Would you tell her?

No, I wouldn't say anything.

Sorry my post above should read Daphne Selfe not Diana. That was my error not auto correcr.

henetha

Absolutely not say anything. We should all wear just what we want to, regardless of what others think.
I wouldn't wear a mini skirt, but I have truly horrible legs with puffy knees. But I do wear denim, bright clashing colours frequently, lots of things which cause some to need a lie down to recover from.

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I'll wear my sunglasses when I come to visit, henetha 😎

Say nothing.

Say nothing- don't judge. It's entirely up to your friend how she chooses to dress. Her own opinion is all that matters- not yours, or anyone else's.

Forget clothes and value your friend and your friendship.

It wouldn't bother me if someone else forgot their knickers on or has their boobs showing. Why would it? As mentioned above, my friend's boobs are always well and truly out. Her business not mine.

Kate1949

It wouldn't bother me if someone else forgot their knickers on or has their boobs showing. Why would it? As mentioned above, my friend's boobs are always well and truly out. Her business not mine.

It wouldn’t bother me either, was just thinking about how the person who might do this might feel

Say nothing but I wouldn’t go out with her!

I have a woman acquaintance locally who dresses in very "young" clothes though I'm guessing she's at least into her 70's. It isn't so much the short skirts, more bright gathered skirts with multicoloured clashing tops and so on. She actually doesn't look nearly as bad as you'd imagine, and I wouldn't dream of saying anything.

I would agree with previous comments that saying nothing would be the best way. Or, as others have also suggested, compliment your friend when you think she looks good. Maybe, if she wears something you don't think looks good on her, you could say something along the lines of "I tell you what, (insert whatever you have in mind) would go with that and look really good".

Ultimately, if someone likes, and feels comfortable wearing, certain items of clothing, it's really their business alone. But I do understand your concerns as her friend and your dilemma.

As for others commenting, maybe you could show loyalty to your friend by telling those making the critical comments that it's up to her what she wears, and they should either tell her to her face or just keep their remarks to themselves.

Cossy Let's face it, we have no idea who is and isn't wearing knickers!

I would be telling the commenters to mind their own business

is she like Marina in the last of the summer wine lol

I agree with Aveline. If she wants to look silly and bit sad that it up to her. She obviously thinks she looks fab.

I would just leave her to get on with it.

She must not feel the cold too much in the winter..Does she buy thermal versions from Damart!

Bit difficult this one, sounds as if your friend doesn't bother really well best to leave it.

On the subject of long hair, had my cut recently from being long and the compliments I got as to how much younger I looked and how well I looked made me realize that long hair when older is not flattering at all. Still had my own colour but long grey hair is a no-no to me, I personally don't think anything attractive about it at all. But as we all say, each to their own!

I think I would keep quiet, but may suggest that a certain style may suit her better and certainly compliment her when she looks good. I think there are times when we all can make a fashion faux pas and I would hope my friends would suggest an alternative for me.

I would probably say something, just because others are talking behind her back. There is a saying, if you wore it the first time round, it's probably too late to wear it when it gets re-invented.

Maybe just bring the saying up over someone else's clothes, she might just ask "what about me & my mini's?". Then saying that she has good legs but there are outfits you think she looks much better in, might give her pause.

It may offend, but you're doing it for her, unlike some who are talking about her out of earshot & having a giggle.

There was a lady we all used to laugh at when we were young because she wore blusher like the cabbage patch dolls. Perfectly nice and canny old lady but no-one had thought to tell her how bizzare that looked.

I know regarding the lady I know who wears minis and has her boobs out that she categorically would not change the way she dresses if she was told people were commenting or laughing. She loves the way she dresses and so does her husband. I would say leave your friend alone.

Say nothing. Honestly, I agree with Paddyanne some of the remarks have been horrible.

The remark from the OP about friends legs being slim but not very nice stood out to me to be judgemental and catty, but she goes on to make the excuse she does not want her friend to hear what others are saying, yet she is saying the same herself.

I do not wear mini skirts or shorts only because I don't like myself in them. I do though, dress to please myself and have been told that sometimes I have a goth look when dressed in black with my skull earings. I don't care what people think.

A work colleague a year younger than me wore short skirts and looked amazing she had the personality to carry it off.

rafichagran

Say nothing. Honestly, I agree with Paddyanne some of the remarks have been horrible.

The remark from the OP about friends legs being slim but not very nice stood out to me to be judgemental and catty, but she goes on to make the excuse she does not want her friend to hear what others are saying, yet she is saying the same herself.

I do not wear mini skirts or shorts only because I don't like myself in them. I do though, dress to please myself and have been told that sometimes I have a goth look when dressed in black with my skull earings. I don't care what people think.

A work colleague a year younger than me wore short skirts and looked amazing she had the personality to carry it off.

The difference is, she & her friend are anonymous on here.

I wonder what the OP will say about my skinny legs !!!

Keep quiet. At her age she knows how she looks and does not care or likes it. Tell her if you want to loss a friend!

"The difference is, she & her friend are anonymous on here."

Vivaldi does being anonymous change what the OP said, she has the same feelings about her friend as the people she states are talking about her.

Leave the woman alone and say nothing to her.

crazyH

I wonder what the OP will say about my skinny legs !!!

I don’t care about your skinny legs because I don’t know you! I know my friend and I know she would be mortified to know what people are saying.

And rafichagran no not catty, my friend is slim and looks after her fitness by doing lots of sports, as a result she has muscular calves.

Say nothing. It's just your opinion - and people will always comment about people who don't conform - especially women. Yes! purple hats!

Though I might be tempted to buy her a present of some of the fabulous Llame leggings. They are affordable and very colourful, soft and, imo, look great.
PS I am not related to them at all, but have many friends over 60 who love them. Many many colours and designs and feel fab to wear.
PPS. Wish I had slim legs! I expect I get whispered comments about having too fat legs for leggings! Two examples.
llamaleisure.com/products/leggings-for-women-cherry-blossom

llamaleisure.com/products/springtime-blooms-pocket-leggings