There has to be a proper middle ground.

Shelflife Tue 03-Sept-24 18:19:47

Thank you sodapop.
My views too Vintagejazz. When it comes to vulnerable babies who may be suitable for adoption it seems the emphasis is on the Mum and not the baby!! A child then spends time in the cafe of various foster carers and his/ her parent. By the time adoption is a strong possibility the child is carrying a load of baggage!!!! Some adoptions break down - no prizes for guessing why!!!!

paddyann54 Tue 03-Sept-24 18:25:05

Could it be the constant blaming of immigrants for everything that’s wrong in the UK? Why not teach the young that the mess in their country is down to goverment causing division,homelessness and much more .Oh and maybe stop blaming people with a different colour for all our ills

MissAdventure Tue 03-Sept-24 18:42:15

Good point, paddyann.

Patsy70 Tue 03-Sept-24 18:55:48

Smileless2012

Having nothing to do all day doesn't contribute to such an act of violence. Raising children is the responsibility of their parents, not the government.

Exactly this!

Nannytopsy Tue 03-Sept-24 19:08:30

I probably taught some of those parents. Some of them were very disturbed.

Babs03 Tue 03-Sept-24 19:22:43

So tragic for the family of the man killed, and their shock at the age of those who killed him must be overwhelming.
When children are the perpetrators I believe the parents must also be questionned, in some cases they may have no part in it and be as shocked as everyone else, but if the parents are racist or violent they should be arrested for manslaughter.

Jackiest Tue 03-Sept-24 19:27:11

Five children have been arrested 3 girls and 2 boys. As they are children we will probably hear no more details about why they murdered him.

V3ra Tue 03-Sept-24 19:34:46

...and my personal view is that the 'media' (TV, movies, games, internet) have all made a huge contribution. No-one ever thought it necessary to protect children from all this. Their brains are not fully developed and cannot process all this screen violence in the same way an adult can.

Chestnut you are so right.
X-Box and PlayStation games have an age certificate, but from my experience talking to my minded children their parents don't take any notice.

I looked after a ten year old boy earlier this year, a very nice child, and perfectly pleasant parents.
His sole topic of conversation was the current level of whatever fighting game he was playing. I looked up two of them and they were both 18 certificates.
He just shrugged when I pointed it out to him.

In the end I had to say I didn't want to hear any more about these games. He said he understood, because I had younger children present who shouldn't be hearing these things.
I pointed out that he shouldn't be playing them in the first place!

I don't allow the children to bring any gadgets or mobile phones to my house and I supervise and restrict what they're allowed to watch on television.
It's an uphill battle some days 🙄

Allira Tue 03-Sept-24 19:38:48

paddyann54

Could it be the constant blaming of immigrants for everything that’s wrong in the UK? Why not teach the young that the mess in their country is down to goverment causing division,homelessness and much more .Oh and maybe stop blaming people with a different colour for all our ills

I doubt these youngsters are homeless although they could be, of course.

This is down to poor parenting and a lack of any morals or values being taught by these parents, combined with a lack of will by government to tackle these dreadful online sites which children can access.
Do the parents even care what their children are looking at online or care what they are doing when they go out?

M0nica Tue 03-Sept-24 19:54:52

paddyann54

Could it be the constant blaming of immigrants for everything that’s wrong in the UK? Why not teach the young that the mess in their country is down to goverment causing division,homelessness and much more .Oh and maybe stop blaming people with a different colour for all our ills

Governments are elected by voters who are the ordinary people in the country. It is not governments causing division and homelessness. It is those electing them and it applies to governments of all persuasions, those the individual supports and those they are opposed to. No party or nationality can crawl out from under and say 'not me'.

The kind of children we are dealing with here are not ones to whom we can teach the young that the mess in their country is down to goverment causing division,homelessness and much more These children are probably not at school. or are frequent absconders, they will be close to illiterate, and often excluded.

The ills that lead to crimes like this are far more profound than a few politically correct sermons from a teacher in a Life Skills class. It is the life styles and choices of the mothers of these children that we need to change, it might even mean their fathers being in their lives.

Yes, the parents themselves are also damaged and uncivilised in the literal meaning of not being part of society. We need to find a way of working with these people to change their lives. they ahve developed an under culture that they know how to exploit the advantages of being part of civilised(in the literal meaning) society, but as they can see no way of ever being part of they have developed their own nihilistic culture that means they can hurt and outrage the likes of us, but that is all.

