Sorry I know it’s 6 months away it’s just me thinking ahead and knowing this year is going to be different with the family dynamics changing 
Bit of background - I’m widowed, we only had one child, my DS. Luckily my sister lives on the same street as me and I have a lot of friends where I live!
For years my DS and his wife have spent Christmas Day apart, with DS coming to me and having Christmas lunch here and DIL going to her parents and doing the same. DS and DIL would then spend Boxing Day together. They both felt there was no need to change things until they started a family of their own and it was a nice arrangement really as I got to enjoy many more Christmas’ with my son than I thought I would have.
This year they are expecting their first baby and so this Christmas will be different, it will be a couple months old by then and they’ve said they would like to have Christmas Day to themselves (though son will probably pop round in the afternoon and let mother and baby have a snooze) and they’ll either see me on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day (And see her parents on the day they don’t see me).
I can’t help feeling jealous and sad. In all fairness they’ve never actually spent a Christmas Day together and that has meant I’ve had my son to myself for a lot longer than I expected so I know I’m being a little selfish, and I know I have my sister who is also alone I could be with but it just feels unfair..but then again my DIL isn’t seeing her parents on Christmas Day either and both sides of family will see the grandbaby either side of Christmas Day. I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel.
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