The phrase "get over it"

Barleyfields

For some here, Norah (not me) it seems it will never be over and done. I find it all very tedious, and will be jumped on for saying so.

It is quite tedious. Done is done.

Our young GGC upon breaking an item "I sorry, we done?"

Yes dear, we're done. Time to move on.

Norah

Claremont

Especially as no-one has ever been able to give any evidence of any positive point linked to it! Some have tried, but good evidence showed that they were mistaken. (like the nonsense about the Covid vaccine).

It's over and done. Why ask?

Because if there is no advantage to it, and in fact, lots of damage done - it has to change.

You know, people take on a job- then realise it is not for them, so they change. Or they get married, and find out it is a disaster, so they divorce and change.

Babs03

If my OH said ‘get over it’ if I was fixated on something trivial or vice versa, though we wouldn’t say it quite so bluntly, that is acceptable. But someone saying it in order to close down a conversation or debate is rude and unacceptable.

And I think it’s used when someone doesn’t have a valid counter argument to someone’s concerns.

Claremont

Norah

Claremont

Especially as no-one has ever been able to give any evidence of any positive point linked to it! Some have tried, but good evidence showed that they were mistaken. (like the nonsense about the Covid vaccine).

It's over and done. Why ask?

Because if there is no advantage to it, and in fact, lots of damage done - it has to change.

You know, people take on a job- then realise it is not for them, so they change. Or they get married, and find out it is a disaster, so they divorce and change.

Good job - others to worry on about the past. Thank you.

Claremont

Norah

Claremont

Especially as no-one has ever been able to give any evidence of any positive point linked to it! Some have tried, but good evidence showed that they were mistaken. (like the nonsense about the Covid vaccine).

It's over and done. Why ask?

Because if there is no advantage to it, and in fact, lots of damage done - it has to change.

You know, people take on a job- then realise it is not for them, so they change. Or they get married, and find out it is a disaster, so they divorce and change.

No, it doesn’t‘have to change’ Claremont. You seem obsessed by Brexit. I got over the result years ago. No point dwelling on something I can’t change. And please don’t suggest I should campaign for change - I’m simply not interested.

It isn’t a case of being obsessed with Brexit but a case of everyone choosing to ignore the fact that we’d be better off economically if we were still in the EU.

Some posters are obsessed MayBee. One in particular who constantly posts about it. I voted to remain and am fully aware of the consequences of the leave vote, but choose not to dwell on it. What’s done is done.

MayBee70

It isn’t a case of being obsessed with Brexit but a case of everyone choosing to ignore the fact that we’d be better off economically if we were still in the EU.

We might be better off were we still in the EU, we're not, thus get over it.

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RosieandherMaw

^Stop wasting your own and others time going over and over something that has happened that you can do nothing about and get on with life^

Fair point.
“What can’t be cured must be endured”

I've heard people say "Build a bridge and get over it" and don't think it's meant to be unkind or lacking in empathy.

I see it more as "We don't like what's happened but it's no good brooding, let's find a way to move forward".

'It's no good crying over spilt milk'
'It's an ill wind that blows nobody any good'

I was brought up on those sayings, my mother had one for every occasion!

It's no good crying over spilt milk is kinder - maybe because it's still usually related to something accidental or with unforseen consequences?

"Get over it" is pretty much always trying to shut someone up.
I've seen it used on Gransnet fairly often.
People who use it here are generally being rude.

MayBee70

It isn’t a case of being obsessed with Brexit but a case of everyone choosing to ignore the fact that we’d be better off economically if we were still in the EU.

Not sure if everyone choosing to ignore the fact that we’d be better off economically if we were still in the EU is even remotely true.
I’d be better off if I was still working full time.
I’d be fitter if I hadn’t had a fall last year.

These are all things that happened whether we chose them (like my work) or not (like the fall) and we can’t go back and unhappen them, only do our best with what we have now.

