M0nica
I do not think that tears are a measure of someones emotion. Yes, emotional events can cause them and not crying does not ea you do not feel things.
I cannot remember when I last had a good cry. Possible around 2008. Even when the dearest of dear friends died suddenly 4 years ago. I welled up, but did not cry, but my emotions were in shreds. I went numb with grief.
In fact I suspect I go numb where others cry. Any emergency, health, domestic, family. I am dry eyed calm, numb and dealing with the problem. There is no deep childhood reason why I do not cry, beyond my real irritation with people who make bad situations worse - and that so often involes crying when what is needed is immediate action. I am not of course including those crying through grief, frustration because nothing can be done and the like
I know that one - ie going numb in emergencies.
It's very useful too all round. Imo it means if an emergency crops up suddenly I turn into a human "robot" and my brain just starts reeling out instructions as to what to do and I follow the instructions and then, once things are as sorted as they can be, heave of sigh of relief and the emotions turn on again.
Again - that was partly down to the deliberate bad treatment by that employer. But it happens when other people have a problem too - ie collapse ill in front of me unexpectedly and Robot Brain turns on until it's been dealt with appropriately. eg I've seen someone panic and run when a work colleague keeled over ill unexpectedly - and I just turned into that "robot" and dealt with it until I'd safely seen her in "medical hands" taking over from me. Someone even commented just how calm and collected I'd been and seemed to know what to do - they didnt notice me sitting there feeling shaky once I'd safely passed that colleague over to medical hands to take over from me....
