What small thing would help you right now?

A day in bed.
Since my H died when I never seemed to be able to rest at all I occasionally have a day in bed, reading , catching up on recorded programmes ,making phone calls.
Since Christmas I haven’t been well, lots of stress but needed to be about ( only in the house), I have only been out once since Christmas day to buy wallpaper and now the decorator is here for a week.
As soon as he finishes I hope to get my chance before the flooring people come.
Oh happy day.

To sleep like I once did, through the night waking at 7ish and to not have bouts of insomnia.

Oh, LindaPat, I'm so sorry about your little cat. I love her loads and am thinking of her and wishing her a speedy recovery.

Grannmarie

*LoveOc, Smileless*, me too! I was always a worrier but it seemed to get worse with the menopause, then Covid put the tin lid on it!
I know I have lots to be thankful for, and I count my blessings regularly, but I still waken up early in a panic.
Kind thoughts to all our worriers.💕

Rueful smile re Covid (or in my case - Lockdown) putting the "tin lid" on it. I'll never trust our government again as far as I could throw them - for anything ever. Part of me will probably always think "Wouldnt put it past them to do that again - and then lie again about how long it would go on for ("two weeks" - yeah right and I was daft enough to believe that when I heard it)".

A phrase I got told years ago by someone I knew is one of the most useful I've ever been told. They said to me "You're a nice person - and because you're a nice person = you think someone else (ie our employer) will treat you the way you know you should be treated (ie fairly). You are wrong. They won't". They were absolutely correct and always after that I thought "If I were a right how would I treat me next?" and I got it absolutely spot-on correct every single time as to what they would do next - but I was "lined-up waiting/had taken what protective measures I could against them. That worked so perfectly - ie to anticipate them doing the exact opposite of what they should do - that I always am aware of the dual thing ever after in every context:
1. What someone or some group should do/I would do
2. What a would do in their position

and I prepare as best I can for them taking option 2. It has proven very very useful indeed to me to always be aware what a "Nasty" would do, as well as what should happen.

So - yep that employer and Lockdown between them have made me very cynical and self-protective and always aware someone might take the option, rather than the correct one.

But yep....I do try and "count my blessings" and think "Thank goodness I found a way to overcome financial effects of being single enough to buy a house somehow despite that", "Thank goodness I check health issues for myself and don't take the NHS' word for it", etc etc.

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A larder cupboard! Tins and bottles are stuck in low cupboard which I find difficult to get down to, and upper cupboards mean standing on a stool, I would love a cupboard with my mid height shelves to store tins and jars

A cup of tea.

Some get up and go so I finally do the dozen or so small things that have been niggling me for a while and need sorting.

A nice young man!

loveOc I am not very mobile. I have tried a couple of church coffee mornings and found them to be very cliquey. They are so so friendly to your face, but do not need or want friends out of the group.

Heating - ours has packed up. Fortunately we have an amazing plumber who will fix it tomorrow and the weather is sunny and warm.

some energy

Not needing to work until I’m 66 years and 7 months!!! 404 working days left, and counting! Will I make it? Or die of stress and exhaustion before I receive a pension?

A free cleaner who does not gossip just cleans. Once a week is fine, it is the dusting and the hoovering that kills my back. Oh and changing the bed. I love doing it myself so if it could be done pain free I would.

ginny

I’m not sure it’s a small thing but I would like to go to my brothers funeral. He died on 27th December.
He and my Sister in Law have opted for ‘Pure Cremation. Their choice and I respect that.
They say that funerals are for those left behind and I now see what they mean. I ‘m finding it difficult not having a particular day to feel he has been said goodbye to.
I probably haven’t explained that very well .

That's sad ginny. What happened to his ashes? Were they buried? Scattered? Lots of people us this as a sort of memorial to say goodbye.

Have your own special day when you think about your brother and say goodbye. Go somewhere special to you both. Have a drink with him, tell him you love him and miss him. Maybe Sister-in-law will join you.

Just a little bit more motivation would make life much better for me.

A nice cake would do the trick.😙

To get a better social life, but dont know where to begin, ive just retired

Ooh yes Primrose, a week in the sun with no worries, my own bedroom, and the ability to beam up to get there and back. Just perfect.

Having failed to get a response from my surgery
or 111, or my online NHS account it would be so nice if someone somewhere would just tell me what to do. I've been ill for a month, thinking I've got flu or Covid ) though I had the jabs in November). I phoned and cancelled an appointment for a liver scan, explaining that I thought I would bring more germs into the hospital. That was a couple of weeks ago. I've now got another appointment for next week, with the sting in it's tail saying that I will be taken off the list if i cancel more than twice.
But I've recently had a conversation with a friend , and without going into the complicated details,she has convinced me that I have RSV- a respiratory ailment for which she was offered a vaccination ) . When I described my symptoms she immediately said that these were the symptoms of RSV. Since then I've done some googling and am sure she's right.
So I feel that I should cancel this next scan appointment as RSV is contagious, but would like the reason for doing so to go on my records.
I phoned my surgery - it is literally not answering - you just get cut off. I filled in a huge load of answers to Questions on 111, and at the end got a sentence saying that I wasn't ill enough to need treatment, which wasn't what I was asking! I give up!

A biscuit

I need someone to come here, go to what was once DH"s garden office and go through the boxes of stuff I brought here when my Mum died. That was 6 years ago. Said person needs to know exactly what I want to keep, deal sensitively with the rest. Every autumn I say that is a job for the winter.

Nice thread FGT, what do you wish for today?

To be free of post shingles neuralgia pain in my back, the prescribed pain relief doesn't always work well, the GP appointment I had booked for earlier this week was cancelled by the surgery, thank goodness I have one for next week.
Also, as others have said, to stop worrying about the future and be more in the present, however, roll on the Spring, my favourite season

rowyn

Having failed to get a response from my surgery
or 111, or my online NHS account it would be so nice if someone somewhere would just tell me what to do. I've been ill for a month, thinking I've got flu or Covid ) though I had the jabs in November). I phoned and cancelled an appointment for a liver scan, explaining that I thought I would bring more germs into the hospital. That was a couple of weeks ago. I've now got another appointment for next week, with the sting in it's tail saying that I will be taken off the list if i cancel more than twice.
But I've recently had a conversation with a friend , and without going into the complicated details,she has convinced me that I have RSV- a respiratory ailment for which she was offered a vaccination ) . When I described my symptoms she immediately said that these were the symptoms of RSV. Since then I've done some googling and am sure she's right.
So I feel that I should cancel this next scan appointment as RSV is contagious, but would like the reason for doing so to go on my records.
I phoned my surgery - it is literally not answering - you just get cut off. I filled in a huge load of answers to Questions on 111, and at the end got a sentence saying that I wasn't ill enough to need treatment, which wasn't what I was asking! I give up!

It says on-line that RSV is contagious for 3-8 days so I assume you should be safe by next week

Thank you HPQ (and others).
Renewing our internet contract by phone in a bit and hoping for a better quote than what came up automatically via my email. I hate doing this sort of thing it always gets me churned up for some daft reason! Wish me luck….