Good Morning Saturday 20th September 2025

w1u7

Have you ever thought Cross stitch fan that as Michael lives alone he goes out for the company as well as any little bits and pieces he might need? I love the way he opens up for us every morning.

I appreciate that he might be going out for the company but my question was what did he buy? I was in no way criticising him and I, too, love to read his daily ‘diary’.

Why is it that, quite often when I comment, someone will pop up and query what I have said, or criticise it? I went back through quite a few posts made by different people and this doesn’t seem to happen to them. It is a bit annoying, as if people think I’m stupid.
I asked a poster a question this morning and before he could answer, someone was there asking if I had considered, this, that or the other.
I don’t reply so that I can hurt, criticise or belittle the person who wrote the post I am commenting on, and I don’t appreciate being treated like a thoughtless imbecile. I am entitled to ask questions of a poster and fully accept that they will query it if it offends. I don’t see the need for others to speak for them!
I think I will take a break from commenting as obviously what I say is wrong in one way or another, and I am getting nervous about posting lately. I am sure I don’t say anything that’s unacceptable, but I might say something now, such as ’please get off my back, however ‘kindly’ you mean your comment to be!’

w1u7
When my DH is away, I go to the local shop daily, company, and usually meet someone who is delighted to go to the cafe next door for coffee and chat.
Mick. wonderful how you open up for us daily. Thank you.

Cross stitch. I am just explaining that I do similar for the company. Please don’t be offended. I buy fresh rolls and something like a small quiche as I am often too lazy to cook for one. .

Feelingmyage55

*Cross stitch*. I am just explaining that I do similar for the company. Please don’t be offended. I buy fresh rolls and something like a small quiche as I am often too lazy to cook for one. .

I have no problem with you, Feelingmyage55. What has upset me is that a lot of my comments are picked on by others and it makes me feel stupid. Added to that is the fact that other posters don’t seem to have people picking on what they say, mainly me. That’s why I thought I had better shut up for a while as I am obviously rattling people’s beaks!
Or am I paranoid?

Crossstitchfan - I know how you feel. There are definitely “favourites “ on here and I’m certainly not one of them. I’m usually ignored! I’m invisible!
Take care.

peli

oops, did a typo on the word "selection"

btw, I hope pp'l don't mind me attaching photos - if it's annoying, pls tell me.

I love photos, so carry on as far as I’m concerned!

whywhywhy

Crossstitchfan - I know how you feel. There are definitely “favourites “ on here and I’m certainly not one of them. I’m usually ignored! I’m invisible!
Take care.

Thankfully, Whywhywhy, I don’t think I’m one of those who ignore you!

Crossstitchfan and whywhywhy

I'm sorry you feel overlooked on this recurring thread. Responses vary according to when you post and whether posters read previous comments before contributing. It's most unlikely to be a deliberate attempt to ignore you.

Posters may post early on this thread, then don't have time to go back and read the rest of the posts.
I really don't think you are being deliberately ignored Crossstitchfan.

A number of posters have been on this thread, since Mick started it (I've been on since 2014), so perhaps we may seem to be familiar with each other's lives.
However, we were all newbies once. It is difficult to join an established thread, I found it so, but just kept plodding along.

I don't think for a moment anyone is picking on what you post. Mick very rarely responds, nor engages, as we know from experience.
Perhaps knowing this, that is why another poster responded.

However, I have seen the dynamics change somewhat on this thread and do not wish to see discord creeping in. It has always been a friendly supportive thread, a lifeline for me, especially when I was shielding.

Good morning from The Madrid Capital,

As usual, I went with a lady friend for a café and a "toastada" with olive oil and crushed fresh tomato at our local bar. Then off to get my conditioning treatment, hair washed and blown dry.

Then off to the shops for a few new replacement basics at Zara ..

It appears you live alone Mick? In that case, I’m curious…..you say you ‘do a shop’, but what on earth do you find to buy every day?
Oh dear Crossstitchfan I agree that Mick probably goes out every day for the company, more strength to his elbow.
At my lowest ebb after DH died I found a friendly word from a shop assistant could lift my spirits.
And shopping every day, whether for bread, fresh veg , milk or a cake is what my mother’s generation used to do before the days of weekly supermarket shopping.
Why knock it?

