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Small children chasing pigeons in the park - harmless or mean?

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Kandinsky Fri 27-Jun-25 06:57:03

What are your thoughts on this?

I let my 2 year old granddaughter chase a few pigeons in the park yesterday. Mentioned it to my daughter ( in all innocence ) when she picked her up ( I look after GD on a Thursday ) but my daughter thinks it’s mean & not sending out the right signals. I was a bit taken aback tbh, it was a small child just running after a couple of pigeons - I wasn’t encouraging it in anyway - I just didn’t stop her.

Was I wrong?

Grannynannywanny Fri 27-Jun-25 07:08:38

I would gently have discouraged your little granddaughter and explained that it’s upsetting for birds to be treated in that way.

Doodledog Fri 27-Jun-25 07:11:47

They can fly away.

Whiff Fri 27-Jun-25 07:15:02

All children chase pigeons. But as your daughter doesn't want your granddaughter doing it then you must abide by her rules. And say no if she tries it again . Parents set the rules for their children as grandparents we have to follow them .

Doodledog Fri 27-Jun-25 07:18:42

If your daughter is entrusting your GD to your care, she has to let you be in charge. I’m not suggesting crossing real red lines; but IMO you don’t have to report every single thing you do.

Grandmabatty Fri 27-Jun-25 07:29:15

I never let my grandsons chase birds in the park. I try to encourage empathy.

V3ra Fri 27-Jun-25 07:39:16

No I don't think you were wrong not to stop your granddaughter.

Where does it end? Can she not go in the garden if there happens to be a pigeon there?

My terrier chases the pigeons all the time, they sit on the nearby house roof every day and watch him.
I think pigeons are fairly robust creatures emotionally.

Gingster Fri 27-Jun-25 07:43:32

I have stopped my grandchildren from chasing the birds. I think it’s a bit unkind.

argymargy Fri 27-Jun-25 07:43:55

I’m not keen on children chasing any wildlife. Totally wrong signals. As with all things toddler, it can soon escalate & I’ve seen children trying to actually catch/hit pigeons and making horrendous noises/pretending to shoot them etc. Very unpleasant.

Nannylovesshopping Fri 27-Jun-25 07:52:02

argymargy

I’m not keen on children chasing any wildlife. Totally wrong signals. As with all things toddler, it can soon escalate & I’ve seen children trying to actually catch/hit pigeons and making horrendous noises/pretending to shoot them etc. Very unpleasant.

Absolutely this!

loopyloo Fri 27-Jun-25 08:00:29

The pigeons have eaten most of my blueberries despite nets.
I spray them with water and they laugh at me.
This is the real world. It's dog eat dog.

Silverbrooks Fri 27-Jun-25 08:07:29

Being chased is frightening. You would not enjoy someone 20 times your size chasing you or your cat or dog. Why encourage this behaviour in a child?

That this happened in the park is irrelevant. It would have been far more responsible to explain to the child not to do this and why.

Furthermore, when animals including humans are frightened they sh*t. Scare one bird or a flock and they will fly away messing over other people if they can gain enough height in time. Or the flock in panic could fly in someone’s face perhaps that of another child or someone infirm. It happens in town and city centres all the time when adults allow children to do this or some adult thinks it's fun to do.

silverlining48 Fri 27-Jun-25 08:07:45

I don’t like seeing children chasing birds or any other wildlife. Or worse if they start throwing stones and am always surprised when parents or caregivers dont tell them to stop.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 27-Jun-25 08:11:57

I would have distracted GC and talked about the birds, where they live, what they eat etc.

Now if they were seagulls…

silverlining48 Fri 27-Jun-25 08:17:04

We all know what seagulls eat , anything that we happen to be eating. Chips and ice cream are top choice .
In days gone by when eating outside was frowned upon, seagulls would have had to go fishing for their lunch.

GrannyGravy13 Fri 27-Jun-25 08:21:48

silverlining48

We all know what seagulls eat , anything that we happen to be eating. Chips and ice cream are top choice .
In days gone by when eating outside was frowned upon, seagulls would have had to go fishing for their lunch.

We are not far from the coast, if the sea is rough at high tide we get seagulls on the school field next door but one.

They little devils are known to dive bomb me when I am in the garden along with pebble dashing any washing on the line 🤬🤬🤬

merlotgran Fri 27-Jun-25 08:26:33

No harm done and a good opportunity to explain how important it is for us to care for wildlife.

Smileless2012 Fri 27-Jun-25 08:37:42

I think it's cruel, and our boys were always told not to do it. It annoys me to see children frightening them when the adults with them say nothing.

Visgir1 Fri 27-Jun-25 08:55:04

Feral Pigeons are a menace.
I wouldn't get concerned about Children chasing them off.
I would however explain it not a good thing to do in general.

aggie Fri 27-Jun-25 09:03:54

I’m not sure how much explaining one can do with a two year old
My sister has a phobia and I have known her to send children ahead of her to encourage birds to remove themselves
As long as you don’t go the other extreme and let her feed the dam things , as others have said , distract the child

Retread Fri 27-Jun-25 09:06:54

I’ve never seen a frightened pigeon. They languidly take off when I shoo them away from my patio. As someone said upstream, they laugh it off.

Did the child chase them, or simply run towards them?

We were in St Ives a few years ago, eating ice cream cones, keeping an eye out for seagulls. One (we are convinced it was cleverly hiding there) suddenly swooped from a rooftop and took a chunk out of my husband’s nose as it went for the ice cream. It didn’t even bother to fly off but sat on a nearby low wall with its meal. It was horrible.

Freya5 Fri 27-Jun-25 09:07:23

V3ra

No I don't think you were wrong not to stop your granddaughter.

Where does it end? Can she not go in the garden if there happens to be a pigeon there?

My terrier chases the pigeons all the time, they sit on the nearby house roof every day and watch him.
I think pigeons are fairly robust creatures emotionally.

She was wrong. Why would you encourage a child to chase after wildlife. Where does it end. We have deer appearing on our local beach, some ill educated idiots chased one, it panicked and died.
Teaching respect towards other creatures surely is the right thing to do. As for pigeons in the garden, I open the door, they fly away, but I don't chase them.

Esmay Fri 27-Jun-25 09:15:24

My children didn't do it.
But I notice that many children do .
I saw a child trying to kick pigeons in the park last month and his parents were amused.

Smileless2012 Fri 27-Jun-25 09:18:25

I've seen that too Esmay angry

keepingquiet Fri 27-Jun-25 09:23:18

You say you 'let' her chase the pigeons? This hints that it was a deliberate thing, maybe knowing your DD doesn't approve?

It seems a very trivial thing to mention, unless it was done also with some deliberation?

I am not sure why you mentioned it at all? I recall once buying my GS some chocolate, knowing my DD wouldn't approve. I realised my GS didn't really want it anyway, and I never did it again.

I think you were wrong to tell her, yes.