00opsidia Tue 03-Sept-24 20:14:06

Patsy70

Smileless2012

Having nothing to do all day doesn't contribute to such an act of violence. Raising children is the responsibility of their parents, not the government.

Exactly this!

Yes.

If kids are playing violent games like Grand Theft Auto from the age of three or something perhaps their parents think it's funny. I hope they are going to lock up and question these kids and find out what has influenced them- then charge the parents for what the kids have done if they are underage and put the kids somewhere to be "re educated", like a detention centre.

They cannot surely let killers off, even if they are kids.

keepingquiet Tue 03-Sept-24 21:51:57

I just read this inoffensive and gentle man had made several complaints to the police about anti-social behaviour. How sad that nothing was done. One man is dead and five other young lives ruined.

Babs03 Tue 03-Sept-24 22:03:02

I have to say that I personally can feel intimidated by groups of youngsters. Whilst travelling on the train to London recently there were several young teens in my carriage making a lot of noise, swearing and pushing and shoving each other, then they started moving up and down the carriage throwing themselves on empty seats and kicking the doors at the end, I wanted to get up and move to another carriage but didn’t want to have to push past them.
They may still be children but they are big enough to cause damage.

Allira Tue 03-Sept-24 22:28:19

keepingquiet

I just read this inoffensive and gentle man had made several complaints to the police about anti-social behaviour. How sad that nothing was done. One man is dead and five other young lives ruined.

Leicestershire police said it had voluntarily referred itself to the police watchdog, the Independent Office of Police Conduct (IOPC), about the previous incident involving Kohli which was reported to them in July. During that incident it is alleged some of the comments made by the young people were racist.

Four of the children have been released without charge. One 14 year old is still in police custody.

What a terrible end to a long life. 😥

MissAdventure Tue 03-Sept-24 22:32:46

Bloody awful.
How very sad.

tickingbird Tue 03-Sept-24 22:37:50

This is so sad. I feel so sorry for this poor elderly gentleman walking his dog and being attacked by feral kids. What a world we live in.

I don’t know the answers but lack of guidance and boundaries for children must play a part.

Babs03 Tue 03-Sept-24 22:51:14

tickingbird

This is so sad. I feel so sorry for this poor elderly gentleman walking his dog and being attacked by feral kids. What a world we live in.

I don’t know the answers but lack of guidance and boundaries for children must play a part.

I agree.
My DH was a teacher for over 30 years, in the beginning wasn’t too bad but towards the end he was glad to retire. He taught in a high school and the kids could be a nightmare. The thing is the way it used to be with corporal punishment was wrong but now it has gone too far the other way, there is no discipline because schools cannot implement it, if they do many parents would be outraged and they could even face litigation. Detention means nothing to these kids, they just don’t show up, and if they are suspended they just hang around the streets making a pest of themselves and all their mates think they are cool.
When I was young my parents supported the teachers if they disciplined me. That rarely happens now. In my husbands school when a boy was expelled for attacking another pupil his dad turned up at the school and punched the deputy head.
This is what we are up against as a society.

seadragon Tue 03-Sept-24 22:52:26

Don't suppose anyone knows what happened to that poor dog....?

OldFrill Tue 03-Sept-24 22:58:41

Bhim Kohli, died of neck injuries. 4 of the children have been discharged with no further action. One 14 year old boy remains in custody.
Mr Kohli had previously complained to the police about antisocial behaviour.
Many assumptions have been voiced on here, maybe patience should be exercised before jumping to conclusions about the children involved, as it seems most weren't involved.

Vintagejazz Tue 03-Sept-24 23:08:27

I think the fact that no one seems to be allowed discipline children anymore except their parents is also a factor. In the days when neighbours could tell off misbehaving kids, the local Bobby could have stern words and schools could insist that pupils abide by their rules, backed up by parents, allowed children to gain an understandingof what is and isn't acceptable by society.

Now many parents become indignant or angry if anyone corrects their child and many people are afraid to speak grossly or sternly to someone else's child in case they attract the ire of the parent. As a result many kids are growing up in a bubble, totally unaware of what constitutes normal and acceptable behaviour.