GN makes me lonelier

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

kittylester

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

What’s is the difference? I don’t quite get it atm.

I stopped posting on GM thread after I lost my little dog as it was too sad. Most of my post centred on him and our walks together.

kittylester

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

Sorry your post made me laugh! I had a vision of you eating your cottage pie whilst kneeling. Then I read it properly!
Hope today is going well.

I have days, rather like today - read paper, wash hair, faff in the garden, make dinner, to some people boring , but to me the hum drum of life.
I like the GM thread, it helped during lockdowns for me anyway and I’ve stayed.

Got up, had shower, struggled with hair (as usual). Ate two Scotch pancakes (Waitrose are the best - and cheaper than well-known brands).
Had a coffee.
Went to Garden Centre to buy a token, the man behind me in the queue kept edging towards my shins with his trolley (one of those with a projecting section at shin level). I spent the time in the queue wondering if I'd over-balance if he shoved it into me or would I manage to bash him with one of my crutches first.

Came home, had lunch, did online puzzles, went on GN.
Must do some crocheting.

Are you bored yet? 😴

I stopped posting on GM thread after I lost my little dog as it was too sad. Most of my post centred on him and our walks together

Aw I’ve missed you on there Whitewave I wondered why you’d stopped posting. I’m sorry about your dog but I did very much enjoy reading about your garden with its plants and bird life too.

fancythat

glasshalffullagain

Just as a matter of interest , have any GN succeeded in meeting new friends/ acquaintances later in life? I used to go to Church which gave that sense of connection and belonging. I don't believe though.

Hope for a decent day today.

Good question.
Not my best friends, no.

And there was me fancythat thinking we’d got on like a house on fire …. 😂

M0nica

The way many of you are writing you would think that GN was all about family and pets.

There are currently nearly 40 threads on GN that are not about families and you can always start more of your own.

I have never had family living close to me DS and the DGC live 200 miles away. I have never played a day to day part in their lives.

I think women get far too dependent on their families. I have always had a life of my own. My DH's work involved frequent foreign travel to remote parts of the world for unknown periods of time. I had my own career and I have my own interests, own friends and own pursuits.

I also have a wonderful loving family. We go on holiday together and DS and DGS will be with us next week. We are moving to live quite close to our DD.

I do understand having down days when everything closes in on us, and I hope this is all RosieandherMaw is having but we are all responsible for our own lives and should not be dependent on our children, or any other one thing for our happiness and content.

Well bully for you!
What a smug post🙄

Rosie's Maw look what you've started!! Into a 7th page of people who feel from time to time as you are feeling today. I'm another one! I'm actually a rather contented 'aloner' but it has taken me a long long time to reach this point and even now I can falter. Being alone is not a natural state for humankind and I was terrified by it for a long time. My husband died in a road accident when he was 48 so there was no period of leading up to that point - I actually didn't know whether he would have wanted burial or cremation because it wasn't anything we'd ever talked about. I still miss him (31 years come September, three years longer than we had together).
Sometimes the 'black dog' can be too overwhelming to do anything about, but if I feel it coming I grab hold of myself and hold the words "attitude of gratitude" in my mind. I'm not preaching, honestly, just telling you what helps me. And what FGT said about contentment and how it differs from happiness or joy. But it makes no matter - those pesky down times still come along and everyone, but everyone, is with a husband with their children and grandchildren thronging around them and you feel that you are absolutely the only person who doesn't have that.
I also 'get' what you say about the Morning thread - I often post and then realise that I haven't given any of my news because there hasn't been any news to share. And everyone else is up at the crack of dawn baking and doing ......
Personally I think it's a case of acceptance - this is what, for very many of us, old age is about. We spend our lives lurching through stage after stage, doing everything to the best of our ability, and this is another stage we've lurched into .......
Give little Rosie an extra big hug/juicy treat (and yourself too from all of us fellow lurchers who have followed your thread) and I hope you're feeling better about everything again.
Thank you for the thread by the way - it's been a great help 🫂💐

www.gransnet.com/forums/chat/1242523-The-Seven-Ages-of-Woman

Maw, sounds like you have reached Stage 7, part 1. Funny how life just creeps up on us and catches us unawares. I hope you are having a better day today.

kittylester

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

Well I have a boring life and I post. The only things I do are going to church, have medical appointments, visit Sainsbury's and childmind once a week. . A really exciting life.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

fancythat

glasshalffullagain

Just as a matter of interest , have any GN succeeded in meeting new friends/ acquaintances later in life? I used to go to Church which gave that sense of connection and belonging. I don't believe though.

Hope for a decent day today.

Good question.
Not my best friends, no.

And there was me fancythat thinking we’d got on like a house on fire …. 😂

Sorry!

Gosh, that’s a blast from the past!
I wrote it a week or so after Paw died and I was in reflective mood.