Barleyfields

Some posters are obsessed MayBee. One in particular who constantly posts about it. I voted to remain and am fully aware of the consequences of the leave vote, but choose not to dwell on it. What’s done is done.

But the people that didn’t want us in the EU didn’t stop campaigning for decades, did they? So why should people such as myself just accept what has happened. Especially as the people that pushed for us to leave appear to be supporting Trump these days.

Could be worse. They might have said 'Suck it up!' Get over it. :-)

For me it means trying to come to terms with the incident and not moan about it to all and sundry. Adverse events have happened to me over the years and that has been my philosophy.

Depends on how big it is and when it happens, trauma that happens in late life is often something you have to learn to live with rather than getting over it and moving on.

MaizieD

Barleyfields

My interpretation is ‘put up and shut up’. Somewhat rude.

That tends to be my interpretation, too. Particularly when it is used in political discussions.

If it's related to people who continually go over past traumas it's a completely pointless thing to say because they clearly can't 'get over it. It then just sounds unfeeling and hardnosed. Perhaps pointing them to counselling or support groups would be more helpful.

I agree with you both, I don't think I have ever used the expression, I certainly hope I have not, as I find it just as rude as turning round and saying, "Just shut up, will you?" another expression I would never allow myself to use.

I admit, I might say "Please, don't keep going on about this" in the circumstances where others would say, "get over it", which they may well find rude, although no-one so far has taken me up on it.

A few years ago I posted on Facebook about my sadness that my home town, in a once staunch labour area, had fallen to the tories, along with much of the 'red wall' in the north of England. Someone I knew commented "Get over it Jo. You lost!"
I thought it was very rude. I had not expected him to agree with my view, but was shocked that he could be so rude on a public forum. Thankfully I no longer see him as he left the organisation I knew him through after another difference of opinion so we haven't spoken since!

MayBee70

Barleyfields

Some posters are obsessed MayBee. One in particular who constantly posts about it. I voted to remain and am fully aware of the consequences of the leave vote, but choose not to dwell on it. What’s done is done.

But the people that didn’t want us in the EU didn’t stop campaigning for decades, did they? So why should people such as myself just accept what has happened. Especially as the people that pushed for us to leave appear to be supporting Trump these days.

Great reformers like Wilberforce or Coram kept on campaigning for what they thought was right, for decades.

I wonder if they brought it into every conversation, like my MIl and her operation or Brexit in this case?

Hello. what a lovely day.
Yes, the Sun was shining when I had my big operation.

What does “get over it” mean to you?
Well, in the case of Brexit……l

Get over it is used as a way to shut down discussion. It is rude.

I don’t think. I’ve ever used that phrase. If someone tells me their problems, I just say don’t worry about it and try to calm them. I’ve got a marvellous friend, who doesn’t get over it. She just diverts the attention to herself and her problems 😂

doesn’t say

I dislike it as an expression and see the writer as probably someone with the empathy of Donald Trump! Whilst it is fine to make suggestions to help and possible that it might be good to try and block that line of thought by trying to go in another direction, and good suggestions might be a great help. The Get over it, comes from someone who has little or no interest in anyone but themselves or sees your problem as very minor to whatever bothers them. We all have different problems and can look back and see times when we worried a lot over something that now we would have no problem with at all. We need the help we need at the time we need it, and get over it does not give anything helpful and indeed gives the writer a negative feeling on reading that reply. Fortunately on here I find many more of the empathetic replies thank goodness.

Norah

MayBee70

It isn’t a case of being obsessed with Brexit but a case of everyone choosing to ignore the fact that we’d be better off economically if we were still in the EU.

We might be better off were we still in the EU, we're not, thus get over it.

There is no 'might' about it. It has been proven again and again, on all fronts.

I am not a giver-upper - so the fight is on.

When I have seen, heard or read " get over it" , it seems to have been used in a derogatory and offhand way.

If used in sensible or sympathetic conversation perhaps more meaningful