For what it is worth Crossstitchfan I used to post regularly on this friendly thread in the days when it was a simple Good Morning, a snapshot of the weather around the country and a brief word about plans for the day ,but once it morphed into an ever longer litany of messages and responses to more and more Grans, I gave up.
I still read, occasionally I respond, but because I could never guarantee not to miss somebody out, thereby hurting their feelings, I decided it was better not to start.
So nobody is ignoring you but I fear your sentiments echo and vindicate my decision to step back.

I rest my case!!!!!!

I stepped back some time ago for exactly the reason Maw stated.
I then started again just recently but once again am not doing so regularly.
I can’t keep up with everyone , and decided not to try.

Thanks everybody.
Actually, I didn’t say I was ignored, because I’m not. What I did say was that a lot of what I post is picked on and criticised. Sometimes, being ignored would have been preferable!
I was going to take some time out but didn’t see why I should, so I am just going to be more careful what I say, and try not to take it to heart if/when some people have a go at me! There are certain people who are supportive and kind (the people who have answered me now, for example), and they keep me grounded most of the time. Thanks, you know who you are. 💐

RosieandherMaw

^It appears you live alone Mick? In that case, I’m curious…..you say you ‘do a shop’, but what on earth do you find to buy every day?^
Oh dear Crossstitchfan I agree that Mick probably goes out every day for the company, more strength to his elbow.
At my lowest ebb after DH died I found a friendly word from a shop assistant could lift my spirits.
And shopping every day, whether for bread, fresh veg , milk or a cake is what my mother’s generation used to do before the days of weekly supermarket shopping.
Why knock it?

I truly wasn’t knocking it, purely curious as to what he could find to buy every day as he lives alone. But your response does rather show why I commented about people picking on what I say!! 😏

I reiterate what Maw and UTTB have said.

I still post but in the original way described by Maw and feel uncomfortable when I don't mention everyone but am fearful of mentioning anyone specifically.

In the days when Mick suggested starting this thread every morning, i think his plan was that it was very matter of fact but things morph, don't they? But, it isn't necessary for it to morph into asking personal, slightly rude, questions of the OP.

I am quite disappointed and sad at the implied criticism here.
These comments have unsettled me, ( but I am rather sensitive at the moment) , for this thread has been meandering along for years, without discord.

People should post what they like, whether detailed or simple.
No need to read the longer posts, if you don't want to.
I used to post in Soops kitchen at the very beginning, but couldn't keep up with all the news and gave up..
Horses for courses, the GM thread suits me.

As for favourites, the opposite can also apply and on occasions people are obviously, deliberately ignored, which is even worse.

This thread plays an important part of Mick's daily routine and he should be left to post, without being quizzed about his shopping habits.
My mother did exactly the same, even if only to buy a newspaper. She yearned for hunan contact in the lonely life of widowhood.

This has really saddened me, surely it’s down to individual posters what they post each morning?

Why cause so much upset on what is a kind, inclusive and gentle thread ?

GrannyGravy13

This has really saddened me, surely it’s down to individual posters what they post each morning?

Why cause so much upset on what is a kind, inclusive and gentle thread ?

My thoughts exactly. 😪

I came on here this morning and found a lot of criticism aimed at me. All I had done, apparently, was ask an interested question about what Mick bought when he shopped and all of a sudden I was accused of quizzing him and other unpleasant things. I was told, in no uncertain terms that I should leave him alone! What on earth have I done to deserve this?
I am really upset by the people on here who jump on almost every post I write. It is upsetting and unsettling and I don’t see it happening to others. Even people I have previously chatted to and got on with, have had a go at me today.
I am 80 years old, and I am not looking for sympathy, but just wanted to explain that I have cancer and various other quite serious health issues and going on this site helped to keep me going. Not any more. This morning, when I logged on, I realised I had butterflies and was quite scared about what I would find. A ‘kind, inclusive and gentle thread’ it is not! At least, not for me.
If I have upset Mick, I am sorry but it was not my intention to do that just by asking what he buys. An innocent and friendly question which has got many of you in an indignant spin.
I don’t think I can cope with this much more.

My comments were not directed at you personally, Crossstitchgran, but at the general tone of this thread.

Sometimes something we write in print does not come across the way it would sound if, we are speaking face to face with someone. I try to be mindful about that.

What MD said.

Thank you all. I think I am a bit like Marydoll, who feels sensitive today. I’m not my usual chirpy self, that’s for sure!