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Stillness Thu 12-Feb-26 13:19:14

I wasn’t sure whether to post in health but anyway, does anyone find the older they get, the more emotional they are? I find I cry so much more now, than I ever did when I was younger. It can be a film…the news….radio….music…a minor argument….It’s like a sudden wave of sadness engulfing me and then it passes quite quickly. But it does make me feel quite vulnerable.

Chocolatelovinggran Thu 12-Feb-26 13:33:53

I agree, Stillness. My late father called me "Hard Hearted Hannah" (!) but I find that ageing has made me increasingly wobbly.
Maybe we are more aware of what - might - go - wrong than in our innocent youth.

ClicketyClick Thu 12-Feb-26 13:38:45

Me too and can't seem to keep under control very well lately. The other day I was in a social setting and suddenly became quietly upset over nothing in particular. I'm starting to think that mine may be the start of depression.

crazyH Thu 12-Feb-26 13:54:58

Yes - I get sad, too often for my liking. I get anxious too. Old age is scary 😦

Youngerthanspringtime Thu 12-Feb-26 13:57:09

I think I've always been quite an emotional person, but been good at hiding it.
Not so good now at keeping a lid on it but that's ok I think.
It may well be that as we get older we know (as Chocolate
lovinggran said) how easily something can happen which would devastate us.
Clicketyclick, it may be an age thing and part of what we are discussing. However maybe a chat with a qualified person about mental health may help.

keepingquiet Thu 12-Feb-26 14:06:30

Yes, I also tear up at the slightest thing but I think it isn't so much my age as living through such difficult times and feeling so helpless to do anything...

I find even the slightest kindness done to me is enough to set me off!

pably15 Thu 12-Feb-26 15:57:13

I'm the same I cry so easily now, It must be an age thing, getting more sentimental as we get older, I even notice my husband wiping his eyes at Long Lost Family.I don't think it's a bad thing though..

theworriedwell Thu 12-Feb-26 16:04:13

I think I reached a new high when I sobbed at the end of Monsters Inc. crying about a cartoon monster and his friendship with a human toddler surely means Ive reached the limit.

62Granny Thu 12-Feb-26 16:05:26

I have gone the other way, I used to cry/ tear up at the slightest thing, films , adverts, music it would set me off, but the last few years I have had a few set backs in my life and have found I have become less emotional/harder. I think it is that I know if I start it will just open the flood gates. So perhaps it more about shutting that side down is easier.

Fallingstar Thu 12-Feb-26 16:29:40

Have had a tough time this past year or so and often have a bit of a cry in private, will not do this in front of my DH because he is seriously disabled after a stroke and it would make him very upset and confused.
I do feel emotional about other things though and often tear up. However, have been like this for most of my life

GrannyIvy Thu 12-Feb-26 17:11:54

I definitely am more emotional since I have got older I think it is an age thing.

Eloethan Thu 12-Feb-26 17:17:16

Yes, I feel very sad sometimes, and start regretting things I haven't done and feeling guilty for all sorts of things I think I should have done. It is not very helpful or healthy but difficult to throw off.

That part of the sadness is perhaps to be expected in older age but the world seems so violent and cruel now that I expect younger people also feel depressed.

ViceVersa Thu 12-Feb-26 17:19:51

No, I've never been the emotional type and that's not changed. I've only ever cried twice over a film. My daughter reckons I've got a heart of stone.

NotSpaghetti Thu 12-Feb-26 17:28:21

I am a "weeper" - anything and everything!
Always have been. Happy or sad.
I don't think I've changed.

Supernana1 Thu 12-Feb-26 18:23:20

When I was young, I cried at everything. My mother said my tear bags were very near my eyes.

Now I usually tear up at a beautiful piece of music, a really good performance (ice skating at the moment) or a piece of good news. Once I feel the stinging behind my eyelids I have to hide my face from others, in case they think I'm going loopy. Even the accordion man on Facebook can bring on the tears. Oh dear me, what an idiot I am.

Stillness Thu 12-Feb-26 19:50:22

Thank you for the posts. It’s good to know I’m not alone!

WhiteSwan63 Thu 12-Feb-26 20:02:40

I tear up very very easily. I cried last night watching 24 hours in A and E when an old lady with dementia couldn’t understand her husband had died days earlier. And just now reading on Facebook about a boy self harming. Every day I cry for something.

Basgetti Thu 12-Feb-26 22:28:09

Sorry, no, less and less.

Kate1949 Thu 12-Feb-26 23:22:07

I rarely cry. I have cried so much there are no tears left.

Kate1949 Thu 12-Feb-26 23:32:34

Mind you, I cry when I sit in my hair replacement clinic and look at my bald head.

NotSpaghetti Fri 13-Feb-26 03:44:24

Oh Kate!
I do hope you feel some pleasure (if not quiye weeping with joy) when you come out feeling more "yourself" again though...
flowers

grandMattie Fri 13-Feb-26 04:39:07

NotSpaghetti

I am a "weeper" - anything and everything!
Always have been. Happy or sad.
I don't think I've changed.

Me too. My family laugh at me for welling up at the drop of a hat, especially for a kindness.
Since the death of both my younger son and my husband, I’m even “soggier”.

Siptree Sun 15-Feb-26 13:52:24

I seem to be the opposite. I find there is so much false sentimentality around it has made me less so.

Cossy Sun 15-Feb-26 13:56:29

keepingquiet

Yes, I also tear up at the slightest thing but I think it isn't so much my age as living through such difficult times and feeling so helpless to do anything...

I find even the slightest kindness done to me is enough to set me off!

flowersflowers

sharon103 Sun 15-Feb-26 13:59:05

No I don't cry. I keep it all in except when my dad, mum and brother died.