It was not universally popular but I felt then and still do, that most women are “somebody” to somebody else and like melancholy Jacques’ man in As You Like It, “play many parts”
Some posters at the time felt I was demeaning women, reducing their worth as individuals, but was I?

lixy

www.gransnet.com/forums/chat/1242523-The-Seven-Ages-of-Woman

Maw, sounds like you have reached Stage 7, part 1. Funny how life just creeps up on us and catches us unawares. I hope you are having a better day today.

Oops, meant to link to this.

But M0nica if you believe for one minute that I am dependent on my children, or any other one thing for my happiness and content you could not be more wrong, or indeed that I did not have a fulfilling career or now have a wide raft of interests and responsibilities in various organisations such as The Arts Society.
Some people “got” me, never mind if you didn’t.

Marydoll

kittylester

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

Well I have a boring life and I post. The only things I do are going to church, have medical appointments, visit Sainsbury's and childmind once a week. . A really exciting life.

Don’t hide your light under a bushel Marydoll because whatever you’re doing you entertain us. We love your novellas! 😂
Things just happen to you or your husband that make us all laugh. Ordinary life … in all its glory! Sooo funny!

I’m confined to barracks because I had the temerity to go to a retreat in Spain and covid sought me out. I’m avoiding spreading this very unpleasant disease.
The weather has been kind, i have a good book and two dogs to keep me company.
Maw, I miss mr I even more at times like this. I can’t get in my car and visit my family, I can hear him saying - this too will pass, you’re doing well, look after yourself. Thank god for having loved and been loved - as you most certainly did and were x

Marydoll

kittylester

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

Well I have a boring life and I post. The only things I do are going to church, have medical appointments, visit Sainsbury's and childmind once a week. . A really exciting life.

Ah but.....there is the rich inner life.

Iam64

I’m confined to barracks because I had the temerity to go to a retreat in Spain and covid sought me out. I’m avoiding spreading this very unpleasant disease.
The weather has been kind, i have a good book and two dogs to keep me company.
Maw, I miss mr I even more at times like this. I can’t get in my car and visit my family, I can hear him saying - this too will pass, you’re doing well, look after yourself. Thank god for having loved and been loved - as you most certainly did and were x

Iam, I am sorry to hear that. Get well soon.

Monica, not everyone on GN is as you describe, that women get far too dependent on their families.
My children are adults and I expect them to live their lives, without me expecting them to be a huge part of mine. They have successful careers and families to look after.
I had a controlling mother and would never be that kind of mother.
I am my own independant woman.

I found your post a tad insensitive, given the subject matter here. As Hollysteers posted, it does sound somewhat smug.

Iam64

I’m confined to barracks because I had the temerity to go to a retreat in Spain and covid sought me out. I’m avoiding spreading this very unpleasant disease.
The weather has been kind, i have a good book and two dogs to keep me company.
Maw, I miss mr I even more at times like this. I can’t get in my car and visit my family, I can hear him saying - this too will pass, you’re doing well, look after yourself. Thank god for having loved and been loved - as you most certainly did and were x

Lovely message 🙂

Oh, miserable, Iam64.
The flippin' virus is still around, plus other nasty viruses too.

How are you managing with the dogs? Hope you feel better soon.

And everyone else is up at the crack of dawn baking and doing ......

Taichinan
Perhaps those of us who aren't don't contribute to that thread because we're not up at the crack of dawn, are hopeless bakers or haven't anything planned that day.
Or just can't keep up (that's me!).

Marydoll

kittylester

I think it would be good if people who have nothing happening posted as well as the ones who have exciting lives.

I suspect, like most of us, that my life has ups and downs. On Friday I had a dental appointment, went to the butchers and Waitrose and had an M&S Cottage Pie, on my knee while watching the new Death in Paradise thing.

That's why I liked the old style good morning thread.

Well I have a boring life and I post. The only things I do are going to church, have medical appointments, visit Sainsbury's and childmind once a week. . A really exciting life.

That sounds more exciting than mine!

Perhaps I should go to church - there's quite a lot of going on there apart from services. Our vicar is innovative.

Allira, I’m lucky in having a kind dog trainer/boarder friend 15 min drive away, who lets me use her enclosure and field to exercise my dogs. I’m well enough to drive the short distance and the dogs can safely sniff n wander as I sit on a bench

Iam64

Allira, I’m lucky in having a kind dog trainer/boarder friend 15 min drive away, who lets me use her enclosure and field to exercise my dogs. I’m well enough to drive the short distance and the dogs can safely sniff n wander as I sit on a bench

Look after yourself! At least the dogs can run round, get plenty of exercise while you get some sun.

The weather has been good, though, but is due to change, just as our DGC break up for the Easter holidays.

Yes I’ve been lucky with the weather, it’s also meant the dogs plenty of garden time with me

This thread really does keep giving! I decided to come back to read the bits I had missed yesterday and came across your post about "giving up things" for Lent. 😂😂😂. And Google's explanation 🤣🤣🤣. What a glorious way to start the day - laughing! And I did - very out loud. Thank you Silver brooks 🤣😂🤣😂