Dh is driving me mad being always right

IOMGran

Allira

Oh goodness, so much on this thread sounds familiar!

I really understand. In my case if something doesn't work orhas gone missing. It is always 'Well, what have youd done with it?/Where have you put it.
A classic was his keys - "Where have you (or one of the DC when they were living at home) put my keys?" Eventually solved by having a row of hooks in a cupboard, all labelled for everyone's keys.

And then there's the mansplaining, ask a simple question about history, physics, engineering and you get twenty minutes of explanation when all you wanted was a one-sentence answer.

Added to that he is going deaf but wont acknowledge the fact, it’s me mumbling. Oh yes. At last he has a hearing aid but it's useless, apparently.

I have to say everything twice to my husband as he doesn't hear the first time, it's like living with an echo because then he parrots what I just said back to me. I got him to a hearing test last year by arranging for us both to have one, and his hearing was worse than mine, since then it has got a lot worse but he just refuses to go for another test. He finally said he didn't want to wear a hearing aid, so now it has become my problem.

The hearing aid can become another problem, though, IOMGran!

Everything's too loud, it makes squeaking noises, the batteries need changing etc. Then it gets taken out and he forgets where he put it. Or, in fact "What did you do with my hearing aid?" is the latest question since the key problem was solved.

Understand completely how you feel. It’s bloody annoying!

That's a no win situation. I think mine might be the same when he finally concedes and gets it sorted.

If I talk to him from another room he always says I’m talking from 2 doors away, but it doesn’t stop him doing it. I found a gorgeous humorous card that said 95% of married couples spend their time shouting through walls! We both laughed.

Awwwww, I have a sign that is so appropriate:

"Never laugh at your wife's choices, you're one of them"

The problem, is not whether things are on the website or not, but is, of course, DH's respect for your intelligence. You understandably resent his attitude, and that can feel like a Big Problem, but, on a deeper level, those posters who point out that his confidence may have decreased are probably right. I do not think there is anything to be proved by arguing over the specific points, because you are not arguing about the real issue (which, as we all know, is common in marriage!). At some point you might like to introduce this as a general topic with him, asking him why he seems sometimes to have little respect for what you say. Or, better still, not bother - be the wiser person and choose peace! (and a quiet sense of moral superiority! :-)) )

I am trying a new strategy. I am training myself to say “ If you say so.”

Love my DH dearly BUT he is in his happy place with me if I play the 50’s housewife ! I now pick my battles !!!

2Understand

Awwwww, I have a sign that is so appropriate:

"Never laugh at your wife's choices, you're one of them"

Love this!

My OH can definitely be like this. I also think that it is related with some diminishing powers. OH is 80 now and doesn't have the stamina and confidence he once had. Also despite good quality hearing aids he struggles with hearing especially in the right ear.
I pretty much do what everyone else does and I don't react to his tweaking the lioness's tail but from time to time I raise my fearsome head and unsheath one claw to remind him that I'm not to be trifled with.
He's kind with a good heart and can be very patient normally.My superpower is I'm a good speller so he needs me for crosswords.😊😉😄

I have a lovely saying for my husband - ‘If I agree with, then we’ll both be wrong’🤣

ruthiek

Love my DH dearly BUT he is in his happy place with me if I play the 50’s housewife ! I now pick my battles !!!

Aren’t they all!

'Sad but true' I had a Mr Right for a while (quite nasty with it). Then he slowly realised that his mind was not quite what it had been. Now there is a lot more give and take and considering that from time to time he may be 'mistaken' (nobody likes to be plain wrong).

Lots of sad old men about who knows it all, because to they are men and are born superior to woman.
Worse if they are thick and not very knowledgeable.

Even some of the best men harbour a deep rooted misogynist streak.

I don't know how some women stay with them for years on end. Must be like bringing up an arrogant child.

I used to have a fridge magnet that said, When I married Mr Right, I didn’t know his first name was Always!

Lots of sad old men

Why sad?

When you married Mr Right, I bet you didn’t know his first name was Always 😆

My husbands like that too- so frustrating! If you don’t already know it, do read Pam Ayres’ They should have asked my husband” - hilarious.

Although I had no problem I do believe men feel they should be trusted.
Soon after my son married his wife made a comment while in my prescience which my son tried to contradict. Thankfully, she is a positive young lady so contradicted what my son brought out on the same matter.
That was the end of it and since then my son has never contradicted her again in my presence.

Agree with wellbeck

Funny you should say that Cath9 -reminds me when we were first married dh couldn’t bear me to contradict anything he said in front of his parents. Seemed daft to me.

GrannyGravy13

Oh yes, I have a Mr Always Right he wasn’t like it pre-retirement though 🤷‍♀️

I have one too.

He has become over critical too. I have to remind him some times that I have been doing this for 55 years, and I am NOT going to change now.

The worst bit is when he "corrects" me in public.

AGAA4

You do realise that MEN are always right!

🤣 nailed it there.

if there is a lot of love around, have it our with him, tell him what you feel, bedtime or not. Bring it up anytime it happens. Why not? Men arrant entitled even cos they are older to hang on to these nasty little but basically a bit of a bully put downs.

(says someone who lives alone now, and did let it happen for years, and it ended up undermining me totally just cos I tried to avoid conflict.)

YES!!! I’m with you on that one. Mr blooming always right! He has got worse since retirement. If we watch a quiz programme he either shouts an answer out whether it’s right or wrong then talks through the next blooming question. I speak up every time. The programme is ruined but I would hate to sit on a night on my own. Just go into a spare room and scream! It helps.

When you met Mr Right I bet you never imagined he’d turn out to be Mr ALWAYS Right. did you? ?